Anonymous wrote:I think it was an inappropriate ask, but who knows why they did it. Maybe they told other guests not to bring young kids? I'd probably still go to the wedding, but make sure he has something fun to do during the ceremony.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here again.

Let me be clear. My son is the youngest cousin. My husband's cousins' children are teens/adults. Everyone is scattered throughout the country so if they do come, he will not know anyone. He will be stuck with way younger kids in a very weird situation. Yes, he ultimately will be fine, but upset that he can't go sit with his cousins. There was a handwritten note from the bride in the invitation asking us to drop him off in the kids room.

We still haven't decided what to do.

He will be upset he can’t be with his cousins for 20 minutes?!! If you take him to the birthday party, that means he doesn’t get to see them at all. Wouldn’t that be more upsetting?

I don’t know why you think this is a weird situation. A nine-year-old should generally have the maturity to understand they need to go with the flow and adapt in certain situations. Especially if it’s only 20 minutes and means that they get to see their beloved cousins for the rest of the time.

This. OP, you are looking for a reason to do something with your family. Admit it.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here again.

Let me be clear. My son is the youngest cousin. My husband's cousins' children are teens/adults. Everyone is scattered throughout the country so if they do come, he will not know anyone. He will be stuck with way younger kids in a very weird situation. Yes, he ultimately will be fine, but upset that he can't go sit with his cousins. There was a handwritten note from the bride in the invitation asking us to drop him off in the kids room.

We still haven't decided what to do.

He will be upset he can’t be with his cousins for 20 minutes?!! If you take him to the birthday party, that means he doesn’t get to see them at all. Wouldn’t that be more upsetting?

I don’t know why you think this is a weird situation. A nine-year-old should generally have the maturity to understand they need to go with the flow and adapt in certain situations. Especially if it’s only 20 minutes and means that they get to see their beloved cousins for the rest of the time.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here again.

Let me be clear. My son is the youngest cousin. My husband's cousins' children are teens/adults. Everyone is scattered throughout the country so if they do come, he will not know anyone. He will be stuck with way younger kids in a very weird situation. Yes, he ultimately will be fine, but upset that he can't go sit with his cousins. There was a handwritten note from the bride in the invitation asking us to drop him off in the kids room.

We still haven't decided what to do.

He will be upset he can’t be with his cousins for 20 minutes?!! If you take him to the birthday party, that means he doesn’t get to see them at all. Wouldn’t that be more upsetting?

I don’t know why you think this is a weird situation. A nine-year-old should generally have the maturity to understand they need to go with the flow and adapt in certain situations. Especially if it’s only 20 minutes and means that they get to see their beloved cousins for the rest of the time.

Anonymous wrote:We have two events to which we are invited over Memorial Day.

The first one, which we originally planned to go to is a wedding for my husband's side of the family. We got the invitation today with a handwritten note asking that our son hang out in the kids' room during the ceremony. He can come to the reception. My son is 9 not 2. If he were 6 or under I wouldn't have a problem with this but he can sit for 20 minutes and not be disruptive to the ceremony. Ultimately, I know people are entitled to have the wedding they want and I get not wanting kids, but then don't invite them at all. It just rubbed me the wrong way. It rubbed my husband the wrong way too but we don't know what to do about it. I'm not going to say anything. This event is relatively local.

The other event is for my family a 90th birthday party for my dad's cousin. My dad passed away about 7 years ago and this cousin was very close to him. I haven't seen that side of the family in a long time and would like to go. When I realized the events were on the same weekend, I was bummed, but figured there was nothing I could do. With the new information, I/we are reconsidering. This event requires a plane ride or a 10 hour car ride. This side of the family wants to see my son.

What would you do in this situation.

Suck it up and go to the wedding?
Go to the birthday party?
Take my son to the birthday party and have my husband go to the wedding? (I'm pretty sure my husband would say no to this option)

Am I wrong for having this reaction?

Anonymous wrote:OP here again.

Let me be clear. My son is the youngest cousin. My husband's cousins' children are teens/adults. Everyone is scattered throughout the country so if they do come, he will not know anyone. He will be stuck with way younger kids in a very weird situation. Yes, he ultimately will be fine, but upset that he can't go sit with his cousins. There was a handwritten note from the bride in the invitation asking us to drop him off in the kids room.

We still haven't decided what to do.

Anonymous wrote:Op here.

The wedding is the daughter of one of my husband's first cousins. Part of the reason I'm annoyed is that I know my son will want to be with his first cousins(my husband's sibling's kids) who are all teens/young adults. They dote on him and he loves them. My son won't know any kids in the kids room and I suspect that he will be the oldest kid in there. Based on the ages of the bride and groom, (20's) it will be filled with the kids of their friends, who I'm certain are toddlers, if their friends have kids at all.

My husband doesn't like a lot of his family but the one family member he really likes is his aunt, who is the grandmother of the bride. I like the bride's parents a lot. He isn't necessarily itching to go, but his siblings and their kids are going.

Anonymous wrote:OP here again.

Let me be clear. My son is the youngest cousin. My husband's cousins' children are teens/adults. Everyone is scattered throughout the country so if they do come, he will not know anyone. He will be stuck with way younger kids in a very weird situation. Yes, he ultimately will be fine, but upset that he can't go sit with his cousins. There was a handwritten note from the bride in the invitation asking us to drop him off in the kids room.

We still haven't decided what to do.

Anonymous wrote:If you are 110% sure your son won't make a peep or distraction during the ceremony, I am pretty sure no one will care if he attends it. Just arrive right before it starts and bring him in.