BTW if they are toxic will mark you as URA if you dont quit gracefully.

You guys must be old.
Email is plenty and I’d avoid a meeting over zoom or in person (which is ridiculous if 2000 miles away). Nothing that’s said will be recorded and that’s just bad judgment.
Email.

Act like an adult professional. Do it in person first and send a written resignation letter/email.

Call then send email.

I had a dreadful boss. I felt sick every time we came face to face over Zoom. When I quit I really wanted to do it by email because I didn’t want to A) risk her negative reaction or B) be persuaded to stay. DH and everyone I spoke to told me it would be more professional to tell her in a meeting. It didn’t go as badly as I feared. She was actually nice for once and just asked for honest feedback (which I didn’t give because I didn’t want to burn bridges). I’d say just schedule the Zoom.

Yes

When I first read this post, I thought: yes, I totally would resign via email. Things that other folks have posted, saying that it could be a risk to your reputation, give me some pause.

Do you already have another job lined up? If so, I think that you should do whatever makes you feel best, including resigning by email. If not, and if you work in a small industry where gossip goes around repeatedly, you might need to do it via Zoom.

In either case, congrats on getting out of a toxic environment.

Doesn’t seem like any responders here have actually worked for a toxic boss, lol.

To start, I wouldn’t give 2 weeks notice unless you’re prepared to leave immediately.

And I would absolutely give notice by email (and cc their boss) to someone who is awful to interact with. Sure, you may ultimately need to have a conversation, but why give someone like that the opportunity to gaslight or criticize you.

Anonymous wrote:Gentle reader:

Yes, notice is ultimately needed in writing. HR needs to receive it for obvious reasons.

But most grown ups tell their boss directly and then follow up in writing to the boss and HR concurrently.

If you opt to just email your boss, you should expect a phone call. To be clear: that’s the normal response from any boss. It’s not toxic, and you shouldn’t be riddled with anxiety. (PS - Your anxiety is (always) on you. It’s something you should seek to get under control.

+1

If you cant call to resign this reflects poorly on you not them.

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes you need to act like an adult. Call the boss and follow up with an email to him/her and HR.

Yes, unless the boss is objectively unprofessional: If they've cursed you out or threatened to fire you for taking sick leave when you were in the hospital, then email. If you just don't get along or find them incompetent, you still have to call.

Remote work is meant to be the same as in-person work. Would you just email a note if you were there in person? Don’t think so.

Anonymous wrote:OP, rip the bandaid off. Schedule a short meeting with your boss asap and come out with it. Follow up with an email for HR.

This will be for your benefit. If you get it over with all at once, you won’t have to worry about a potential call or other weirdness.

This.

Whatever your boss might have done, it will reflect poorly on you if you don't call him. Then you should follow up with an email to him and HR.

OP, rip the bandaid off. Schedule a short meeting with your boss asap and come out with it. Follow up with an email for HR.

This will be for your benefit. If you get it over with all at once, you won’t have to worry about a potential call or other weirdness.

Do you break up with Girlfriends via text too?