Also, your kids should absolutely have chores. Chores are good for kids (many studies on how chores bolster self esteem). I’m the woowoo poster above. Zero reason you should be doing a tween’s laundry.

Just sending you love. The time period after a divorce is incredibly hard for reasons that go way beyond time/logistics. Try to find some podcasts that you feel are uplifting to shift your energy. I think focusing on shifting your energy will yield more results than anything (and if you met me IRL you would think I was a go getter not a woowoo). I have been in your shoes and have an amazing life now - but there was a very tough period.

I have younger kids, but have them help with clean up. They can put away dishes, load dishwasher, help empty trash. They should be keeping their own room clean and putting away their laundry. At their ages, they can do their own laundry.

As for de-cluttering after a large accumulation, take it one room at a time so you have a sense of accomplishment and can visually see the progress. It helps to keep motivated. Also, set a timer and say to yourself that you are only going to de-clutter for 30 minutes. Oftentimes, once you get started, you keep going. Good luck!