Anonymous
Post 03/09/2026 17:37     Subject: Bull-dog trial lawyers in MD
OP again. I was not an absentee father but always present in my kids life. picking up and dropping kids, staying up during nights but she didn't. I also am coach of my son's basketball team and always take care of their logistics. I am also the main contact of all the kids school and pre-school activities. This is on top of me being very busy and also covering all of the financial support of the family. The most unreasonable request she has is to not give me any time with kids after our divorce and asking to keep everything in divorce and for me to cover all the nannies request and other expenses when she don't want to work in the future. She has been a very overbearing and controlling mother and kids are stressed and I feel for them.
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2026 16:30     Subject: Bull-dog trial lawyers in MD
Anonymous wrote:Op here again.

I am willing to give her 1/2 of everything but she is being unreasonable and have threatened trial several times. Not sure why she is doing that or would get out of it but she is taking this to trial then I should have a good lawyer to begin with and that's why asking for help.


Let her go to trial.
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2026 16:29     Subject: Bull-dog trial lawyers in MD
Anonymous wrote:Op here. We have been married for about 8 years. No cheating from my side and I don't think it is at her end either. Marriage has fall apart; I have spent a decent time building these start-ups and she is getting very demanding and controlling and still wants everything on top of that such as 3 different nannies, a cook and a lots of other help. We haven't had sex for more than 6+ months and she stays very bitter and ready to start the arguments. I am just fed-up and want out and would treat her fairly but she is very contentious and giving threats of taking me to trial unless I agree on every small issue or stay married. I don't want to be bullied like this and have thought about this step very carefully. We also had couples counseling and instead of doing repair of the existing damage, she is just focused on my faults.


One nanny help with the kids.
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2026 16:28     Subject: Bull-dog trial lawyers in MD
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:“Bulldog” lawyers are the worst. They make arguments where none need to be had just to increase their fees or inflict pain on others or show off how smart they think you are.

You want a lawyer that knows how to get a good deal and be a closer. If you’re gojng yo trial on a divorce, you’ve already lost.


Plus they are quick with kickback to their court system buddies:
$75k court ordered psych study
$50k custody study by social worker
$50k court ordered guardian ad litim for child social worker

And so on.

You seem high conflict OP, enjoy your 5 yr long litigious $500k divorce.

Only 5% of divorces need court time, but you seem to fit the bill.


How do you think OP is litigious? He is just asking for advice and if other side is ready to take everything to trial then you should be prepared as well. Are you a woman who is just blaming OP? His wife could be an issue here but who cares if either of them wants a divorce.

Everyone provided opinion here but no one mentioned name of a lawyer as OP asked for.


Read the subject line Pp.


OP is asking for a bulldog atty, not a strategic one, not an intelligent one, not a mediator specialist one. A bulldog. A litigious one.
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2026 16:25     Subject: Bull-dog trial lawyers in MD
Anonymous wrote:Op here again.

I am willing to give her 1/2 of everything but she is being unreasonable and have threatened trial several times. Not sure why she is doing that or would get out of it but she is taking this to trial then I should have a good lawyer to begin with and that's why asking for help.


What exactly is she being unreasonable about OP?
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2026 16:25     Subject: Bull-dog trial lawyers in MD
Not really. It will get valued at the monetization event. No one will accept some lowball valuation with huge illiquidity discounts and minority ownership discounts, and then not clawback value at time of sale or secondary or ipo.

You may also be forced to put your and her share into irrevocable trusts for the two very young children. That protects them from both of you. They suffered and sacrificed too from an absentee father overly focused on work. So much that it busted the marriage.

So start putting your kids first Op. not your job, not screwing over your ex, not dating, not your money. Your kids.
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2026 16:21     Subject: Bull-dog trial lawyers in MD
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:“Bulldog” lawyers are the worst. They make arguments where none need to be had just to increase their fees or inflict pain on others or show off how smart they think you are.

You want a lawyer that knows how to get a good deal and be a closer. If you’re gojng yo trial on a divorce, you’ve already lost.


Plus they are quick with kickback to their court system buddies:
$75k court ordered psych study
$50k custody study by social worker
$50k court ordered guardian ad litim for child social worker

And so on.

You seem high conflict OP, enjoy your 5 yr long litigious $500k divorce.

Only 5% of divorces need court time, but you seem to fit the bill.


How do you think OP is litigious? He is just asking for advice and if other side is ready to take everything to trial then you should be prepared as well. Are you a woman who is just blaming OP? His wife could be an issue here but who cares if either of them wants a divorce.

Everyone provided opinion here but no one mentioned name of a lawyer as OP asked for.
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2026 16:18     Subject: Bull-dog trial lawyers in MD
Op here again.

