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Anonymous wrote:How often does he travel? Every month? Is he taking advantage of his sniffles? Is he still working thru the man cold?

OP - he travels every month or so. At the minimum every quarter. I try and have empathy but its hard because stuff still needs to get done and then I have to do it all. I power through when I have a migraine or any sickness that isn't completely debilitating. Its what parents do when they have young kids who can't function on their own.

How old are your kids and what exactly is it that you need to do when he’s sick that he’s not helping with?

Anonymous wrote:DH gets sick after he travels for work - seems to be pretty consistent. He flies out somewhere, works and stays up too late (especially when changing time zones) and then comes home and is sick.

Sometimes it’s just a minor cold and he can power through. This time though I think it’s the flu. I feel bad he is sick but I am also burned out from him being gone and now zero help at home while I hold down everything with the kids and home. He went to bed last night at 7pm and is still asleep.

I have only been sick one time in the 12 years of parenting enough to actually sleep and not take care of the kids.

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Anonymous wrote:How often does he travel? Every month? Is he taking advantage of his sniffles? Is he still working thru the man cold?

OP - he travels every month or so. At the minimum every quarter. I try and have empathy but its hard because stuff still needs to get done and then I have to do it all. I power through when I have a migraine or any sickness that isn't completely debilitating. Its what parents do when they have young kids who can't function on their own.

Anonymous wrote:I feel you OP. My DH constantly complains of one ailment or another. He actually does a lot around the house and with DC and powers through (he knows I'll be unhappy if he doesn't do his share in general) but the constant sighing about how tired he is and how he has some random symptom gets exhausting and stressful for me. Yes, he has been to a doctor (after literally years of me begging him to), no issues there.

Anonymous wrote:Op - the problem is when he travels he has to do day conferences/meetings and then spends the rest of the evening trying to get his actual work done. Of course going out to eat and drinking doesn’t help but he isn’t out boozing all night.

When he is on the west coast he is waking up at east coast hours and going to bed on west coast hours. So getting way less sleep.

He definitely washes his hands enough. He is a germaphobe.

Anonymous wrote:He's not sick all these times. He's tired, jet lagged, hungove, and dehydrated, and hiding from home responsibilities.

Anonymous wrote:He's not washing his hands or using hand sanitizer and touching all kinds of germy crap at the airport and hotels and then eating. He's nasty.

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Anonymous wrote:Op - the problem is when he travels he has to do day conferences/meetings and then spends the rest of the evening trying to get his actual work done. Of course going out to eat and drinking doesn’t help but he isn’t out boozing all night.

When he is on the west coast he is waking up at east coast hours and going to bed on west coast hours. So getting way less sleep.

He definitely washes his hands enough. He is a germaphobe.

Sounds like he needs better coverage at the office when he travels. Is this a small company or not team projects?

Also, it all conferences add value to you not gin up new business. Be judicious about conference travel. I say no thanks to 99% of it. At most I rotate around the 3-4 I get the most value out of, if it even works for my work schedule.

Op - he is a lawyer. He goes for business development and to network. Then after he is done with that he has to do his actual work (briefs, meetings, legal writing crap). Lawyers need to gin up their own business and do all the work too. It’s a stupid model.

Anonymous wrote:What do YOU do?

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Anonymous wrote:Op - the problem is when he travels he has to do day conferences/meetings and then spends the rest of the evening trying to get his actual work done. Of course going out to eat and drinking doesn’t help but he isn’t out boozing all night.

When he is on the west coast he is waking up at east coast hours and going to bed on west coast hours. So getting way less sleep.

He definitely washes his hands enough. He is a germaphobe.

Sounds like he needs better coverage at the office when he travels. Is this a small company or not team projects?

Also, it all conferences add value to you not gin up new business. Be judicious about conference travel. I say no thanks to 99% of it. At most I rotate around the 3-4 I get the most value out of, if it even works for my work schedule.

Anonymous wrote:Op - the problem is when he travels he has to do day conferences/meetings and then spends the rest of the evening trying to get his actual work done. Of course going out to eat and drinking doesn’t help but he isn’t out boozing all night.

When he is on the west coast he is waking up at east coast hours and going to bed on west coast hours. So getting way less sleep.

He definitely washes his hands enough. He is a germaphobe.