Anonymous
Post 02/15/2026 15:59     Subject: How do you teach kids to be moral, kind, and respectful when many successful people aren't?
I think it has to be about internal satisfaction. You get to feel clean. You know who you are. You regret less, fear less, don't have to worry that you'll be found out, or that you'll come face to face with someone you treated badly. A lot of people twist themselves into knots trying to integrate different sides of themselves, and it poisons them a little bit.

The reward of a life of integrity is not big, it's not showy, and most people won't even know that you have it. Peace is like that. What a rare and lovely thing to have.
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2026 13:02     Subject: How do you teach kids to be moral, kind, and respectful when many successful people aren't?
Anonymous wrote:It has gotten much harder. We put our kids in private schools that emphasize kindness and have classes on morals and ethics. And of course you are the main model - so be kind!


We did this, and honestly what my kids learned from it is that the adults were hypocrites. Among other things they swept the presence of a sex predator in the community under the rug to avoid the bad PR. Very much like the Catholic Church scandal.

Just make sure you’re asking yourself all the time: when push comes to shove, are the adults in the community *actually* putting the children first? Or have they convinced themselves that protecting their reputation is a necessary first step to some theoretical, down-the-road-someday protection of children? When faced with actually hard choices, are they actually making morals-first choices? Or are those lessons on kindness and ethics more of a cudgel to keep kids behaving?

Don’t stop asking. Good luck.
Anonymous
Post 02/14/2026 20:39     Subject: How do you teach kids to be moral, kind, and respectful when many successful people aren't?
Anonymous wrote:It’s not just about modeling though. I have explicit conversations with my children regularly about what it means to have empathy, be kind, think about how your actions impact others around you, and how to use your privilege to help others who are more vulnerable than you. I’ve realized as my children have become older that many parents are simply not having these conversations and it shows in their children’s behavior.


Exactly. I don’t think those parents don’t care I just think they’re ignorant to how important it is. My kids aren’t the top students in their class but the teacher comments make me feel good.

My tiny daughter’s teachers in high school told me that she stands up to students who tease others in a mean way.

One example an elementary teacher told me about my son was when they had an assistant come into the class, Ms W. She said in passing that she wasn’t feeling that well. When they went into a circle at the end of the day, their teacher asked them if they had one wish what would it be. There were ponies, Disneyworld, Video games. At my son’s turn he said that his wish was that Ms W would feel better and not be sick. The teachers always loved him but he always had some bullies, boys of course, who saw him as a p@ssy.
Anonymous
Post 02/14/2026 20:29     Subject: How do you teach kids to be moral, kind, and respectful when many successful people aren't?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It has gotten much harder. We put our kids in private schools that emphasize kindness and have classes on morals and ethics. And of course you are the main model - so be kind!


The people with no morals or ethics are typically the most successful in business. Right now we have a president with no morals who is taking money from leaders of corporations in exchange for whatever they need. Elon Musk has no ethics or morals. Finance heads are never satisfied so they create Ponzi schemes. Michael Milken and Bernie Madoff famously stole billions from thousands of people who trusted them. They broke a lot of people and didn’t seem to be bothered by it.

And who can forget Jeffrey a Epstein, the worst kind of unethical person lacking any kind of ethics or empathy. He was a billionaire although no one seemed to know how. He committed crimes with a woman whose father stole his employee’s pensions. He attracted powerful people around the world. Our leaders.

Parents are the role models. If they are all about making a lot of money instead of living an exemplary life that’s not good.


We have a Pedophile president that raped very young girls. 1/3 of this country thinks he is a great man.
We have a con man as president
We have a traitor as president
We have a cult of insanity leading the DOJ, House of Reps, Senate, SCOTUS and again 1/3 of this country thinks these sub human anti americans are doing great things.

No role models just plain old garbage many of the religious privates in this area add to that crap.
Anonymous
Post 02/14/2026 20:26     Subject: How do you teach kids to be moral, kind, and respectful when many successful people aren't?
Anonymous wrote:It has gotten much harder. We put our kids in private schools that emphasize kindness and have classes on morals and ethics. And of course you are the main model - so be kind!


This is BS
Anonymous
Post 02/14/2026 20:25     Subject: How do you teach kids to be moral, kind, and respectful when many successful people aren't?
Anonymous wrote:It’s not just about modeling though. I have explicit conversations with my children regularly about what it means to have empathy, be kind, think about how your actions impact others around you, and how to use your privilege to help others who are more vulnerable than you. I’ve realized as my children have become older that many parents are simply not having these conversations and it shows in their children’s behavior.

Yes. You have to have conversations.
Anonymous
Post 02/14/2026 20:19     Subject: How do you teach kids to be moral, kind, and respectful when many successful people aren't?
Anonymous wrote:It has gotten much harder. We put our kids in private schools that emphasize kindness and have classes on morals and ethics. And of course you are the main model - so be kind!


