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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The day my son got deferred from his dream school (which we correctly interpreted as a rejection), he was also admitted to several targets. We were all disappointed for about 15 minutes... and then we were fine with it. I suppose it depends on your particular mental make-up.

🙌 for taking someone’s painfully honest post, boasting about your child and tearing down OP’s kid. Go, you!!

It's disgusting to see someone flexing their "mental make-up" in this thread.

Yes. I am the 🙌 poster. OP and her kid have a reason to feel upset, as we all do when life knocks us down. It doesn’t mean this family is incapable of dealing with disappointment nor does it mean anyone else is mentally healthier.

Gross.

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Anonymous wrote:The day my son got deferred from his dream school (which we correctly interpreted as a rejection), he was also admitted to several targets. We were all disappointed for about 15 minutes... and then we were fine with it. I suppose it depends on your particular mental make-up.

🙌 for taking someone’s painfully honest post, boasting about your child and tearing down OP’s kid. Go, you!!

It's disgusting to see someone flexing their "mental make-up" in this thread.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP. Last year Duke accepted 10% of ED deferrals. That's higher than their RD admit rate, but still my deferred DC is not optimistic. We'll know in 2-3 weeks. Trying to move on before then has been hard for them.

It's hard. The percentage is high compared to the overall RD rate, but the less-strong applicants from ED have already been filtered out, so it's 10% of a relatively strong group. Good luck.

You don't mention the stronger ED applicants also have been removed (accepted).

That is why PP said relatively strong. The accepted ED kids are not competing with the deferred ones for a spot, it is irrelevant.

The deferred kids are not competing with the deferred kids. They are re-evaluated in the RD pool, i.e., competing with everyone in the RD. Whether or not the deferral pool comprises "relatively strong" from ED is totally irrelevant. Irrelevant.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP. Last year Duke accepted 10% of ED deferrals. That's higher than their RD admit rate, but still my deferred DC is not optimistic. We'll know in 2-3 weeks. Trying to move on before then has been hard for them.

It's hard. The percentage is high compared to the overall RD rate, but the less-strong applicants from ED have already been filtered out, so it's 10% of a relatively strong group. Good luck.

You don't mention the stronger ED applicants also have been removed (accepted).

That is why PP said relatively strong. The accepted ED kids are not competing with the deferred ones for a spot, it is irrelevant.

Anonymous wrote:The day my son got deferred from his dream school (which we correctly interpreted as a rejection), he was also admitted to several targets. We were all disappointed for about 15 minutes... and then we were fine with it. I suppose it depends on your particular mental make-up.

🙌 for taking someone’s painfully honest post, boasting about your child and tearing down OP’s kid. Go, you!!

My son didn't get into his number one school. It was a reach. His brother goes there. We think he wanted to go to school with his brother. Did get into our main flagship. Similarly ranked to the school that his brother goes to. We told him that other kids wanted to go there but didn't get in and he is very fortunate. Doesn't really help. We know that he will be fine.

What really is making it tough is so few of his friends have made a decision yet. We are paying the deposit tomorrow. My wife and I, along with his brother, are super excited for him. He is coming around.

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Anonymous wrote:NP. Last year Duke accepted 10% of ED deferrals. That's higher than their RD admit rate, but still my deferred DC is not optimistic. We'll know in 2-3 weeks. Trying to move on before then has been hard for them.

It's hard. The percentage is high compared to the overall RD rate, but the less-strong applicants from ED have already been filtered out, so it's 10% of a relatively strong group. Good luck.

You don't mention the stronger ED applicants also have been removed (accepted).

Anonymous wrote:NP. Last year Duke accepted 10% of ED deferrals. That's higher than their RD admit rate, but still my deferred DC is not optimistic. We'll know in 2-3 weeks. Trying to move on before then has been hard for them.

It's hard. The percentage is high compared to the overall RD rate, but the less-strong applicants from ED have already been filtered out, so it's 10% of a relatively strong group. Good luck.

Anonymous wrote:But I just feel incredibly sad since the top school of my DC said deferred. We've already followed with pertinent steps, and are waiting a decision. Also have other options. I know there are worse problems in the world and should consider myself lucky that this is our problem. Still, can't get out of this negative spiral. Feel totally bummed. Yes, maybe I'm also a snowflake.

It works out! Top of the class top everything but no hooks not urm or FGLI, deferred Harvard then WL, yet got into three T10/ivy in RD and three T11-20/TopLAC privates plus many other lower ranked ones

Anonymous wrote:It’s good to have some deferrals and rejections. Life is full of minor disappointments. Also without setbacks your kid will start to think they should have aimed higher, and they’ll get messed up about that.

I appreciated the deferrals and rejections too. Be grateful for them.

It’s good to have some deferrals and rejections. Life is full of minor disappointments. Also without setbacks your kid will start to think they should have aimed higher, and they’ll get messed up about that.

Anonymous wrote:My kid was irritated at being deferred (ultimately waitlisted) at their top choice. They put it on the shelf and focused on the two target admits they had in hand at around the same time. Having an admit in hand can do a lot to take the sting out of a deferral.

There is a special kind of cruelty to get deferred followed by WL. Talk about emotionally dragging it out for a kid.

Anonymous wrote:NP. Last year Duke accepted 10% of ED deferrals. That's higher than their RD admit rate, but still my deferred DC is not optimistic. We'll know in 2-3 weeks. Trying to move on before then has been hard for them.

Same for my DC, who is very anxious that she will not get into Duke. I am trying really hard to make her love the schools she already has.

Totally normal. A few months from now, all will be forgotten and you and your DC will be focusing on college move in!

NP. Last year Duke accepted 10% of ED deferrals. That's higher than their RD admit rate, but still my deferred DC is not optimistic. We'll know in 2-3 weeks. Trying to move on before then has been hard for them.