Anonymous
02/13/2026 00:15
Subject: Wouid this upset you
I can’t understand why you go there for cleanings every 3 months. Especially when it sounds like you don’t have insurance. They probably think you’re made of money and nervous about every little thing so they can get more money out of you.
Anonymous
02/13/2026 00:08
Subject: Wouid this upset you
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think it's incredibly bizarre that you're paying for your adult child's dentistry when he's at least...35? 40? years old.
If the xray cost is bothering you that much, ask your DC to reimburse you.
I find it incredibly bizarre that you’re commenting on that part of this because that wasn’t my question. My adult child has a disability, that’s why.
Lady- you needed to say that up front. In fact you went out of your way to characterize it as just something nice you were doinf for him, when, in fact, you havr medical guardianship over him. Come on. Your whole question is in a whole different paradigm right now.
You probably need to go with him if you are going to be concerned about costs.
Anonymous
02/12/2026 23:32
Subject: Wouid this upset you
Why is your adult child going every three months?
Anonymous
02/12/2026 23:24
Subject: Wouid this upset you
You are over-reacting. Get over this. Surely you have bigger things to worry about. And expecting a hygienist to remember a conversation with you (who is NOT the patient) several months later after she's probably seen hundreds of other patients is ridiculous, borderline narcissistic. You are not the center of anyone's world besides your own.
Anonymous
02/12/2026 23:16
Subject: Wouid this upset you
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The hygienist forgot you said no and your kid authorized the work. Forget about that.
I question what a shortened tooth root is and why braces make that a problem.
In general, if you trust the provider, don't delay dental work.
I don’t think she forgot, I was very very adamant about saying no last time.
As best i understand it, tooth roots can become shorter during orthodontic treatment and that is very common. Sometimes it causes problems and sometimes it doesn’t.
In no way would I expect a hygienist to remember something I said 3 months ago. If you want to go against standard guidelines you need to state that each and every time. They don’t have a way to set a reminder to ask you “in a few years.” They have a professional duty to offer the recommended screenings and services.
The irony is there are many dentists out there who will do way worse in terms of pushing unnecessary procedures. So if you leave this practice, beware.
Anonymous
02/12/2026 22:28
Subject: Wouid this upset you
If you make medical decisions for him then y you need to accompany him to every dr visit. I have severe learning disabilities and go to all medical appointments alone (though I got picked up from my wisdom teeth removal surgery).
If you didn't go with him then the only person you should be angry at is yourself.
If you didn't go with him then the only person you should be angry at is yourself.
Anonymous
02/12/2026 22:24
Subject: Wouid this upset you
If you have some kind of medical guardianship over him, I would send them documentation of your conversation with the hygienist where you said no to the panoramic and ask for them to waive the fee and acknowledge that you have the final say on expensive procedures.
If your assistance for your kid doesn't rise to that level, then you should be more clear with either your son or the practice that you won't pay bills for things you don't consider necessary, chalk this up to a learning experience ("need to set medical boundaries"), and move on.
I assume you have a lot of faith and confidence in this practice because you're there an astonishing 4x a year even before any "procedures" are suggested, but it also may be just a sign that you're an easy mark, they know you're a mark, and they will bleed you as long as the blood runs red.
If your assistance for your kid doesn't rise to that level, then you should be more clear with either your son or the practice that you won't pay bills for things you don't consider necessary, chalk this up to a learning experience ("need to set medical boundaries"), and move on.
I assume you have a lot of faith and confidence in this practice because you're there an astonishing 4x a year even before any "procedures" are suggested, but it also may be just a sign that you're an easy mark, they know you're a mark, and they will bleed you as long as the blood runs red.
Anonymous
02/12/2026 22:17
Subject: Wouid this upset you
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I’m confused on why you’re making medical decisions for your adult child.
No reason to be confused about that. Adult child has a disability, and I pay his dental expenses.
Do you make his medical decisions? If not, button it
Anonymous
02/12/2026 22:16
Subject: Wouid this upset you
Anonymous wrote:Taking a little survey. So my adult dc and I go to the same dentist, we’ve been going there for over twenty years. I pay my dc’s dental bills because it’s just something I want to do for him. I’ve had a lot of work done over the past several years and have more coming up. It’s expensive. So we both go every 3-months for routine cleaning. At dc’s last appointment, the hygienest texted me, and said is it ok if I do the panoramic xray this time, it’s been several years. I said no, maybe in a few years but right now we can’t do it. She says ok. Now he just had his routine appointment and she did the panoramic xray. Apparently, the doctor sees a shortened tooth root that he attributes to his braces and he had those about 25 years ago. They did tell me about the shortened tooth root about 5 or 6 years ago. But at that time it didn’t require any treatment. They were just going to keep an eye on it. Now, the doctor is going to send this to his “friend” whom I presume is some type of specialist, and he’s going to look at the xray. Currently that tooth isn’t bothering dc at all. I’m hoping upon hope that it won’t need any treatment in the foreseeable future. But in any event, my question is; Wouid that upset you that I just told thr hygienist no, not for several years and yet three months later she did it. I’m livid, yet my husband says don’t bother saying anything, it’s too late, it’s already done.