The people with no morals or ethics are typically the most successful in business. Right now we have a president with no morals who is taking money from leaders of corporations in exchange for whatever they need. Elon Musk has no ethics or morals. Finance heads are never satisfied so they create Ponzi schemes. Michael Milken and Bernie Madoff famously stole billions from thousands of people who trusted them. They broke a lot of people and didn’t seem to be bothered by it.

And who can forget Jeffrey a Epstein, the worst kind of unethical person lacking any kind of ethics or empathy. He was a billionaire although no one seemed to know how. He committed crimes with a woman whose father stole his employee’s pensions. He attracted powerful people around the world. Our leaders.

Parents are the role models. If they are all about making a lot of money instead of living an exemplary life that’s not good.
Anonymous
Post 02/14/2026 13:50     Subject: How do you teach kids to be moral, kind, and respectful when many successful people aren't?
You make sure to point out good, moral people whenever possible. You read books with them when they are young that have these themes, and have them read biographies of good people. You talk when they are older with them about the world and how good people conduct themselves, and you don’t let them watch reality TV where people are nasty to each other. You don’t watch stuff like that, either. You speak up all the time about bad things you see. You sign them up for youth groups like Scouts. And you have your family help with service projects, like regular shifts at a food bank.

More people are good than bad. It’s just that the negativity gets the media.
Anonymous
Post 02/14/2026 12:41     Subject: How do you teach kids to be moral, kind, and respectful when many successful people aren't?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It’s not just about modeling though. I have explicit conversations with my children regularly about what it means to have empathy, be kind, think about how your actions impact others around you, and how to use your privilege to help others who are more vulnerable than you. I’ve realized as my children have become older that many parents are simply not having these conversations and it shows in their children’s behavior.


As evidenced by many of the posts in the college forum, there are a lot of people who place more emphasis on prestige, wealth, and ranking over kind, good, caring people.


+1. It’s actually really depressing
Anonymous
Post 02/14/2026 12:38     Subject: How do you teach kids to be moral, kind, and respectful when many successful people aren't?
Anonymous wrote:It’s not just about modeling though. I have explicit conversations with my children regularly about what it means to have empathy, be kind, think about how your actions impact others around you, and how to use your privilege to help others who are more vulnerable than you. I’ve realized as my children have become older that many parents are simply not having these conversations and it shows in their children’s behavior.


As evidenced by many of the posts in the college forum, there are a lot of people who place more emphasis on prestige, wealth, and ranking over kind, good, caring people.
Anonymous
Post 02/14/2026 12:32     Subject: How do you teach kids to be moral, kind, and respectful when many successful people aren't?
You teach them to be humble and willing to endure poverty if that means that they keep their personal integrity. The problem is that if you want a lot of money in our society then you usually have to do bad things to other people. If you teach your kids how to be happy with less status and material possessions then you will be protecting them from the many predators and manipulators that use greed as a way to control them. Anything less would be like rearranging the deck chairs on the Titanic.
Anonymous
Post 02/14/2026 11:22     Subject: How do you teach kids to be moral, kind, and respectful when many successful people aren't?
It’s not just about modeling though. I have explicit conversations with my children regularly about what it means to have empathy, be kind, think about how your actions impact others around you, and how to use your privilege to help others who are more vulnerable than you. I’ve realized as my children have become older that many parents are simply not having these conversations and it shows in their children’s behavior.
Anonymous
Post 02/14/2026 11:19     Subject: How do you teach kids to be moral, kind, and respectful when many successful people aren't?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Sociopaths tend to make more money. Capitalism is ruthless and rewards this. Success doesn't have to be measured by wealth. We raise kind, empathetic kids but they also need to know to stand up for themselves.


Just look at Ilhan Omar: net worth of $30 million but no clear indication of where all that money came from.



If only we knew where your racism, xenophobia, and cultish beliefs came from.
Anonymous
Post 02/14/2026 11:18     Subject: How do you teach kids to be moral, kind, and respectful when many successful people aren't?
OP, do you really mean how do you do this? Or, do you mean why should you do this?

As for how, do your kids come in contact with the people you’re concerned about often? Are they in your daily lives?
Anonymous
Post 02/14/2026 09:15     Subject: How do you teach kids to be moral, kind, and respectful when many successful people aren't?
Anonymous wrote:Sociopaths tend to make more money. Capitalism is ruthless and rewards this. Success doesn't have to be measured by wealth. We raise kind, empathetic kids but they also need to know to stand up for themselves.


Just look at Ilhan Omar: net worth of $30 million but no clear indication of where all that money came from.