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Anonymous wrote:Because I am not. But I keep getting asked by men online and it's actually the younger men who don't even mention sex but the older ones. I mean over 35. Just have a booty call in mind. I guess booty call today is situationship but I don't want that either. I just want a relationship but it seems that people on here also have that mentality that woman over 40. Just want a booty call

Yes, a lot of women in their 40s on dating sites are often looking for a booty call.
This is a common understanding in the online dating scene. That’s why you’re receiving so many booty call requests.
Here is why.

At this age, women usually have a stronger sex drive. Most of them are either divorced or just getting out of bad relationships. Their exes are probably in their late 40s or over 50. This is the time when many men start to struggle with ED and can no longer perform.

Women in their 40s understand what they want and are mature enough to pursue it. They already have kids. They are online looking for men who can meet their sexual needs. Their exes couldn’t do that anymore.

There are sexual problems on both ends. A lot of women in their 40s are hitting peri or menopause and either have dryness, no lubrication, difficulty reaching O, very low sex drive or significant weight gain and can't perform in the same way as they used to.

Not correct. Women experience sexual drive surge while men libido reduces in 40s, as a general rule. Some women may start experiencing dryness etc but it’s not as rampant as men ED issues

I am 44F and that is certainly not the case with me. Sex drive is way low and nothing turns me ON. I don't know where you are reading that sex drive surge for women in 40s.

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Anonymous wrote:Because I am not. But I keep getting asked by men online and it's actually the younger men who don't even mention sex but the older ones. I mean over 35. Just have a booty call in mind. I guess booty call today is situationship but I don't want that either. I just want a relationship but it seems that people on here also have that mentality that woman over 40. Just want a booty call

Yes, a lot of women in their 40s on dating sites are often looking for a booty call.
This is a common understanding in the online dating scene. That’s why you’re receiving so many booty call requests.
Here is why.

At this age, women usually have a stronger sex drive. Most of them are either divorced or just getting out of bad relationships. Their exes are probably in their late 40s or over 50. This is the time when many men start to struggle with ED and can no longer perform.

Women in their 40s understand what they want and are mature enough to pursue it. They already have kids. They are online looking for men who can meet their sexual needs. Their exes couldn’t do that anymore.

There are sexual problems on both ends. A lot of women in their 40s are hitting peri or menopause and either have dryness, no lubrication, difficulty reaching O, very low sex drive or significant weight gain and can't perform in the same way as they used to.

Not correct. Women experience sexual drive surge while men libido reduces in 40s, as a general rule. Some women may start experiencing dryness etc but it’s not as rampant as men ED issues

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Anonymous wrote:Because I am not. But I keep getting asked by men online and it's actually the younger men who don't even mention sex but the older ones. I mean over 35. Just have a booty call in mind. I guess booty call today is situationship but I don't want that either. I just want a relationship but it seems that people on here also have that mentality that woman over 40. Just want a booty call

Yes, a lot of women in their 40s on dating sites are often looking for a booty call.
This is a common understanding in the online dating scene. That’s why you’re receiving so many booty call requests.
Here is why.

At this age, women usually have a stronger sex drive. Most of them are either divorced or just getting out of bad relationships. Their exes are probably in their late 40s or over 50. This is the time when many men start to struggle with ED and can no longer perform.

Women in their 40s understand what they want and are mature enough to pursue it. They already have kids. They are online looking for men who can meet their sexual needs. Their exes couldn’t do that anymore.

There are sexual problems on both ends. A lot of women in their 40s are hitting peri or menopause and either have dryness, no lubrication, difficulty reaching O, very low sex drive or significant weight gain and can't perform in the same way as they used to.

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Anonymous wrote:Because I am not. But I keep getting asked by men online and it's actually the younger men who don't even mention sex but the older ones. I mean over 35. Just have a booty call in mind. I guess booty call today is situationship but I don't want that either. I just want a relationship but it seems that people on here also have that mentality that woman over 40. Just want a booty call

Yes, a lot of women in their 40s on dating sites are often looking for a booty call.
This is a common understanding in the online dating scene. That’s why you’re receiving so many booty call requests.
Here is why.

