Anonymous
02/13/2026 09:03
Subject: How to break an affair?
You will benefit your kids far more by giving them the emotional bandwidth you plan to use for revenge.
Anonymous
02/13/2026 09:03
Subject: How to break an affair?
Anonymous wrote:You again. You keep posting variations of the same thing. You need to stop being obsessed with the AP for your own mental health.
This. Please seek therapy and find the peace to walk away. Please.
Anonymous
02/13/2026 09:02
Subject: Re:How to break an affair?
Anonymous wrote:I would send an anonymous note to her BF
Yes. Cheaters should be called out.
Anonymous
02/13/2026 08:50
Subject: How to break an affair?
OP, head over to Chump Lady’s website and get a copy of her book Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life. Channel your rage and sorrow productively.
Anonymous
02/13/2026 08:48
Subject: How to break an affair?
Don’t say *hit
Let the divorce papers you serve him cold do all the talking & breaking.
Plus his AP isn’t married - just shacking w a BF. That’s minor.
Let the divorce papers you serve him cold do all the talking & breaking.
Plus his AP isn’t married - just shacking w a BF. That’s minor.
Anonymous
02/13/2026 08:38
Subject: How to break an affair?
Anonymous wrote:With the clear intent of leaving, I do want to break my STBXs affair (he has no idea I am working on separation yet). AP is a work subordinate, lives with a guy supposed to be her boyfriend but I think is a decoy/coverup. I know people opt for peace but this divorce will break my kids hearts, and I want hearts of the people in the affair broken too. If you ever did it before walking out, how did you manage? Reporting at work could have him lose his job too so not an option until settlement is over.
You would be absolutely stupid to endanger his employment ever. What is good for him is good for your kids. Don’t be a vindictive person; this would only hurt you and your kids. If he makes money, your kids get money if he doesn’t have money, your kids get less. stop being selfish and grow up. Get a divorce and live your separate live. You don’t damage where you get money from;
and if it’s even not for you (if you don’t get alimony), you don’t damage the source of your children’s child support.
Anonymous
02/13/2026 08:34
Subject: How to break an affair?
There's a deeper reason for you having an affair, it isn't you grew apart, it isn't you are bored, it has to do with your mental state and you need therapy. You're doing it to numb something, until you figure out what you are numbing and why, you will just repeat the cycle.
Anonymous
02/13/2026 08:23
Subject: Re:How to break an affair?
Anonymous wrote:Told her husband. Said my piece to her face. Got closure. Her husband divorced her.
Facts are facts. Nobody should feel bad about stating what someone did. Period. There is this weird cheater mentality of trying to make the betrayed—the victims- out to be bad for ratting them out. That’s Grade A gaslighting.
Do what YOU need to do for your own closure. Don’t worry about the outcome, e.g., what happens to her after you tell. Shut that book tight. It’s over. Move on with your fabulous life. Living well is the best revenge.
Transparency and honesty are always the best- even when painful. Don’t ever let a liar/cheat make you feel bad about exposing their deceit. Actions have consequences.
Did you do it for revenge? OP sounds vindictive and unhinged. You don't. Like you said don't worry about the outcome but OP has a specific outcome in mind.
Anonymous
02/13/2026 08:18
Subject: Re:How to break an affair?
Each other. Once you divorce the lights come on and it’s not “sexy” or fun when there’s no sneaking around and he has to see her 24/7. Less than 2% of them continue.
Anonymous
02/13/2026 08:14
Subject: Re:How to break an affair?
Told her husband. Said my piece to her face. Got closure. Her husband divorced her.
Facts are facts. Nobody should feel bad about stating what someone did. Period. There is this weird cheater mentality of trying to make the betrayed—the victims- out to be bad for ratting them out. That’s Grade A gaslighting.
Do what YOU need to do for your own closure. Don’t worry about the outcome, e.g., what happens to her after you tell. Shut that book tight. It’s over. Move on with your fabulous life. Living well is the best revenge.
Transparency and honesty are always the best- even when painful. Don’t ever let a liar/cheat make you feel bad about exposing their deceit. Actions have consequences.
Facts are facts. Nobody should feel bad about stating what someone did. Period. There is this weird cheater mentality of trying to make the betrayed—the victims- out to be bad for ratting them out. That’s Grade A gaslighting.
Do what YOU need to do for your own closure. Don’t worry about the outcome, e.g., what happens to her after you tell. Shut that book tight. It’s over. Move on with your fabulous life. Living well is the best revenge.
Transparency and honesty are always the best- even when painful. Don’t ever let a liar/cheat make you feel bad about exposing their deceit. Actions have consequences.
Anonymous
02/13/2026 08:14
Subject: How to break an affair?
Anonymous wrote:You again. You keep posting variations of the same thing. You need to stop being obsessed with the AP for your own mental health.
This. Your kids can be ok especially if their mom is focused on them instead of the AP and you can't make her end things btw
Anonymous
02/13/2026 08:14
Subject: How to break an affair?
Anonymous wrote:I want hearts of the people in the affair broken too.
Run don't walk to your therapist to talk about this.
Divorces suck. Relationships that end because of affairs suck. People who have affairs suck.
You have the opportunity to be the better person and, in the long term eyes of your children, the better parent and (ex)partner in this scenario.
LOVE the people advising that the best advice is living well. They will be so bothered that you are UNBOTHERED. I get it, it might be tearing you up inside and will take a lot of personal restraint to not try to blow up their worlds.
Trust that what goes around comes around. Go live your life as best as possible and leave them in your shadow.
Anonymous
02/13/2026 08:12
Subject: Re:How to break an affair?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I caught him, feigned the I love you and I will change talk.
Therapy for 1 year and vasectomy to show he was also committed.
Divorce.
Deeply messed up
lol sorry your AP dumped you, not sorry.
You are still so screwed up. Should have spent all that money on real therapy.
Anonymous
02/13/2026 08:11
Subject: Re:How to break an affair?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I caught him, feigned the I love you and I will change talk.
Therapy for 1 year and vasectomy to show he was also committed.
Divorce.
Vasectomy can be reversed. What was the point?
It's the fake vasectomy poster ignore
Anonymous
02/13/2026 08:08
Subject: Re:How to break an affair?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I caught him, feigned the I love you and I will change talk.
Therapy for 1 year and vasectomy to show he was also committed.
Divorce.
Deeply messed up
lol sorry your AP dumped you, not sorry.