This is not about fitness or health. This is about vanity.

Anonymous wrote:Would you be annoyed at your significant other for not really trying to get in shape for a Caribbean vacation?

We booked it about 6 months ago and also talked about how it would be motivation to get in shape and try to be healthiest for snorkeling and your basic tourist stuff.

We are a month out and ordering clothes and all that and spouse thinks they can get in shape in 4 weeks where I have been dieting and exercising for 6 months.

It is not the end of the world but I am kind of annoyed. I was not expecting fitness influencer body but at least not dad bod flab.

You watched him not change for five months and didn't say a word. Were you just waiting to get annoyed? The good news is no one on vacation is looking at you or cares about anyone else.

He needs a vacation from you.

Anonymous wrote:Take your selfies without him if you fear harming your brand.
Assume he has no other value except accessory?
You are so shallow. He would do better with someone who sees him as a person.

This right here. This is very clearly all about OP being embarrassed. Gross.

We would work out together before big trips like this. We would set a goal and work up to it. It’s easier to do it together.

Anonymous wrote:Ughh…you’re the woman? If you think you are pissed now, wait four weeks. Dollars to donuts, he actually will change his body in four weeks as much as you did with six months of real effort. And the kicker, all he will do is cut out soda and alcohol and go to the gym 15 times.

This is so true. My friend’s husband and he lost 15 lbs since January just “cutting back” on alcohol. That’s literally all he did.
He’s lecturing my friend about how easy weight loss is as he eats his second lunch of the day.

Very weird to try to get in shape for a trip then be mad it didnt happen. Are there people going on the trip you are trying to have think certain things about you based on body? This is odd plan. Get in shape for sake of being in shape

I also see vacations as motivations to look cute and I have no good reasons to explain it! I dont take selfies, meet people I will ever see again or care as much once I'm there about appearance because I'm wrapped up in activities and exploring.
I can't explain the lead up and why I am concerned and fret over a missed workout and buy something new to wear when I have everything I need. Its not as stressful as it is exciting but it makes zero difference while on vacation.
Don't nag at your spouse about this. They prep in their own way and the whole point of a vacation is a respite from every day life.

Anonymous wrote:Eh, I sort of get OP’s irritation. It’s much easier for men to lose weight. If he’d put in the same effort as she has he’d be ripped by now. But you can’t force someone to do this.

An out of shape man with flab over 40 will not become "ripped" in 6 months.

Anonymous wrote:I think it's weird to try to get into shape for a trip and weirder to get annoyed at someone for failing to do so.

Stop turning a good thing (a Caribbean vacation!) into a problem.

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Anonymous wrote:Have fun with all the hot young men you’ll encounter on your vacation.

Tell me about it. When we went last, I had to wear sunglasses everywhere I went, so hubby didn’t notice me ogling. A flat ass isn’t a thing anymore anyway. Go and enjoy yourself. They appreciate meat on your bones in the islands.

I don’t understand you at all.

He should divorce you.

Anonymous wrote:Ughh…you’re the woman? If you think you are pissed now, wait four weeks. Dollars to donuts, he actually will change his body in four weeks as much as you did with six months of real effort. And the kicker, all he will do is cut out soda and alcohol and go to the gym 15 times.

So damn true.

Eh, I sort of get OP’s irritation. It’s much easier for men to lose weight. If he’d put in the same effort as she has he’d be ripped by now. But you can’t force someone to do this.