At this age, women usually have a stronger sex drive. Most of them are either divorced or just getting out of bad relationships. Their exes are probably in their late 40s or over 50. This is the time when many men start to struggle with ED and can no longer perform.

Women in their 40s understand what they want and are mature enough to pursue it. They already have kids. They are online looking for men who can meet their sexual needs. Their exes couldn’t do that anymore.

Anonymous wrote:Op, it all depends on what you are bringing to the table. If you don't make enough money, not good looking or can produce kids then you are only good for sex and so he thinks the same way.

also, I have found women in 40s to be very confused. Some of them want relationship but on their terms on how deep they want to go, others give fake promises on marriage, commitment but then takes it away. Some are still emotionally unavailable and most of the decent ones are FWBs in their 40s. There is nothing wrong with it but if you want an LTR then stop playing games and adjust/compromise if you find a good guy. He is doing the same.

Anonymous wrote:A man who is 35, in general, wants a woman who can have children. He is not going to want to be in a serious relationship with a woman in her 40s for this reason, so if he is attracted to the older woman, it's going to be a sex/short-term thing.

Now hoards of posters will respond to say that younger men all yearn to date and marry a woman too old to give them a family, but they are wrong. There are exceptions, but for the most part, you need to be looking at men who already have kids or are older, if you want a real relationship.

Otherwise, just have fun.

Anonymous wrote:Because I am not. But I keep getting asked by men online and it's actually the younger men who don't even mention sex but the older ones. I mean over 35. Just have a booty call in mind. I guess booty call today is situationship but I don't want that either. I just want a relationship but it seems that people on here also have that mentality that woman over 40. Just want a booty call

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Anonymous wrote:A man who is 35, in general, wants a woman who can have children. He is not going to want to be in a serious relationship with a woman in her 40s for this reason, so if he is attracted to the older woman, it's going to be a sex/short-term thing.

Now hoards of posters will respond to say that younger men all yearn to date and marry a woman too old to give them a family, but they are wrong. There are exceptions, but for the most part, you need to be looking at men who already have kids or are older, if you want a real relationship.

Otherwise, just have fun.

I mean I'm the op. My 44-year-old cousin just gave birth. I think it's pretty ignorant of men to view wonen as birthing machines. They want a family so badly they can adopt or get a surrogate. Also, another reason this ticks me off is because I was in a long relationship with a man in my thirties who never discussed children but he wanted to get married but he never mentioned children so he would cheat and since he never mentioned them, I never thought about them either. I wanted to have kids with someone I love but for me love comes before kids so I want to be in love with someone before thinking of having a family and I would think a man who's over 35 thinks the same thing if they are mature enough which it seems most are not.

This is not how it works, and it is very selfish. A man who wants to have his own children with his wife is "pretty ignorant" for not being just as open to marrying a 40+ women because he can just..."adopt or get a surrogate" if the woman can't conceive? It isn't "viewing women as birthing machines" for him to want kids with a wife, to want a traditional family.

How is it selfish? You have to be in love before you get married or have a family right? So people fall in love with others who are completely different from them either in religion, race or age. And yes any man has that option to pick whatever woman they want, even one they might not have deep feelings for so why would they assume or disrespect a woman over 40 and just view her as a booty call?? Sounds like they just want to use and abuse.

You think that a man who wants a family with a wife, and thus steers away from dating seriously dating women in their 40s is showing "disrespect" to those women and that he just wants to "use and abuse"?

I really think therapy might be a good choice.

I think therapy might be more useful to you to get over your misogyny. It's clear that you have a lot going on and some type of discrimination against woman 40 years and older.

I never said that they are steering clear. I said that they're coming at me with disrespect and thinking. I just want a booty call because I am attractive. However, I might be reading too much into the age of the man because even when I was under 40 and I looked the same way as I do now, men would always stare at my body.

Anonymous wrote:No, but many women using OLD are interested in a booty call especially if they are vague about their interests. You need to be perfectly clear about your interests. That will weed out a lot of people.