Anonymous
Post 04/15/2026 23:12     Subject: Re:Are you attracted to men who are bad fathers?
Given the number of men who dump their kids in favor of the mistress/AP, clearly a lot of women are ok with this type of man.
Anonymous
Post 04/15/2026 22:43     Subject: Are you attracted to men who are bad fathers?
Anonymous wrote:Why or why not?


Why would one attracted to any fathers, good or bad?
Anonymous
Post 04/15/2026 22:12     Subject: Are you attracted to men who are bad fathers?
No. I divorced one already, why would I want another one?

Anonymous
Post 04/15/2026 21:30     Subject: Are you attracted to men who are bad fathers?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No, because I had a good father. I also chose a man who would be an excellent father. My mother, who had a bad father who abandoned his wives and children, broke the cycle by marrying my dad.


Sounds like her father broke the cycle by leaving. Had he stayed or coparented, more of his bad behavior would have been normalized.

So three cheers for when they leave town!


What? No, he had a great father (my great grandfather). His brothers were also great fathers. He was a rotten egg.


But the rotten egg didn’t best thing for everyone: left and abandoned his kids.

So his neglect and bad influence was no longer around.
Anonymous
Post 04/15/2026 21:28     Subject: Are you attracted to men who are bad fathers?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Doesn’t matter once they’re in their 50s++!

Then it’s all about companionship, money, travel, and fun!

Unless they’re super dependent….


No way. Then they just become bad grandpas.

My mom compliments my dad the most on what a good grandpa he's become. He's so involved and present, which he wasn't always able to do when he was working full time as a dad.


Tell me more about working full time as a dad.

What is that job and wha my does it entail?
Anonymous
Post 04/15/2026 21:21     Subject: Re:Are you attracted to men who are bad fathers?
Of course not - - why in the world would I……??! 😠
Anonymous
Post 04/15/2026 21:14     Subject: Are you attracted to men who are bad fathers?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I never could understand the bad boy appeal. It turned me off even when I was 16. Not to say I wanted a boring man though either.

DH jokes that he gets hit on the more than any other time in his whole life when he is driving my minivan with our 3 kids and taking them to the playground.


Lol, same! DH takes our 2 DDs to a weekly pediatric specialist appointment, and apparently the doctor’s waiting room is a hotbed of single/divorced moms.


How on earth would you know the marital status of parents in a pediatric waiting room?
Anonymous
Post 04/15/2026 20:24     Subject: Are you attracted to men who are bad fathers?
What a dumb question.
AI bait?
Anonymous
Post 04/15/2026 19:18     Subject: Are you attracted to men who are bad fathers?
Anonymous wrote:I never could understand the bad boy appeal. It turned me off even when I was 16. Not to say I wanted a boring man though either.

DH jokes that he gets hit on the more than any other time in his whole life when he is driving my minivan with our 3 kids and taking them to the playground.


Lol, same! DH takes our 2 DDs to a weekly pediatric specialist appointment, and apparently the doctor’s waiting room is a hotbed of single/divorced moms.
Anonymous
Post 04/15/2026 18:59     Subject: Are you attracted to men who are bad fathers?
The only way I would date a man with kids is if he never had custody, so I wouldn't have to see them. Not interested in men with children.
Anonymous
Post 04/15/2026 18:57     Subject: Are you attracted to men who are bad fathers?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No, because I had a good father. I also chose a man who would be an excellent father. My mother, who had a bad father who abandoned his wives and children, broke the cycle by marrying my dad.


Sounds like her father broke the cycle by leaving. Had he stayed or coparented, more of his bad behavior would have been normalized.

So three cheers for when they leave town!


What? No, he had a great father (my great grandfather). His brothers were also great fathers. He was a rotten egg.
Anonymous
Post 04/15/2026 18:55     Subject: Are you attracted to men who are bad fathers?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Doesn’t matter once they’re in their 50s++!

Then it’s all about companionship, money, travel, and fun!

Unless they’re super dependent….


No way. Then they just become bad grandpas.

My mom compliments my dad the most on what a good grandpa he's become. He's so involved and present, which he wasn't always able to do when he was working full time as a dad.


Huh?

That sounds insulting to you and to your mom.

Priorities, priorities.


The pp said it doesn’t matter if they’re bad boys once they’re old and past father age. I said, no, it matters because then they can be good grandpas.
Anonymous
Post 04/15/2026 18:34     Subject: Are you attracted to men who are bad fathers?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why would anyone be attracted to someone because they were a bad father?


Chicks dig bad boys. Or at least that's what a lot of lived experience would suggest.


That doesn't contradict the premise of the OP. The bad boys that many women are attracted to are good fathers for their offspring, genetically.

No they aren’t. Their intellect, work ethic, morals and likely health genetics are in the toilet.

Unless you think raising a monster, bully or criminal is genetic and the Darwinian way forward…
Anonymous
Post 04/15/2026 18:28     Subject: Are you attracted to men who are bad fathers?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why would anyone be attracted to someone because they were a bad father?


Chicks dig bad boys. Or at least that's what a lot of lived experience would suggest.


That doesn't contradict the premise of the OP. The bad boys that many women are attracted to are good fathers for their offspring, genetically.
Anonymous
Post 04/15/2026 16:50     Subject: Are you attracted to men who are bad fathers?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Doesn’t matter once they’re in their 50s++!

Then it’s all about companionship, money, travel, and fun!

Unless they’re super dependent….


No way. Then they just become bad grandpas.

My mom compliments my dad the most on what a good grandpa he's become. He's so involved and present, which he wasn't always able to do when he was working full time as a dad.


Huh?

That sounds insulting to you and to your mom.

Priorities, priorities.