Anonymous wrote:Also a female who enjoys looking good just for me. Do not want to be a balding, whiskered crone. But please, go ahead and make me look even more attractive 🥰

Honestly, I'd rather you get the male attention than me. That's a win win at this point.

It's disturbing how much of our girlhood was dominated by pedophile retailers marketing to us to make us "sexy." I've always been disturbed by the bare vagina trend and thankfully never bought into that.

Anonymous wrote:Bikini wax is 100% related to this.

No, I do this because I don't want hairs picking out of my swimsuit. I like being clean and fresh. But you do you.

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Anonymous wrote:For the people who say they are doing it for themselves, ask yourself why would you do that for yourself. You presumably don’t spend all day looking in a mirror. It’s also not instinctive to alter your appearance unless looking for a mate biologically speaking. I used to say this to myself as well, so I get it, but the more I’ve aged, I realize it’s just an excuse. You are totally doing it for others to gain quiet approval. I still dye my hair but at least I’ll be honest with myself, I’m doing it so people dont think I’m old.

I'm doing it to keep my job.
Feel like tackling that elephant in the room?

Imagine if more women stood strong rather than giving in? What would that look like? Or do you just want to blame the system without recognizing your part?

Anonymous wrote:For the people who say they are doing it for themselves, ask yourself why would you do that for yourself. You presumably don’t spend all day looking in a mirror. It’s also not instinctive to alter your appearance unless looking for a mate biologically speaking. I used to say this to myself as well, so I get it, but the more I’ve aged, I realize it’s just an excuse. You are totally doing it for others to gain quiet approval. I still dye my hair but at least I’ll be honest with myself, I’m doing it so people dont think I’m old.

I'm doing it to keep my job.
Feel like tackling that elephant in the room?

Anonymous wrote:"Are more women finally making the connection between the beauty industries emphasis on anti-aging products and the pedophilic nature of patriarchy? has it finally hit you that your obsession with not looking "old" caters to the predatory male gaze?"

Agree or disagree?

Agree. Patriarchy, rape culture, pedophile culture. It's the world we live in and informs everything. Religion, politics, media, advertising. And it's almost impossible to grasp the extent. Naming it is a start. Workplace sexual harassment and date rape were concepts that didn't exist 50 years ago. Once we named it we could start to fight back.

The beauty industry encourages eating disorders and body modification. I support individuals expressing themselves however they choose. It's impossible for me to judge how much of what we do is truly an individual decision, and not due to social conditioning.

Anonymous wrote:Anti aging is about looking 25, not 17.

This. Plus at 48 no matter what I do, I will never ever look even 30 much less like a child.

So dumb. I really hate when other women create these dumb posts to tell us what we should be doing with our bodies. Go gray, never shave, be flabby. WHO CARES. I'll do whatever I damn well please with my body. I dont have to justify it to anyone.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh please. My botox just kicked in and I can finally look at myself without cringing. It's for me. Same with bikini wax. All for me. Stop acting like we don't have agency over what we actually like on our own bodies.

I don't like crop tops like the younger girls wear so I don't wear them. I don't like long hair barrel curls so I don't do those.

It’s all for you because you learned to hate the way you look naturally. Where did you learn it?

This is the dumbest post in a while. I get a Brazilian because I don't like that sweat and pee get trapped in the hair and produce the smell. I was single for 5 years and still got Brazilians. It's not even about the look.

Gross. Take a shower.

Do you not understand that sweat and pee get trapped in the hair? That taking a shower and cleaning myself is much easier when I dont have a bush? I dont give a shit what you do with your body and I suggest you stop caring about what I do.

Anonymous wrote:For the people who say they are doing it for themselves, ask yourself why would you do that for yourself. You presumably don’t spend all day looking in a mirror. It’s also not instinctive to alter your appearance unless looking for a mate biologically speaking. I used to say this to myself as well, so I get it, but the more I’ve aged, I realize it’s just an excuse. You are totally doing it for others to gain quiet approval. I still dye my hair but at least I’ll be honest with myself, I’m doing it so people dont think I’m old.

WHO CARES why we are doing it? There are billions of women in this world and a billion reasons we choose to look the way we do.

Anti aging is about looking 25, not 17.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh please. My botox just kicked in and I can finally look at myself without cringing. It's for me. Same with bikini wax. All for me. Stop acting like we don't have agency over what we actually like on our own bodies.

I don't like crop tops like the younger girls wear so I don't wear them. I don't like long hair barrel curls so I don't do those.

It’s all for you because you learned to hate the way you look naturally. Where did you learn it?

This is the dumbest post in a while. I get a Brazilian because I don't like that sweat and pee get trapped in the hair and produce the smell. I was single for 5 years and still got Brazilians. It's not even about the look.

Gross. Take a shower.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh please. My botox just kicked in and I can finally look at myself without cringing. It's for me. Same with bikini wax. All for me. Stop acting like we don't have agency over what we actually like on our own bodies.

I don't like crop tops like the younger girls wear so I don't wear them. I don't like long hair barrel curls so I don't do those.

It’s all for you because you learned to hate the way you look naturally. Where did you learn it?

This is the dumbest post in a while. I get a Brazilian because I don't like that sweat and pee get trapped in the hair and produce the smell. I was single for 5 years and still got Brazilians. It's not even about the look.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh please. My botox just kicked in and I can finally look at myself without cringing. It's for me. Same with bikini wax. All for me. Stop acting like we don't have agency over what we actually like on our own bodies.

I don't like crop tops like the younger girls wear so I don't wear them. I don't like long hair barrel curls so I don't do those.

You have agency, but you were also trained and raised in a patriarchal society.

The patriarchy has been so success that we get women to exploit ourselves and we say it’s empowerment or for ourselves.

Anonymous wrote:For the people who say they are doing it for themselves, ask yourself why would you do that for yourself. You presumably don’t spend all day looking in a mirror. It’s also not instinctive to alter your appearance unless looking for a mate biologically speaking. I used to say this to myself as well, so I get it, but the more I’ve aged, I realize it’s just an excuse. You are totally doing it for others to gain quiet approval. I still dye my hair but at least I’ll be honest with myself, I’m doing it so people dont think I’m old.

+1 when I don't care if people think I look old, I don't dye my hair. But, when I'm going somewhere and don't want people to think I look old, I dye it.

For the people who say they are doing it for themselves, ask yourself why would you do that for yourself. You presumably don’t spend all day looking in a mirror. It’s also not instinctive to alter your appearance unless looking for a mate biologically speaking. I used to say this to myself as well, so I get it, but the more I’ve aged, I realize it’s just an excuse. You are totally doing it for others to gain quiet approval. I still dye my hair but at least I’ll be honest with myself, I’m doing it so people dont think I’m old.

The botox part I get, hough I (55 yrs old) have never had botox. Botox doesn't make you look prepubescent. The waxing everything off is weird.

I also have looked young most of my life. I'm 5', flat chested (though I did have a nice rear end). When I got married at 33, my female boss said I looked at 18 at my wedding. When I had to go into my old HS at 24, a teacher asked why I wasn't in class. I hated looking so young, but apparently, some old men like it because I got hit on by old dudes when I was at a work function that had mostly old guys.