Anonymous wrote:He learned something about you in the meantime. Any common people?

This. Are you friends with him on social media? Maybe you posted something abhorrent to him and now he doesn't like you anymore.

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Anonymous wrote:He has a crush on you and his wife noticed and is pissed about it.

His wife isn’t in the group. He’s not even married, he’s a divorced single dad.

He's interest in you and you're not interested in him. So now you're not worth his energy. Which is rude, by the way, I have plenty of male friends who don't pay attention to me because they want to sleep with me (I'm married, and so are most of them).

Anonymous wrote:It definitely, definitely has something to do with him having a crush on you.

Years ago there was a renowned professional in my home town that just treated me like garbage. Rolled his eyes at me, ignored me, avoided me etc every time we were in the same place. After I moved to DC I heard from a mutual friend that he’d said, Oh Larla will get snatched up in a second in DC, she’s absolutely stunning. That’s when it all made sense.

+1. When I lived in New York there was a guy I ran into in my larger friend group who was always bizarrely hostile to me - never spoke to me but would stand nearby when I was talking to someone else and interject rude commentary in response to my statements, roll his eyes when anyone paid me a compliment, cold shoulder me if I said hi to a group of people he was a part of.

At my "going away" party he got drunk and told me he always wished he had the courage to ask me out and I 'looked like an angel sitting im the light' the first time he ever saw me. TF?! By then I actively despised him but if he had just been normal I wouldn't have rejected him out of hand or anything. But he built it up in his head that I was some heartless jilt and took that narrative out on me for years.

OP just avoid this guy. Either it's about you, in which case it's all projection, or it's not about you, in which case he's a socially inept person and you're collateral damage.

Anonymous wrote:Some people are just weirdos. Avoid them.

Bro, everybody has their brand of weirdness. OP asking the anonymous mommy board to "explain" the actions of a stranger based solely on her description of events that may or may not have even happened is pretty dang weird, when you think about it. If you want to know more about why someone's doing what they're doing, ask them.

Embrace the weird. Let people be weird. If you like their brand of weird, get closer. If you don't, move away.

Yeah he’s into you and is also wildly insecure, so he’s overcorrecting and acting like an a$$.

You dealt it and he smelt it.

Chances are, you haven’t done anything wrong in this situation.

This guy sounds like a common tool imo.
Or maybe you said something benign that offended him.

Oh well - - just ignore him.
Try not to let his leery states get in the way of whatever fun you are having!

He learned something about you in the meantime. Any common people?

I was the “just ignore him” poster. Look past him, don’t hear him, don’t respond. Pretend he’s not there doing weird things since that’s what he does to you when you try to respond or engage. Since it’s a large group spend your time engaging with the nice normal people.

It definitely, definitely has something to do with him having a crush on you.

Years ago there was a renowned professional in my home town that just treated me like garbage. Rolled his eyes at me, ignored me, avoided me etc every time we were in the same place. After I moved to DC I heard from a mutual friend that he’d said, Oh Larla will get snatched up in a second in DC, she’s absolutely stunning. That’s when it all made sense.

Anonymous wrote:Some people are just weirdos. Avoid them.

Agree. If you didn't let it slip that like, you don't believe in vaccines or something perceived as political or racist, then he's just being weird. Ignore. Focus on all the nice people.

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Anonymous wrote:He has a crush on you and his wife noticed and is pissed about it.

His wife isn’t in the group. He’s not even married, he’s a divorced single dad.

Did he make a pass at you and you rejected him?

That was my first thought, OR he told someone else in the group he was into you and they told him not to bother/you're out of his league.

I'd try not to let it get to you. If anything, just make sure you are extra friendly with everyone else. He'll probably see himself out at some point if he cant just.. be normal.

Well clearly he is an immature ahole. Why are you:

A) expending energy trying to figure this out.
B) smiling back at him
C) answering him?

Match.his.energy. No smiling and no response. Or if you feel like you can’t ignore him, say “I’m sorry. I didn’t hear you/what was that/what did you say?” Make him repeat it. If he is walking away as he says it say “I’m sorry. It’s hard to hear you when you walk away or aren’t facing me.” Negatively reinforce his behaviors.

He likes you or
Looked up your background and saw something sketchy

Very weird.

I think I would ignore it for now, and say/do nothing. I’d have to guess that maybe you violated some sort of unspoken rule (even if only in his own mind lol).

Does he get along well with all of the others? He only acts strangely toward you?

My guess is others will notice his odd behavior to you and someone might make a comment that sheds some light, at some point, But obviously don’t ask anyone since you are new.