Anonymous
03/16/2026 14:22
Subject: Irritability phase
Anonymous wrote:Separate vacations.
She goes to Jamaica and he goes to Thailand?
Anonymous
03/16/2026 14:20
Subject: Irritability phase
Anonymous wrote:Currently spouse and I are in a phase where we both just seem to be generally annoyed by the other. We are both easily irritated by the other and bicker. It just isn't enjoyable. We have talked about it but neither of us really know why and nothing major has happened or changed. We have tried to hit the reset button but then it feels like we are being inauthentically polite and within a couple days it falls back into annoyed, irritable, and frustrated. We both have some stressors currently in our lives but we have had stress before and it hasn't fallen into this pattern. It just feels like we are pulling away from each other.
Anyone else go thought this kind of phase and find a way through this?
How often are you having sex?
My spouse and I get like this when we haven’t had sex in a while. Its like our connection runs out and we’re only stressed out coworkers who are bound together. Once we have sex there’s a near immediate change for both of us that lasts a number of days. Not sure if this is your thing but sex 1-2 times a week changes the way we interact entirely. Its like “Oh yeah, we also love each other and we’re best friends.”
Anonymous
03/16/2026 10:48
Subject: Irritability phase
sex helps in my case a lot. Anytime you are irritated, you need to have sex and it goes away.
Anonymous
03/12/2026 17:09
Subject: Irritability phase
Anonymous wrote:Get out of the house. Most of my irritations with DH are house-related - tv on high volume, dirty dishes, laundry, etc. it’s been an especially long winter with lots of time indoors, so we are high on irritability scale right now, but traveling, or at least spending the day out of the house every weekend helps us reset. And then of course, more s*x.
I relate to this. Earlier today my DH was washing the dishes and I was working in living room which is open to the kitchen and *the way he was washing the dishes* was annoying the crap out of me.
I'm a rational person and not stupid enough to get openly annoyed with my spouse for doing chores, so I moved to another room to work and laughed at myself for being annoyed by something so dumb.
Sometimes you have to recognize that the problem is not the other person but just how you are processing their behavior.
Anonymous
03/12/2026 17:00
Subject: Irritability phase
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Be unconditionally kind to him and experience the difference.
I assume you'd give the same advice to him, right?
DP. Assuming he was here asking for advice. Yes. What would you even ask?
Anonymous
03/12/2026 16:28
Subject: Irritability phase
Go on a trip together
Get drunk together
Do something fun together
Do something physical together (i.e. start running together, hit the gym together (to do a class, not work out independently), play tennis together, even go for a brisk walk together)
It's not a cure all and it won't make the stressors go away but maybe it will help
Get drunk together
Do something fun together
Do something physical together (i.e. start running together, hit the gym together (to do a class, not work out independently), play tennis together, even go for a brisk walk together)
It's not a cure all and it won't make the stressors go away but maybe it will help
Anonymous
03/11/2026 09:03
Subject: Irritability phase
Anonymous wrote:Be unconditionally kind to him and experience the difference.
I assume you'd give the same advice to him, right?
Anonymous
03/11/2026 09:02
Subject: Re:Irritability phase
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don't know, but I might have to seek a divorce because of the way my husband chews.
https://youtube.com/shorts/Pmh0vlkrCIY?si=2Kd66FeFZ2kyLdcr
The Cape Cod sweatshirt in Pink 🤣
I know! 🤣
Totally nailed it w that one 😆😆
Anonymous
03/11/2026 08:17
Subject: Re:Irritability phase
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don't know, but I might have to seek a divorce because of the way my husband chews.
https://youtube.com/shorts/Pmh0vlkrCIY?si=2Kd66FeFZ2kyLdcr
The Cape Cod sweatshirt in Pink 🤣
I know! 🤣
Anonymous
03/10/2026 20:12
Subject: Irritability phase
Get out of the house. Most of my irritations with DH are house-related - tv on high volume, dirty dishes, laundry, etc. it’s been an especially long winter with lots of time indoors, so we are high on irritability scale right now, but traveling, or at least spending the day out of the house every weekend helps us reset. And then of course, more s*x.
Anonymous
03/10/2026 20:05
Subject: Irritability phase
Separate vacations.