Anonymous wrote:Mine have never been late, though my second kid will probably be late once she starts walking to high school (she has a bus to middle).

I can’t imagine not caring about kids being late. Maybe it’s because I’m a teacher, but the kids who come in late miss so much. Not only that they are just not settled into working when it’s time.

I get that some kids have other things going in their lives that are more important to worry about, but otherwise, it seems like a skill that’s important to teach. My second kid has adhd and is seriously time blind, but she also has alarms set so she doesn’t miss her bus…

Honestly, my daughter could go to school alternate days and only go to 2 of her classes on those days, and still do much better than she is now. Except for those two classes, her most productive in-school time is during homeroom (whatever it is called), half of which is usually dedicated to some BS SEL, because she can use that time to teach herself. Her teaching team this year is awful.

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Anonymous wrote:Frequently, for her first period classes. Never for the others. I'm the one that drops her off so am aware, and I don't have a problem with it.

Why don’t you have a problem with it?

The reason she is late is because she stays up late to teach herself the material that should be taught in class, but is not. That’s an extra 4-5 hours a day most days (sometimes longer), which is exhausting. I’m good with her sleeping in a little or being slow to get out of bed and being late a few minutes to a class where she learns nothing.

My freshman has been marked late one as far as I can tell. It was his own fault with no good reason and I warned him that it wasn’t to become a habit. It hasn’t happened since. If it was a regular thing there would be consequences.

I also teach in a high school and for the most part if you’re late it’s your fault. 5 minutes truly is enough time to walk from one end of a building to another in most cases.

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Anonymous wrote:Quite often, by a few minutes. I talk to him about how it’s disrespectful and is building bad habits, but otherwise I don’t see it as a huge problem.
Can it be bad for college admissions? I hope not so I don’t really care.

Oh and he gets lunch detentions so I consider it handled

+1 My kid has had trouble sleeping since he was a toddler; stopped taking naps at 3. He's a night owl; mornings are brutal and more so since high school when he often studies late at night.

I have talked to him about how it would be a disaster if every kid was 5 minutes to class all the time. But other than that, no consequences at home. It's handled by the school with lunch/ball game/prom detention.

Clearing the tardies are done by meeting with a teacher during early office hours or going to study hall; the school says studies show that being late affects academic performance. Clearly this is not an issue with all kids who are late, including mine.

Studies also show that teen biological sleep patterns conflict with early morning start times. But no one seems to care about that.

In college, he will not take a class before 9am.

Op here. Not talking about in the morning. She doesn’t have a bus option so she gets dropped off. I’m talking about during classes, mostly coming back from lunch (they have open lunch). It’s been a pretty consistent issue and the school has never imposed any kind of penalty or even emailed me about it, other than the auto emails saying your kid was marked absent/tardy for all or part of the day.

I wish they would punish her, bc our talking to her about it and taking her phone away doesn’t seem to be doing squat.

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Anonymous wrote:^ if they are driving to school or riding a bike, make them ride the bus. That is about the only main consequence I’d do.

Not all students have a bus option. If my son rode his bike, it would probably take a few hours.

How do they get to school if they don’t take the bus or ride a bike? Are you driving them? They get up and go earlier if you take away their car.

Never. And he’s a senior.

Anonymous wrote:^ if they are driving to school or riding a bike, make them ride the bus. That is about the only main consequence I’d do.

Not all students have a bus option. If my son rode his bike, it would probably take a few hours.

Mine have never been late, though my second kid will probably be late once she starts walking to high school (she has a bus to middle).

I can’t imagine not caring about kids being late. Maybe it’s because I’m a teacher, but the kids who come in late miss so much. Not only that they are just not settled into working when it’s time.

I get that some kids have other things going in their lives that are more important to worry about, but otherwise, it seems like a skill that’s important to teach. My second kid has adhd and is seriously time blind, but she also has alarms set so she doesn’t miss her bus…

Junior- once this year and never previously. He now drives himself to school and there was a car accident that caused him to have to reroute and be a couple minutes late. Tardies when you ride the bus are excused but not if you drive yourself.

^ if they are driving to school or riding a bike, make them ride the bus. That is about the only main consequence I’d do.

Are you constantly checking attendance? I never check to see and just did because you asked.

My kid that recently graduated was always late in the early HS years. We know because some teachers emailed us about that and other issues. No, we did not have consequences at home for tardies to class because that seems silly. We had other things going on and much bigger things to worry about. The school could impose whatever they wanted. I was not there to walk him to class so natural consequences at home would not make him in class by the bell. All of his behavior slowly improved by the end of 10th, big time improved by 11th and he was a different person senior year. Maturity happened.

My current freshman has never been late to a class. They are very different people. I just looked it up on SIS.

Anonymous wrote:Frequently, for her first period classes. Never for the others. I'm the one that drops her off so am aware, and I don't have a problem with it.

Why don’t you have a problem with it?

Frequently, for her first period classes. Never for the others. I'm the one that drops her off so am aware, and I don't have a problem with it.

Sophomore and never