Anonymous wrote:These are situations where no one in the family outside of the home you live in should have access to this information. The first red flag I saw was when your sister in law heard from you mother (not you) that the kid had eaten a vegetable. I loathe family gossip - because this is what it is, it’s faux concern that is actually busy body gossip. Stop giving them this information and do not engage with the crap they send you. That’s it.

It is horrible, actual caring family would be more tactful versus just enjoying the gossip and appearing like a long suffering relative who cannot be there to fix everything themselves.

I have an in law who keeps suggesting something for one of my kids and I just have to take a deep breath before responding.

“Thanks. I’ll share with our pediatrician. I will give her your contact information in case she has questions for you.”

You don't.

Or you say, once, "Thanks for the article, Lisa. It actually doesn't apply to Henry since he has a medical condition that impacts his sensory sensitivities. It's hard to get people to understand that and it's private so we don't discuss it a lot."

These are situations where no one in the family outside of the home you live in should have access to this information. The first red flag I saw was when your sister in law heard from you mother (not you) that the kid had eaten a vegetable. I loathe family gossip - because this is what it is, it’s faux concern that is actually busy body gossip. Stop giving them this information and do not engage with the crap they send you. That’s it.

Stop talking to your MIL about and and just say thank you we have it under control. My picky picky eater now eats a lot of things and its not an issue as a teen. I wouldn't worry about it. I'm a picky eater too.

OP here. I didn’t share it with my MIL. She saw my daughter eating on a FaceTime call.
And yes, it’s 100 times more annoying to have someone who doesn’t have any experience raising kids send this stuff. She frequently challenges me on some topic related to kids that she has zero experience with. I will just keep ignoring and maybe one day she will get the hint.

If you don’t want MIL broadcasting that your kid ate a carrot, maybe stop sharing details about it. And if your SIL sends you an article that spikes your blood pressure, don’t click it. Not every text requires response.

Sure, it’s annoying. But some of these replies acting like this is a federal indictment need to touch grass.

Ignore not also boundaries. I would stop sharing this kind of unneeded info with ILs.

Anonymous wrote:Create a bingo board from her texts

This!

lol tell them to read all that and be ready for their own kids

My family does this and I always respond sarcastically. Like “I forgot—everyone’s an expert before they have kids!” But my family is not easily offended. I would never say that to my in-laws. With them, I just nod and smile or do the text equivalent: a thumbs up emoji.

Block her.

Start sending her articles on how to get a date, find a man, keep a man, freeze her eggs, and adopt babies

Create a bingo board from her texts

Just keep ignoring.