Anonymous
03/08/2026 18:34
Subject: Is Gonzaga a Good Choice For Gay Son?
1 Corinthians 6:9-10
9 Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men 10 nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.
9 Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men 10 nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.
Anonymous
03/08/2026 18:34
Subject: Is Gonzaga a Good Choice For Gay Son?
OMFG. No, do not send your gay son to a Catholic high school!
Anonymous
03/08/2026 18:33
Subject: Is Gonzaga a Good Choice For Gay Son?
I think he would be fine but this is a major troll post which isn’t cool. Gay teens, and teens in general, have enough problems without troll posts like this.
The football part was ridiculous.
And there is a gay teacher at Gonzaga. My kid has him. The teacher said he went to a Jesuit school that he loved so that’s why he wanted to teach at one.
The football part was ridiculous.
And there is a gay teacher at Gonzaga. My kid has him. The teacher said he went to a Jesuit school that he loved so that’s why he wanted to teach at one.
Anonymous
03/08/2026 18:24
Subject: Is Gonzaga a Good Choice For Gay Son?
PP again, and he’s a recruited athlete.
Anonymous
03/08/2026 18:24
Subject: Is Gonzaga a Good Choice For Gay Son?
I wouldn’t send my straight son there but you do you.
Anonymous
03/08/2026 18:23
Subject: Is Gonzaga a Good Choice For Gay Son?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I have a son who is gay, but he's very athletic and wants to play football and loves Gonzaga's athletic culture. I am worried that an all boys' Catholic school might be a homophobic environment. He does not like the "progressive" schools popular on this sub because he has a heavy sports focus and those schools do not. Can anyone give advice?
Look elsewhere. We prefer you not be here. Not consistent with Catholic virtues.
Speak for yourself. Your response is not consistent with the pastoral approach that the Jesuits advance.
+1.
Signed,
Liberal, Catholic, Gonzaga parent who is not a bigot
There are lots of us at Gonzaga.
+1 Another one
Anonymous
03/08/2026 18:05
Subject: Is Gonzaga a Good Choice For Gay Son?
Terrible idea.
Anonymous
03/08/2026 18:02
Subject: Re:Is Gonzaga a Good Choice For Gay Son?
Anonymous wrote:is it the same pp who chimes in with "football" culture? that's such lazy and poor representation of the Gonzaga culture as a whole. My son, now in college, had male and female gay teachers married to same sex partners and male and female teachers with openly gay students at Gonzaga (yes, as it happens, the 2 gay children of faculty members were active in theater). It was a non-issue.
Anonymous
03/08/2026 17:06
Subject: Is Gonzaga a Good Choice For Gay Son?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I have a son who is gay, but he's very athletic and wants to play football and loves Gonzaga's athletic culture. I am worried that an all boys' Catholic school might be a homophobic environment. He does not like the "progressive" schools popular on this sub because he has a heavy sports focus and those schools do not. Can anyone give advice?
Look elsewhere. We prefer you not be here. Not consistent with Catholic virtues.
Speak for yourself. Your response is not consistent with the pastoral approach that the Jesuits advance.
+1.
Signed,
Liberal, Catholic, Gonzaga parent who is not a bigot
There are lots of us at Gonzaga.
Anonymous
03/08/2026 17:00
Subject: Re:Is Gonzaga a Good Choice For Gay Son?
Just no
Sure there are “tolerant” people and groups who are “accepting”.
But you don’t want your child to avoid spaces and hear the ugly trope “love the sinner not the sin”.
You want them to be celebrated as an important part of the community.
GZ hasn’t gotten there yet even with the pockets of liberal true Catholics who are very visible.
Sure there are “tolerant” people and groups who are “accepting”.
But you don’t want your child to avoid spaces and hear the ugly trope “love the sinner not the sin”.
You want them to be celebrated as an important part of the community.
GZ hasn’t gotten there yet even with the pockets of liberal true Catholics who are very visible.
Anonymous
03/08/2026 16:53
Subject: Is Gonzaga a Good Choice For Gay Son?
