Anonymous
Post 04/14/2026 07:55     Subject: Wearing clothes with pineapples- swinger message?
Anonymous wrote:My friend has a house on the Jersey shore and her neighbor there told her not to decorate with pineapple themes unless they are swingers. I had never heard of this.


This just reinforces that it is a white trash thing. White trash on the Jersey shore, white trash on cruises.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2026 07:54     Subject: Wearing clothes with pineapples- swinger message?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:But why pineapples?


Lifestyle’r here-

It’s an old throwback to the Victorian-era, when pineapples were a symbol of “welcome” among the wealthy class. You could see them rendered in wrought iron fencing, stained glass, frescos, floor tiling, etc.



And it’s not really “swingers”, to us as a community, it’s “lifestyle couples”. Swinging is more of a verb, not a noun for us. We are a lifestyle couple, and we swing with other couples/groups.


I think you are a troll, but if you're not, this is stupid. A pineapple is just a pineapple. Get over yourself.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2026 07:52     Subject: Wearing clothes with pineapples- swinger message?
This is just a cruising thing, OP. Wear pineapples, it's fine.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2026 22:58     Subject: Wearing clothes with pineapples- swinger message?
Anonymous wrote:1. Are there enough swingers in your community that being mistaken for one could truly be problematic?

2. Even if someone misinterpreted your dress somehow, is there any reason you couldn't just say "oh no thank you, I just liked the pattern"?

Btw I think it's dumb when subcultures decided to appropriate common symbols as their own. Pineapples have long had a social meaning of warmth and home -- it used to be a common gift at a housewarming party and pineapple imagery in door decor was a way of conveying welcome to guests. If swingers want upside pineapples to mean something different, okay, but you can't expect it to also *stop* meaning what it has always meant.

So I think it would be dumb for you to stop wearing your dress over this.


+1000

I bought a red painters cap well before Trump made red baseball caps a thing, but I’ve been told that wearing it, even if I decorated it with a neutral image, would still be interpreted as a political statement.

I love bright colors and when I was young, I would sometimes wear rainbow striped patterns. Now, I can no longer do so without the expectation that someone will take it as a statement of my politics and/or sexuality.

Interest groups really need to stop coopting fashion. If you want to make a statement, create something original. Whether or not you agree with their politics, at least the marchers with the “pussy hats” came up with something of their own that wouldn’t impact mainstream fashion.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2026 22:40     Subject: Wearing clothes with pineapples- swinger message?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:But why pineapples?


Lifestyle’r here-

It’s an old throwback to the Victorian-era, when pineapples were a symbol of “welcome” among the wealthy class. You could see them rendered in wrought iron fencing, stained glass, frescos, floor tiling, etc.



And it’s not really “swingers”, to us as a community, it’s “lifestyle couples”. Swinging is more of a verb, not a noun for us. We are a lifestyle couple, and we swing with other couples/groups.


I’m the one who asked the question. I knew that pineapples were a symbol of welcome and thought it was still might mean that today. I can’t help but be sort of sad that is also taken on this meaning.


That’s kind of an offensive thing to say.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2026 20:29     Subject: Wearing clothes with pineapples- swinger message?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:But why pineapples?


Lifestyle’r here-

It’s an old throwback to the Victorian-era, when pineapples were a symbol of “welcome” among the wealthy class. You could see them rendered in wrought iron fencing, stained glass, frescos, floor tiling, etc.



And it’s not really “swingers”, to us as a community, it’s “lifestyle couples”. Swinging is more of a verb, not a noun for us. We are a lifestyle couple, and we swing with other couples/groups.


I’m the one who asked the question. I knew that pineapples were a symbol of welcome and thought it was still might mean that today. I can’t help but be sort of sad that is also taken on this meaning.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2026 20:23     Subject: Wearing clothes with pineapples- swinger message?
I’ve never heard of this until this thread. How old are you? It comes to a point where being approached would be a compliment and then a good laugh and story with friends later. What are you worried about? Keep the dress if you like it.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2026 20:07     Subject: Wearing clothes with pineapples- swinger message?
Yup, that's what it's supposed to mean. Yup, you're being ridiculous
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2026 20:05     Subject: Wearing clothes with pineapples- swinger message?
Anonymous wrote:Why would you care?


+1, what is the scenario here? Are you worried someone will approach you because of the pattern on your dress? Unlikely but if they do, you can just decline.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2026 19:59     Subject: Wearing clothes with pineapples- swinger message?
Anonymous wrote:But why pineapples?


Lifestyle’r here-

It’s an old throwback to the Victorian-era, when pineapples were a symbol of “welcome” among the wealthy class. You could see them rendered in wrought iron fencing, stained glass, frescos, floor tiling, etc.



And it’s not really “swingers”, to us as a community, it’s “lifestyle couples”. Swinging is more of a verb, not a noun for us. We are a lifestyle couple, and we swing with other couples/groups.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2026 19:17     Subject: Wearing clothes with pineapples- swinger message?
But why pineapples?
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2026 19:11     Subject: Wearing clothes with pineapples- swinger message?
Anonymous wrote:I thought it was white rocks.


All my neighbors are swingers!
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2026 19:08     Subject: Wearing clothes with pineapples- swinger message?
My friend has a house on the Jersey shore and her neighbor there told her not to decorate with pineapple themes unless they are swingers. I had never heard of this.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2026 18:17     Subject: Wearing clothes with pineapples- swinger message?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:“Swingers” is a 1950s term. Hot mom” is current.

Yeah, there are tattoo signals.


It's "hotwife," not "hot mom."


You know this how, exactly? Provide details in your answer.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2026 11:33     Subject: Wearing clothes with pineapples- swinger message?
Anonymous wrote:“Swingers” is a 1950s term. Hot mom” is current.

Yeah, there are tattoo signals.


It's "hotwife," not "hot mom."