As a perpetually single woman, I will tell you that having been married will ultimately help you. People judge the crap out of never-married people. Even having a not-great marriage gives you legitimacy. So do the single thing for a bit and make sure you don't go into something for the wrong reasons or follow the wrong patterns. But know that the odds are good you will find someone. Nearly all of my divorced friends have. Hang in there.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm glad you're finally out of this marriage you have only been posting about 6 years

How'd you know it was the same poster?

Not PP, but I'm pretty sure it's the same poster as well. I read the OP and thought "This again?" They post the same thing again and again and again.

PP you replied to. Ah, I don't follow these threads closely enough to tell. It just seemed to me that there were a LOT of alcoholic, cheating husbands.

Apparently not THAT many.

I am happy that serial poster is moving on and I wish her the best. I recognize her style too. She uses DCUM as an interactive diary, I guess, and you know what, I have too in difficult moments. It’s ok. Sometimes it does take 6 years to heal. Just keep it moving, OP.

If you are the same poster who's been posting forever: Alanon or Codependents Anonymous. Therapy. Exercise. Gratitude for your health, home, job, whatever shifts focus away from what you don't have. Find hobbies, places, books, experiences, foods, music, feelings that are your preferences and yours alone.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm glad you're finally out of this marriage you have only been posting about 6 years

How'd you know it was the same poster?

Not PP, but I'm pretty sure it's the same poster as well. I read the OP and thought "This again?" They post the same thing again and again and again.

PP you replied to. Ah, I don't follow these threads closely enough to tell. It just seemed to me that there were a LOT of alcoholic, cheating husbands.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm glad you're finally out of this marriage you have only been posting about 6 years

How'd you know it was the same poster?

Not PP, but I'm pretty sure it's the same poster as well. I read the OP and thought "This again?" They post the same thing again and again and again.

And in the exact same manner

Same exact thing. Every freaking time.

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Anonymous wrote:I am sure it was all ex-husband fault that your marriage failed. Two to tango you know?

I'm no marriage expert, but I'm pretty sure there are some cases where it really is completely one person's fault. We have no idea of what happened here. Maybe it was him, maybe her, maybe both.

No.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm glad you're finally out of this marriage you have only been posting about 6 years

How'd you know it was the same poster?

Not PP, but I'm pretty sure it's the same poster as well. I read the OP and thought "This again?" They post the same thing again and again and again.

And in the exact same manner

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Anonymous wrote:I'm glad you're finally out of this marriage you have only been posting about 6 years

How'd you know it was the same poster?

Because they've posted the same thing on here literally hundreds of times.

OMG are you the serial poster? Seriously, you need to move on and not on DCUM.

Anonymous wrote:I am sure it was all ex-husband fault that your marriage failed. Two to tango you know?

I'm no marriage expert, but I'm pretty sure there are some cases where it really is completely one person's fault. We have no idea of what happened here. Maybe it was him, maybe her, maybe both.

Anonymous wrote:I am sure it was all ex-husband fault that your marriage failed. Two to tango you know?

Yeah, if you haven’t done the work, maybe start there?

Anonymous wrote:Definitely therapy and it’s time to branch out socially.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm glad you're finally out of this marriage you have only been posting about 6 years

How'd you know it was the same poster?

Not PP, but I'm pretty sure it's the same poster as well. I read the OP and thought "This again?" They post the same thing again and again and again.

Seriously? Wanting and craving attention like that is so sad. Maybe if she put that energy into her marriage, things might’ve been better.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm glad you're finally out of this marriage you have only been posting about 6 years

How'd you know it was the same poster?

Not PP, but I'm pretty sure it's the same poster as well. I read the OP and thought "This again?" They post the same thing again and again and again.

Anonymous wrote:I'm glad you're finally out of this marriage you have only been posting about 6 years

Seriously. Because there is only one woman in the world in an abusive marriage. No others. Zero, zip, nada. Just one.