No words of advice, just empathy. That sounds so hard. My teenagers will sometimes choose where to go based on which dinner sounds better (we’re really flexible about them going back and forth). I can’t imagine if I felt like my kids were choosing to go to ex’s because he was letting them self-destruct. Hugs

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Anonymous wrote:I agree, if you think your kid is avoiding your house to "avoid accountability," maybe look a little deeper unless your child is dealing with serious issues like addiction.

Not quite addiction, but close to it. Drinking, drugs, no supervision in the house. We're open about it, but do have boundaries. I.e kids must stay the night, 3 drink max. We also don't have the basement with the sliding glass door.

This is fake, no one has a 3 drink max for a minor.

You parent the kid you have, not the one you want. Most parents would be aghast that I was aware of the marijuana and that she smoked several times per day in her room... better that than driving high or riding with someone high.

I parent as a responsible adult. Try it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree, if you think your kid is avoiding your house to "avoid accountability," maybe look a little deeper unless your child is dealing with serious issues like addiction.

Not quite addiction, but close to it. Drinking, drugs, no supervision in the house. We're open about it, but do have boundaries. I.e kids must stay the night, 3 drink max. We also don't have the basement with the sliding glass door.

This is fake, no one has a 3 drink max for a minor.

You parent the kid you have, not the one you want. Most parents would be aghast that I was aware of the marijuana and that she smoked several times per day in her room... better that than driving high or riding with someone high.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree, if you think your kid is avoiding your house to "avoid accountability," maybe look a little deeper unless your child is dealing with serious issues like addiction.

Not quite addiction, but close to it. Drinking, drugs, no supervision in the house. We're open about it, but do have boundaries. I.e kids must stay the night, 3 drink max. We also don't have the basement with the sliding glass door.

This is fake, no one has a 3 drink max for a minor.