Anonymous
Post 04/18/2026 14:42     Subject: Weddings and health issues
Anonymous wrote:Make sure there are options for everyone. No one drinks soft drinks anymore, and they have no place at a wedding.


Incorrect blanket statement, as most blanket statements are.

Anonymous
Post 04/18/2026 11:55     Subject: Weddings and health issues
Make sure there are options for everyone. No one drinks soft drinks anymore, and they have no place at a wedding.
Anonymous
Post 04/18/2026 11:44     Subject: Weddings and health issues
If I were a caterer, I’d prepare 2-3 desserts without refined sugar, butter, gluten, and seed oils. I’d also offer nut free options for guests with severe allergies to nuts. As someone with health issues, I’ve learned to modify my recipes without missing flavors.

Anonymous
Post 04/16/2026 18:21     Subject: Weddings and health issues
Anonymous wrote:Water, sparking water, salad, and whatever else they can make work. It is one dinner. All will live.


I always love it when wine drinkers say that. Wait until you attend our nonalcoholic wedding reception... oh wait, we paid for bartenders to make nice mocktails.

Can you imagine the gossip if I served all of my dinner party guests glasses of water?
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2026 14:36     Subject: Weddings and health issues
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Adults need to manage their own health and dietary restrictions. Eat beforehand or bring in a small bag of nuts in your purse. It's not that hard.


It’s hard for many people, especially young children, teens, and elderly.


You can RSVP no.
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2026 14:05     Subject: Weddings and health issues
As someone who plans events as part of their career - it's not that difficult. Venues/caterers should be able to provide specific plates for people with extreme allergies (so there is no cross -contamination possible) and for those where it's a restriction but not an actual allergy, they can choose from the options available. If the couple know their guests, they will know if they need to offer a vegetarian option, or a dairy-free, if it's a plated dinner. If it's buffet-style, there should be several items that are vegetarian, dairy-free, etc.
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2026 12:34     Subject: Weddings and health issues
Anonymous wrote:It’s one meal.


+1

I have dietary restrictions myself and if the food at a wedding isn't ideal for me, I really don't consider it the end of the world.

That said most caterers can deal with these issues. It just restricts what you can serve.
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2026 12:33     Subject: Weddings and health issues
Children and elderly? If it's a buffet someone walks through with them holding plate and putting ehat they choose on it. Teeens? They can do this themselves.
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2026 11:06     Subject: Weddings and health issues
Water, sparking water, salad, and whatever else they can make work. It is one dinner. All will live.
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2026 10:28     Subject: Weddings and health issues
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’m curious about how people organize weddings when the bride/groom and a number of family members and guests can’t have carbs, wine, soft drinks, salt, and nuts due to diabetes, severe allergies, heart problems.
weddings or receptions?


Both.


Why would there be food at the wedding itself? Isn’t food usually at the reception afterward?
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2026 10:09     Subject: Weddings and health issues
Anonymous wrote:For ours, we made sure everything served was free of the person's allergens. We had a couple Celiac as well and chose a caterer who was rated high for their ability to cook for large amounts of people while having to keep a separate Celiac friendly cooking area.

Other than that, we had a wide variety of beverages so no one could really complain they couldn't find something. As for diet related things like DM or heart issues....we didn't have pasta as a dish and our entrees included veggies and a carb. People could skip the carbs if they wanted. We included the option to request a special diet because we knew our caterers could accommodate. No one did (other than the allergy/Celiac which we already knew about). My Type I diabetic brother planned for it. My grandma with heart failure enjoyed one bad meal.


You do know your T1 diabetic can eat anything, right? They just have to cover for it

Anonymous
Post 04/16/2026 03:40     Subject: Weddings and health issues
Anonymous wrote:Adults need to manage their own health and dietary restrictions. Eat beforehand or bring in a small bag of nuts in your purse. It's not that hard.


This, and parents do whatever they need to do for their kids in terms of allergies. When our child was young, there was something she couldn't eat that was at nearly every birthday party they attended. I always promised a treat for them afterward, that they could eat when they got home. Easier to bring that to a wedding.

And yes, weddings should always offer a vegetarian option that is not just a pile of pasta
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2026 01:15     Subject: Weddings and health issues
Anonymous wrote:I broke out my Tupperware at the last wedding I went to. There was no combination of food I could eat beyond some garnishes on the cheese board (I risked cross contamination) and a bit of crudités and hummus (that was also risky with folks jamming pita directly in it instead of using the serving spoon).

Essentially unless you have separate plates made for each person it’s pretty difficult. Nice to try though. Ask caterer or rope in a family member to bring a dish for grandparents.


Meaning I brought my own meal. It was a long day and and drive. Couldn’t fake it. Had to eat.
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2026 01:14     Subject: Weddings and health issues
I broke out my Tupperware at the last wedding I went to. There was no combination of food I could eat beyond some garnishes on the cheese board (I risked cross contamination) and a bit of crudités and hummus (that was also risky with folks jamming pita directly in it instead of using the serving spoon).

Essentially unless you have separate plates made for each person it’s pretty difficult. Nice to try though. Ask caterer or rope in a family member to bring a dish for grandparents.
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2026 00:02     Subject: Weddings and health issues
It’s one meal.