Anonymous
03/31/2026 17:53
Subject: Re:Son's Birthday Sleepover
Would it be ok for them to ask if you have any weed, opiods, and alcohol in the house and how it is stored?
I don't have any. Not even alcohol. But most people have some alcohol, and yes, I think it's fine to ask. Ask anything.
Anonymous
03/31/2026 17:47
Subject: Son's Birthday Sleepover
Anonymous wrote:Would it be ok for them to ask if you have any weed, opiods, and alcohol in the house and how it is stored?
It would make more sense if that was asked in addition to guns.
Anonymous
03/31/2026 17:42
Subject: Son's Birthday Sleepover
I wouldn't let my DC come to a home of gun owners
Anonymous
03/31/2026 17:41
Subject: Son's Birthday Sleepover
Would it be ok for them to ask if you have any weed, opiods, and alcohol in the house and how it is stored?
Anonymous
03/31/2026 17:41
Subject: Son's Birthday Sleepover
OP, they deserve as many facts you provide us with:
My DH does own guns (several actually) as he is ex military and grew up hunting. They are all stored unloaded in a safe in the basemnet and separate from any ammunition, with the exception of a handgun he keeps loaded in our bedroom. He has that in biometric small safe in his nightstand.
Whether she approves of your gun ownership or not was not your question
My DH does own guns (several actually) as he is ex military and grew up hunting. They are all stored unloaded in a safe in the basemnet and separate from any ammunition, with the exception of a handgun he keeps loaded in our bedroom. He has that in biometric small safe in his nightstand.
Whether she approves of your gun ownership or not was not your question
Anonymous
03/31/2026 17:40
Subject: Son's Birthday Sleepover
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It is 100 percent her business. Improperly stored firearms + 13 preteen boys overnight = potential for disaster.
Why not just tell her that you do own guns and that they are stored unloaded in a locked safe, separate from ammunition, or in a biometric safe?
+1
I applaud this parent for having the courage to ask you about this important topic. Be prepared for her kid not to come.
I hope she tells all the other parents and none of the kids come.
Hope she tells the other parents what?
Why would you hope no one comes? Why are hoping a young boy has no one show up to his birthday party? What's wrong with you?
Anonymous
03/31/2026 17:40
Subject: Son's Birthday Sleepover
Anonymous wrote:Please please tell them the truth. This is a question I used to ask parents when my kids are younger. We are just trying to keep our kids safe. Gun owners disgust me but lying gun owners are even worse. I think your husband is ashamed.
Gun owners disgust you? There it is.
Anonymous
03/31/2026 17:39
Subject: Son's Birthday Sleepover
I'd ignore the message.
I know some families share the info without being asked but it does seems like virtual signaling if they also don't share the same info about alcohol or drug (prescription, recreational, whatever).
I know some families share the info without being asked but it does seems like virtual signaling if they also don't share the same info about alcohol or drug (prescription, recreational, whatever).
Anonymous
03/31/2026 17:38
Subject: Son's Birthday Sleepover
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It is 100 percent her business. Improperly stored firearms + 13 preteen boys overnight = potential for disaster.
Why not just tell her that you do own guns and that they are stored unloaded in a locked safe, separate from ammunition, or in a biometric safe?
+1
I applaud this parent for having the courage to ask you about this important topic. Be prepared for her kid not to come.
I hope she tells all the other parents and none of the kids come.
Anonymous
03/31/2026 17:38
Subject: Son's Birthday Sleepover
Please please tell them the truth. This is a question I used to ask parents when my kids are younger. We are just trying to keep our kids safe. Gun owners disgust me but lying gun owners are even worse. I think your husband is ashamed.
Anonymous
03/31/2026 17:36
Subject: Son's Birthday Sleepover
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It is 100 percent her business. Improperly stored firearms + 13 preteen boys overnight = potential for disaster.
Why not just tell her that you do own guns and that they are stored unloaded in a locked safe, separate from ammunition, or in a biometric safe?
OP here. DH basically feels like she is calling him an idiot by supposing he'd have loaded guns lying around. Some of them are worth a large some of money and he doesn't want it known that the 'Jones family' has several thousand dollars worth of guns in our house. He noted that she didn't ask about illegal or prescription drugs, dangerous dogs, swimming pool, alcohol or any other factor also known to kill kids. It feels 'virtue signally' at his expense. It's hard to not consider that viewpoint.
He doesn't have to tell her what guns he owns or what they are worth.
And some people DO keep loaded guns where they are accessible. And kids die. IME, responsible gun owners don't feel insulted when someone else is trying to be responsible about firearms. They appreciate that it's not about their ego or their feelings. He's projecting the most negative interpretation on this mother. Maybe he should ask himself why? I mean, you could just say you don't want to tell her (so she'll know you have guns anyway), and then your son's friend won't attend, but I fail to see the big deal.
He doesn't owe her sh*t. What is this lay-prostate-for-any-AWFUL demanding you provide them with X info?
I bet this isn't even relly sbout the safe storage of weapons. It's about her demanding to know as if she has some right to the info.
Anonymous
03/31/2026 17:36
Subject: Son's Birthday Sleepover
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This is a very valid question to ask, and I don't understand why you wouldn't disclose what you said here about how they're stored.
Do you tell the parents of your kid's friends how all of your jewelry is stored and what the value is?
No one has been killed by diamond earrings.
Anonymous
03/31/2026 17:33
Subject: Son's Birthday Sleepover
Anonymous wrote:It is 100 percent her business. Improperly stored firearms + 13 preteen boys overnight = potential for disaster.
Why not just tell her that you do own guns and that they are stored unloaded in a locked safe, separate from ammunition, or in a biometric safe?
+1
I applaud this parent for having the courage to ask you about this important topic. Be prepared for her kid not to come.
Anonymous
03/31/2026 17:33
Subject: Son's Birthday Sleepover
Anonymous wrote:I am not that parent, but it is a question I did ask before my children went to play dates or sleep overs. Too any children goet shot by accident, it's a responsible question to ask.
I would ask you to be honest. Call the parent and say yes there are guns in your home, and they are locked up separately from ammunition that is also locked up and/or in a biometric safe and leave it at that.
I promise this parent cares about her child's safety, not about stealing your spouse's guns. And if you lie, and something does happen, you're life as you know it will be over
Oh, but if he tells the truth and a kid manages to guess the combo to the safe and get the guns and kills himslef then averything is cool?
You people are a joke.
Just rescind the invite.
Anonymous
03/31/2026 17:32
Subject: Son's Birthday Sleepover
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This is a very valid question to ask, and I don't understand why you wouldn't disclose what you said here about how they're stored.
Do you tell the parents of your kid's friends how all of your jewelry is stored and what the value is?
No one is asking how much OP's guns are worth.