I am willing to give her 1/2 of everything but she is being unreasonable and have threatened trial several times. Not sure why she is doing that or would get out of it but she is taking this to trial then I should have a good lawyer to begin with and that's why asking for help.
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2026 16:11     Subject: Bull-dog trial lawyers in MD
Anonymous wrote:Op here. We have been married for about 8 years. No cheating from my side and I don't think it is at her end either. Marriage has fall apart; I have spent a decent time building these start-ups and she is getting very demanding and controlling and still wants everything on top of that such as 3 different nannies, a cook and a lots of other help. We haven't had sex for more than 6+ months and she stays very bitter and ready to start the arguments. I am just fed-up and want out and would treat her fairly but she is very contentious and giving threats of taking me to trial unless I agree on every small issue or stay married. I don't want to be bullied like this and have thought about this step very carefully. We also had couples counseling and instead of doing repair of the existing damage, she is just focused on my faults.


Well, she sounds unreasonable but this is all going to be worked out by formulas and fighting about it won't change that much. The only thing that might be an issue is the valuation of the start-ups. i had a friend whose husband got a medical patent (and started a company around that patent) when they were married and the divorce took forever because it wasn't really clear how much the patent was actually worth.. took more time for the market to show itself. You might need a long separation, or you might need to hire competing experts to value the companies. If that's going to be the issue, I would flag that for lawyers that you interview -- you want someone experienced in valuing companies where the market isn't yet established, not a bulldog.
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2026 15:50     Subject: Bull-dog trial lawyers in MD
Anonymous wrote:Unless you have a prenup she’s going to get her share of your assets. Buckle up.

And an excellent onshore/ offshore forensic accountant for the mediation, trial and annual audits for the next decade or two.

Am surprised a start-up founder wants to escalate this with a bulldog lawyer.
Most want to stay quiet and out of court; your board and mgmt team will not be happy if this chews up a ton of your time and energy. Plus you’ll look like the a-hole, not your ex-wife with the two toddlers. They all know how much you email, text and work 24/7. Now they’ll simply confirm you’re a jerk at home.
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2026 15:46     Subject: Bull-dog trial lawyers in MD
Anonymous wrote:Op here. We have been married for about 8 years. No cheating from my side and I don't think it is at her end either. Marriage has fall apart; I have spent a decent time building these start-ups and she is getting very demanding and controlling and still wants everything on top of that such as 3 different nannies, a cook and a lots of other help. We haven't had sex for more than 6+ months and she stays very bitter and ready to start the arguments.

I am just fed-up and want out and would treat her fairly but she is very contentious and giving threats of taking me to trial unless I agree on every small issue or stay married.

I don't want to be bullied like this and have thought about this step very carefully. We also had couples counseling and instead of doing repair of the existing damage, she is just focused on my faults.

What small issues to agree on? What’s the problem you have with them?

Repair of what existing damage? Don’t you also have to repair the cause of the damage so it doesn’t reoccur and reoccur?
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2026 15:40     Subject: Bull-dog trial lawyers in MD
Unless you have a prenup she’s going to get her share of your assets. Buckle up.
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2026 15:40     Subject: Bull-dog trial lawyers in MD
Anonymous wrote:“Bulldog” lawyers are the worst. They make arguments where none need to be had just to increase their fees or inflict pain on others or show off how smart they think you are.

You want a lawyer that knows how to get a good deal and be a closer. If you’re gojng yo trial on a divorce, you’ve already lost.


Plus they are quick with kickback to their court system buddies:
$75k court ordered psych study
$50k custody study by social worker
$50k court ordered guardian ad litim for child social worker

And so on.

You seem high conflict OP, enjoy your 5 yr long litigious $500k divorce.

Only 5% of divorces need court time, but you seem to fit the bill.
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2026 15:25     Subject: Bull-dog trial lawyers in MD
Op here. We have been married for about 8 years. No cheating from my side and I don't think it is at her end either. Marriage has fall apart; I have spent a decent time building these start-ups and she is getting very demanding and controlling and still wants everything on top of that such as 3 different nannies, a cook and a lots of other help. We haven't had sex for more than 6+ months and she stays very bitter and ready to start the arguments. I am just fed-up and want out and would treat her fairly but she is very contentious and giving threats of taking me to trial unless I agree on every small issue or stay married. I don't want to be bullied like this and have thought about this step very carefully. We also had couples counseling and instead of doing repair of the existing damage, she is just focused on my faults.
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2026 13:16     Subject: Bull-dog trial lawyers in MD
Anonymous wrote:“Bulldog” lawyers are the worst. They make arguments where none need to be had just to increase their fees or inflict pain on others or show off how smart they think you are.

You want a lawyer that knows how to get a good deal and be a closer. If you’re gojng yo trial on a divorce, you’ve already lost.


+1

Best lawyers I've ever used were quiet WASPS who made all their legal arguments do they talking. Managed time well (no unnecessary billing hours) while simultaneously always got the outcome I wanted without the headache and extra fees. Plus they made for good conversationalists!