Anonymous
02/23/2026 08:44
Subject: If you are divorcing spouse who is jobless (not because you agreed they would stay home) what does alimony look like?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
This.
My spouse is a lawyer and could very easily work. We sent the kids to daycare even though he was staying at home. He still gets alimony and child support.
Good for him. The law is the law.
It feels unfair, but I don’t really care. I would give up nearly everything I have to be able to live my life without him. His not getting a job was a small part of the overall issue. He just never saw us as a team.
Yet you didn't find it divorce worthy offense and stayed married hence the alimony.
Anonymous
02/23/2026 07:53
Subject: If you are divorcing spouse who is jobless (not because you agreed they would stay home) what does alimony look like?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
This.
My spouse is a lawyer and could very easily work. We sent the kids to daycare even though he was staying at home. He still gets alimony and child support.
Good for him. The law is the law.
It feels unfair, but I don’t really care. I would give up nearly everything I have to be able to live my life without him. His not getting a job was a small part of the overall issue. He just never saw us as a team.
Anonymous
02/22/2026 22:58
Subject: If you are divorcing spouse who is jobless (not because you agreed they would stay home) what does alimony look like?
Anonymous wrote:What state are you in and what is the age of the spouse? [b]There can be many ways to structure alimony - you could give them all the equity in your house instead of a monthly payment for years. In most cases alimony will be rehabilitative so that they get a job.
The finances and length of payment won’t get better with time. If this is a deal breaker for you (as it would be for me) then move swiftly.
This. OP you can’t predict unless you know the state you are in
Anonymous
02/22/2026 22:54
Subject: If you are divorcing spouse who is jobless (not because you agreed they would stay home) what does alimony look like?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How long were you married?
How long has spouse been out of work?
What state?
Basically, the longer the marriage and the longer they’ve been out of work, the more likely they are to get spousal support.
15 years
out of work 2 years
spouse is 45
NY
2 years is nothing, the court will give them minimal support. Get a lawyer tomorrow and file asap. Do not continue to drag this out.
Yea, particular in NY. He’ll be imputed income and OP probably will pay him in the areas of $40-70k for 2 years max
Anonymous
02/22/2026 22:43
Subject: If you are divorcing spouse who is jobless (not because you agreed they would stay home) what does alimony look like?
Anonymous wrote:op - lets say the alimony is timebound and the judge mandates work, and dh still does not work, then what happens?
Whole situation is so upsetting. I could never have imagined anyone wanting to put their wife in this scenario.
It doesn’t matter if he doesn’t get a job. That’s his problem. You won’t be required to pay more.
Why do you think it’s upsetting for a wife? Men have always had to pay alimony so why shouldn’t women?
Anonymous
02/22/2026 22:42
Subject: If you are divorcing spouse who is jobless (not because you agreed they would stay home) what does alimony look like?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How long were you married?
How long has spouse been out of work?
What state?
Basically, the longer the marriage and the longer they’ve been out of work, the more likely they are to get spousal support.
15 years
out of work 2 years
spouse is 45
NY
2 years is nothing, the court will give them minimal support. Get a lawyer tomorrow and file asap. Do not continue to drag this out.
Anonymous
02/22/2026 21:18
Subject: If you are divorcing spouse who is jobless (not because you agreed they would stay home) what does alimony look like?
op - lets say the alimony is timebound and the judge mandates work, and dh still does not work, then what happens?
Whole situation is so upsetting. I could never have imagined anyone wanting to put their wife in this scenario.
Whole situation is so upsetting. I could never have imagined anyone wanting to put their wife in this scenario.
Anonymous
02/22/2026 21:15
Subject: If you are divorcing spouse who is jobless (not because you agreed they would stay home) what does alimony look like?
Anonymous wrote:How long were you married?
How long has spouse been out of work?
What state?
Basically, the longer the marriage and the longer they’ve been out of work, the more likely they are to get spousal support.
15 years
out of work 2 years
spouse is 45
NY
Anonymous
02/22/2026 19:40
Subject: If you are divorcing spouse who is jobless (not because you agreed they would stay home) what does alimony look like?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Other thread was locked (not sure why)
If you never agreed one spouse stays home and need the income but they haven’t worked in years, what does alimony look like? This person is able bodied and could work
If you didn't agree then why did you stay married?
Right, there's tacit agreement in that you stayed married and kept paying the bills. What kind of evidence that they didn't agree could you have? Daily texts that say, "If you don't get a job today, I really will leave you." Well then why did you never leave?
Anonymous
02/22/2026 18:51
Subject: If you are divorcing spouse who is jobless (not because you agreed they would stay home) what does alimony look like?
Do you've a prenuptial agreement saying they need to work or lose spousal rights?
Anonymous
02/22/2026 18:49
Subject: If you are divorcing spouse who is jobless (not because you agreed they would stay home) what does alimony look like?
Anonymous wrote:Other thread was locked (not sure why)
If you never agreed one spouse stays home and need the income but they haven’t worked in years, what does alimony look like? This person is able bodied and could work
If you didn't agree then why did you stay married?
Anonymous
02/22/2026 18:48
Subject: If you are divorcing spouse who is jobless (not because you agreed they would stay home) what does alimony look like?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It goes by a formula.
This.
My spouse is a lawyer and could very easily work. We sent the kids to daycare even though he was staying at home. He still gets alimony and child support.
Wow. This feels wrong.
Not at all. This seems completely fair. It was a mutual decision
If the couple agreed, that’s fine. OP said the spouse is not working and the couple did NOT agree on this.
They made a decision to stay married, what excuse they yse to save money doesn't matter, no matter honest or made up.
Anonymous
02/22/2026 18:45
Subject: If you are divorcing spouse who is jobless (not because you agreed they would stay home) what does alimony look like?
Anonymous wrote:Other thread was locked (not sure why)
If you never agreed one spouse stays home and need the income but they haven’t worked in years, what does alimony look like? This person is able bodied and could work
If you stayed, you pay alimony. If you were okay then and benefited from free services but want to deny dues for divorce, that won't happen. No matter which gender.
Anonymous
02/22/2026 18:40
Subject: If you are divorcing spouse who is jobless (not because you agreed they would stay home) what does alimony look like?
Anonymous wrote:
This.
My spouse is a lawyer and could very easily work. We sent the kids to daycare even though he was staying at home. He still gets alimony and child support.
Good for him. The law is the law.
Anonymous
02/22/2026 14:50
Subject: If you are divorcing spouse who is jobless (not because you agreed they would stay home) what does alimony look like?
Anonymous wrote:Other thread was locked (not sure why)
If you never agreed one spouse stays home and need the income but they haven’t worked in years, what does alimony look like? This person is able bodied and could work
Never agreed meaning paid full time childcare? Or “never agreed” but they were a SAHP?