I would also leave him be. Military also gets mental health support, so he'd know where to turn to if needed. I don't talk about my parents who have passed away. Sometimes I light a candle in private. They were old and that's how it goes, I mean honestly what did you expect? If you lived far away, you had your own lives and were already emotionally separated long time ago. I'd rather talk about my teenagers, their hopes and dreams, life goes on!

Anonymous wrote:Depends on the death and how sudden or unexpected it was. If full life and old age, or a battle with a disease then people had their heart to heart talks and said goodbye many times.

How was the funeral and eulogies? Did people celebrate and make peace with the death?

You haven’t mentioned any of the above in your post, yet they are big drivers of the grieving or processing time, and when it actually started.

DCUM Troll Op leaves lots of holes, involuntarily and voluntarily

Anonymous wrote:We lost my mom about 15 years ago and my dad, sister and I rarely ever talk about it to each other. It was a long, slow, painful loss. It's way too painful to discuss together. It's easier for me to talk about her to other people than to them.

It's only been about 1 year since my mom passed but we talk about her constantly. Probably too much. I try to keep my dad off the topic but he will start going down memory lane and retells the same stories about her over and over again. It would be hard to imagine the situations where it's never mentioned. There's no right or wrong way, just that everyone is different.

Anonymous wrote:Have you asked him? “I can’t believe it’s been 3 months. You’ve been pretty quiet about it- how are you doing?”

No she hasn’t. This a Troll post