I agree with the PP who said that Jesuits are as liberal as Catholics can be. DS is at Gonzaga and I’ve seen teachers display rainbow ally flags and posters. The religious focus is on social justice and being a good person and I feel confident that your DS would not hear an anti-gay message from the school.
My DS is not gay and neither are any of his friends to my knowledge, so I don’t have firsthand experience about what it is like to have a gay son at GZ. However, my son plays on one of GZ’s competitive sports teams and many of his close friends at GZ are on the team. Based on conversations I’ve overheard when I’ve driven carpool over the years or they’re at our house, I would say that 95% of conversations I hear are focused on their sport, sports generally (college, pro, GZ sports other than theirs) and school (classes, activities other than sports, teachers, assignments, etc.). I’m sure they talk about girls (probably mostly when parents aren’t around), but I would imagine your DS probably would have lots of other common interests.
Based on my DS’s experience and those of his GZ friends v friends at public and coed privates, it also seems that the GZ boys date less. There just are fewer opportunities to meet girls. And, since there aren’t girls at school, they’re not trying to talk with girls at lunch, between classes, after school, etc. So that might be an easier HS environment than a coed school.
My DS is not gay and neither are any of his friends to my knowledge, so I don’t have firsthand experience about what it is like to have a gay son at GZ. However, my son plays on one of GZ’s competitive sports teams and many of his close friends at GZ are on the team. Based on conversations I’ve overheard when I’ve driven carpool over the years or they’re at our house, I would say that 95% of conversations I hear are focused on their sport, sports generally (college, pro, GZ sports other than theirs) and school (classes, activities other than sports, teachers, assignments, etc.). I’m sure they talk about girls (probably mostly when parents aren’t around), but I would imagine your DS probably would have lots of other common interests.
Based on my DS’s experience and those of his GZ friends v friends at public and coed privates, it also seems that the GZ boys date less. There just are fewer opportunities to meet girls. And, since there aren’t girls at school, they’re not trying to talk with girls at lunch, between classes, after school, etc. So that might be an easier HS environment than a coed school.
Anonymous
03/08/2026 16:37
Subject: Is Gonzaga a Good Choice For Gay Son?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I have a son who is gay, but he's very athletic and wants to play football and loves Gonzaga's athletic culture. I am worried that an all boys' Catholic school might be a homophobic environment. He does not like the "progressive" schools popular on this sub because he has a heavy sports focus and those schools do not. Can anyone give advice?
Look elsewhere. We prefer you not be here. Not consistent with Catholic virtues.
Speak for yourself. Your response is not consistent with the pastoral approach that the Jesuits advance.
Anonymous
03/08/2026 16:10
Subject: Re:Is Gonzaga a Good Choice For Gay Son?
Anonymous wrote:is it the same pp who chimes in with "football" culture? that's such lazy and poor representation of the Gonzaga culture as a whole. My son, now in college, had male and female gay teachers married to same sex partners and male and female teachers with openly gay students at Gonzaga (yes, as it happens, the 2 gay children of faculty members were active in theater). It was a non-issue.
But OP said don is athletic and wants to play football. So the football culture is particularly relevant to this question
Anonymous
03/08/2026 15:59
Subject: Is Gonzaga a Good Choice For Gay Son?
Anonymous wrote:I have a son who is gay, but he's very athletic and wants to play football and loves Gonzaga's athletic culture. I am worried that an all boys' Catholic school might be a homophobic environment. He does not like the "progressive" schools popular on this sub because he has a heavy sports focus and those schools do not. Can anyone give advice?
Look elsewhere. We prefer you not be here. Not consistent with Catholic virtues.
Anonymous
03/08/2026 15:42
Subject: Re:Is Gonzaga a Good Choice For Gay Son?
is it the same pp who chimes in with "football" culture? that's such lazy and poor representation of the Gonzaga culture as a whole. My son, now in college, had male and female gay teachers married to same sex partners and male and female teachers with openly gay students at Gonzaga (yes, as it happens, the 2 gay children of faculty members were active in theater). It was a non-issue.