Anonymous wrote:Your daughter sounds more mature than you.

Do you have some weird crush on this boy or something?

Yeah, I have the same question.

Although sweet this boy seems overly needy .

It’s sound like she is spending time with him , just not ALL her free time and not at his beck and call.

She has other friends she want to also spend time with before she heads to college and it sounds like she is balancing that in a very mature way.

I mean after spending all day morning with the guy and then going to a party with her friends. And he tried to guilt her about that????!

Maybe he wanted to poke her and she wasn’t interested.

Stay in your lane, helicopter mom.

If she was the one in love and he was dumping her to play the field and to find someone new - she would be devastated too.

Teen love is a hard one.

Who he is at 16 with his first girlfriend (who is a year older!), will most likely not be who he’ll be when he is 26, 36, 46, 56, 66, or 76.

My 17 yo daughter broke up with her boyfriend at the end of January. I felt a little sad at the time because we liked her boyfriend. However, she found him needy and said he would pick fights and keep her up late fighting via text message on school nights. The relationship was no longer satisfying for her, so she broke up with him. I think she thought they would stay together until graduation and go their separate ways for college. I think it’s normal to feel a little loss as a parent, but try to keep it to yourself to help your child move forward.

This is part of life. He may feel heartbroken and hopefully he has a good support system.

I don't think he is a jealous kid - probably can just sense she is pulling away, doing a lot more without him, not seeing him in the future, and he is trying to hold on to something that he can see slipping away. He is a 16-17 year old in love - completely normal.

What she is doing is also normal. They are young and this is when you explore and figure out who you are and meet new people.

She should be kind and not start bad mouthing him or turn on him. He may try to get her back or have a hard time letting go at first. The first love and first heartbreak is a brutal one.

And also OP it’s weird you’re sad in this situation. I could see being sad for your daughter if she was sad bc she got dumped. But, why be sad when she’s steering her own life and she’s happy about it?

She’s right to take time for herself. Best just to do it now before he gets even more invested as it seems he’s already overly invested. He’ll be fine and he’s better off, he’ll have time to find a new gf for senior year.

Literally does not matter that he’s a good guy (which I’m questioning given the apparent jealousy) because it’s the WRONG time for your DD.

Anonymous wrote:If he’s mad she went to a party with her friends without him, he’s not the best egg you think he is. That’s kind of a red flag.

He might just be immature like most teens but your daughter really has her head on straight. It seems like you might have some “I need a man” thinking to unpack for yourself.

This. Especially after she had hung out with him all day!

He might be a good egg, but she doesn't want an egg right now. When she is ready to find a new good egg, she'll know what that looks like because she's had one before.

Good for her for prioritizing friendships, and knowing what she wants!

PP has it right. I loved my DD's HS boyfriend too. They broke up when they both left for college. Tell yourself, it's great that she has set the bar high for the quality of guy she wants to be with. That's it.

OP, of course! Of course we have felt the same way! Isn't it good, though, that a nice kid like your daughter chose to a nice kid like this young man. She will (generally) continue with good choices, he will too, and this is what you want.

Now is the time to embrace, "whatever will be will be."

This is so weird. First of all, Jealous Jerry isn’t that great. Second, it will be great for your daughter to go to college and be able to invest her energy there rather than pine away and come home every other weekend to see the younger guy.

Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind.

There's always that chance they'll end up together sometime later. Stuff like that happens. But good for her for enjoying her senior spring.