OP, you're being ridiculous. You got your thank you card plus a lovely meal at their wedding. What the hell else do you expect?

Anonymous wrote:I agree with you OP, it's terrible.

I will let my daughters know that I will not pay for any aspect of their weddings unless they assure me they will send handwritten notes.

Hope they elope and don't invite you.

I guess I'm in the minority here, but I think that's a really cute idea! They had a hand written line about your specific gift, such is sufficient to show appreciation IMO. The custom postcard is a nice personalized touch. If I care enough about the couple to attend the wedding, I appreciate a good photo of them.

I also love photo holiday cards.

I agree with you OP, it's terrible.

I will let my daughters know that I will not pay for any aspect of their weddings unless they assure me they will send handwritten notes.

And what did you do with it? You put it directly into the trash, right? It was not ever going to be a treasured piece of correspondence. I think this shows a completely reasonable level of effort from the couple.

I didn't even receive a thank you card from the last two weddings I attended.

Anonymous wrote:Not sure it's a trend, but I would be offended. I hope you didn't give an expensive gift. I guess it's better than no thank you note at all though.

Why?

It’s just going in the trash anyway, so who cares. It’s a thank you.

Anonymous wrote:I am Team Thank You Note every time, OP. It’s lazy and rude not to express gratitude after someone comes to your wedding!

An even better card would have included a photo of the guest + the bride/groom. Or of their table. Would have required more work, sure..

I think it would have been better for a picture of the bride, groom and guest to be hand-painted and delivered by doves and angels singing. Would have required more work, sure…

Anonymous wrote:Would have been more interesting if it was a handwritten postcard from their honeymoon destination

Oh yes, they should have taken time away from there honeymoon for that.

Not sure it's a trend, but I would be offended. I hope you didn't give an expensive gift. I guess it's better than no thank you note at all though.

I am Team Thank You Note every time, OP. It’s lazy and rude not to express gratitude after someone comes to your wedding!

An even better card would have included a photo of the guest + the bride/groom. Or of their table. Would have required more work, sure..

I would be happy I received any kind of thank you. The lady several weddings we haven’t had our gifts acknowledged, even from family members.

I find it rude when people can’t be bothered to acknowledge gifts, often generous. So a post card would be welcome and it sounds like these even had a few handwritten lines.

This wouldn't bother me at all. At all.

Would have been more interesting if it was a handwritten postcard from their honeymoon destination