What do you all think?
Your adult son may have said "go ahead" and that's all of the consent they need. You go every 3 months? Excessive. A shortened root is very common after ortho, nothing needs to be done unless its problematic. Again, your "lividness" is unwarranted--they don't need to get your approval
Anonymous
02/12/2026 22:10
Subject: Re:Wouid this upset you
As a parent of two adult children with disabilities who attend medical appointments alone but typically are terrible About navigating it, I feel like yo want us to validate your feelings but keep leaving out essential information.
That being said, here’s my take. My goal is to help my sons become independent. I imagine that is yours as well. And that results in mistakes, all of which cost me money. This would fall into that bucket of me. Your child clearly gave permission and was clearly competent to do so. If you didn’t want X-rays done, you should have communicated that to your child so they could decline. If you had and they still authorized the X-rays, then you have work to do with your child so they check with you if you want that control. If you don’t, that’s on you. But since it’s standard of care, the dentist was absolutely right to offer it.
So no, I wouldn’t be upset. I’d hate an unplanned for bill. But that’s kind of the way life goes for parents.
That being said, here’s my take. My goal is to help my sons become independent. I imagine that is yours as well. And that results in mistakes, all of which cost me money. This would fall into that bucket of me. Your child clearly gave permission and was clearly competent to do so. If you didn’t want X-rays done, you should have communicated that to your child so they could decline. If you had and they still authorized the X-rays, then you have work to do with your child so they check with you if you want that control. If you don’t, that’s on you. But since it’s standard of care, the dentist was absolutely right to offer it.
So no, I wouldn’t be upset. I’d hate an unplanned for bill. But that’s kind of the way life goes for parents.
Anonymous
02/12/2026 21:42
Subject: Wouid this upset you
If he didn't have the pano in the last 3-5 years and something came up you would be mad. And you could sue. It's a needed x-ray of your whole mouth and jaw. And they did find something. Just pay the bill.
Anonymous
02/12/2026 21:37
Subject: Wouid this upset you
Anonymous wrote:If you feel there was willful or careless disregard of your wishes, as a long-time customer, you can raise this with the billing person.
Lots of service providers make expensive mistakes. I often have to pay people to repair things twice.
If you can't afford it, be humble in your approach and ask for a waived fee. It does not cost them what they bill you. They may waive it if you are honest and allow the hygienist to save face
This is much appreciated-thank you. Much better than others who posted using words like bizarre, without knowing what they are talking about because they don’t have the facts. Nor did they answer the question. Thank you!
Anonymous
02/12/2026 21:34
Subject: Wouid this upset you
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The hygienist forgot you said no and your kid authorized the work. Forget about that.
I question what a shortened tooth root is and why braces make that a problem.
In general, if you trust the provider, don't delay dental work
Not in this situation it isn’t
+1
They don’t even need permission from you. Your “DC” is an adult.
They are aware that Adult child has a disability and that I pay the bills there and that I make many of the decisions.
Unless there is something in place like an activated POA or active guardianship, your child is still the one who says yes/no.
Anonymous
02/12/2026 21:24
Subject: Wouid this upset you
If you feel there was willful or careless disregard of your wishes, as a long-time customer, you can raise this with the billing person.
Lots of service providers make expensive mistakes. I often have to pay people to repair things twice.
If you can't afford it, be humble in your approach and ask for a waived fee. It does not cost them what they bill you. They may waive it if you are honest and allow the hygienist to save face.
Lots of service providers make expensive mistakes. I often have to pay people to repair things twice.
If you can't afford it, be humble in your approach and ask for a waived fee. It does not cost them what they bill you. They may waive it if you are honest and allow the hygienist to save face.
Anonymous
02/12/2026 21:18
Subject: Wouid this upset you
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The hygienist forgot you said no and your kid authorized the work. Forget about that.
I question what a shortened tooth root is and why braces make that a problem.
In general, if you trust the provider, don't delay dental work.
+1
They don’t even need permission from you. Your “DC” is an adult.
They are aware that Adult child has a disability and that I pay the bills there and that I make many of the decisions.
Unless there is something in place like an activated POA or active guardianship, your child is still the one who says yes/no.
+1