Anonymous wrote:DD is a strong student. She has been accepted to two top 10 schools as well a handful of other schools.

However, she is chasing merit aid and hasn’t received enough aid anywhere to bring tuition costs down anywhere near our state flagship. Because of this she will likely be attending our state flagship.

The problem is that she was not accepted to the honors college at our state flagship. It is the only honors college that rejected her. I’m not sure why she was rejected.

I am having a difficult time dealing with this. DD is very “academic” and really enjoys being around other serious students. I am so sad for her but I’m trying not to let it show.

She says she doesn’t care, but I don’t think she fully understands what this means.

Anonymous wrote:DD is a strong student. She has been accepted to two top 10 schools as well a handful of other schools.

However, she is chasing merit aid and hasn’t received enough aid anywhere to bring tuition costs down anywhere near our state flagship. Because of this she will likely be attending our state flagship.

The problem is that she was not accepted to the honors college at our state flagship. It is the only honors college that rejected her. I’m not sure why she was rejected.

I am having a difficult time dealing with this. DD is very “academic” and really enjoys being around other serious students. I am so sad for her but I’m trying not to let it show.

She says she doesn’t care, but I don’t think she fully understands what this means.

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Anonymous wrote:OP- You said in your post that she’s been admitted to two “top 10” schools. Which ones? I’m finding it hard to believe that she has decisions from more than one of these schools, and that she wouldn’t also have admittance to an honors college.

Which of these has she been admitted to:
Princeton, Yale, MIT, Stanford, Harvard, Duke, Penn, JHU, UChicago or Northwestern?

Most likely top 10 publics.

Then OP should clarify. Big difference between U of Wherever vs Stanford et al!

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Anonymous wrote:OP- You said in your post that she’s been admitted to two “top 10” schools. Which ones? I’m finding it hard to believe that she has decisions from more than one of these schools, and that she wouldn’t also have admittance to an honors college.

Which of these has she been admitted to:
Princeton, Yale, MIT, Stanford, Harvard, Duke, Penn, JHU, UChicago or Northwestern?

Most likely top 10 publics.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP- You said in your post that she’s been admitted to two “top 10” schools. Which ones? I’m finding it hard to believe that she has decisions from more than one of these schools, and that she wouldn’t also have admittance to an honors college.

Which of these has she been admitted to:
Princeton, Yale, MIT, Stanford, Harvard, Duke, Penn, JHU, UChicago or Northwestern?

Most likely top 10 publics.

Anonymous wrote:DD is a strong student. She has been accepted to two top 10 schools as well a handful of other schools.

However, she is chasing merit aid and hasn’t received enough aid anywhere to bring tuition costs down anywhere near our state flagship. Because of this she will likely be attending our state flagship.

The problem is that she was not accepted to the honors college at our state flagship. It is the only honors college that rejected her. I’m not sure why she was rejected.

I am having a difficult time dealing with this. DD is very “academic” and really enjoys being around other serious students. I am so sad for her but I’m trying not to let it show.

She says she doesn’t care, but I don’t think she fully understands what this means.

Anonymous wrote:OP- You said in your post that she’s been admitted to two “top 10” schools. Which ones? I’m finding it hard to believe that she has decisions from more than one of these schools, and that she wouldn’t also have admittance to an honors college.

Which of these has she been admitted to:
Princeton, Yale, MIT, Stanford, Harvard, Duke, Penn, JHU, UChicago or Northwestern?

Anonymous wrote:Have your DD email admission officer and ask whether her honor college application can ve reconsidered.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DD is a strong student. She has been accepted to two top 10 schools as well a handful of other schools.

However, she is chasing merit aid and hasn’t received enough aid anywhere to bring tuition costs down anywhere near our state flagship. Because of this she will likely be attending our state flagship.

The problem is that she was not accepted to the honors college at our state flagship. It is the only honors college that rejected her. I’m not sure why she was rejected.

I am having a difficult time dealing with this. DD is very “academic” and really enjoys being around other serious students. I am so sad for her but I’m trying not to let it show.

She says she doesn’t care, but I don’t think she fully understands what this means.

If she doesn't care, leave it alone. As for understanding "what this means," if it doesn't mean anything to her, it doesn't mean anything to her. And it doesn't mean anything in the grand scheme of things. She's likely to have a much more normal and enriching experience with the broader student population.

Anonymous wrote:DD is a strong student. She has been accepted to two top 10 schools as well a handful of other schools.

However, she is chasing merit aid and hasn’t received enough aid anywhere to bring tuition costs down anywhere near our state flagship. Because of this she will likely be attending our state flagship.

The problem is that she was not accepted to the honors college at our state flagship. It is the only honors college that rejected her. I’m not sure why she was rejected.

I am having a difficult time dealing with this. DD is very “academic” and really enjoys being around other serious students. I am so sad for her but I’m trying not to let it show.

She says she doesn’t care, but I don’t think she fully understands what this means.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think she fully understands what this means.

I don’t think YOU fully understands what this means, OP. Plenty of “academic” students aren’t in HCs at state flagships and are still successful. It’s not that deep.

+1

I was technically in the Honors College at my flagship and never did anything with it--my first day I went to my honors class and there were two girls from my high school in there so I dropped it as soon as I got back to my dorm. After high school I wanted to be normal. I still get asked for donations.

DS opted not to do it because the extra work and expense wasn't worth it and he's doing just fine--has a super competitive internship lined up and professors sending his resume to their contacts and he's getting calls.