It's rude as #%^&.

Anonymous wrote:I use it sometimes at the store so that my spouse can see a product before I buy it. I don’t see anything wrong with that.

Because you are rude.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I use it sometimes at the store so that my spouse can see a product before I buy it. I don’t see anything wrong with that.

You could also text a picture so the whole store doesn’t have to hear about which brand of ketchup you’re pondering.

Exactly. We don't all need to hear your pontificating.

Anonymous wrote:I use it sometimes at the store so that my spouse can see a product before I buy it. I don’t see anything wrong with that.

You could also text a picture so the whole store doesn’t have to hear about which brand of ketchup you’re pondering.

I use it sometimes at the store so that my spouse can see a product before I buy it. I don’t see anything wrong with that.

Anonymous wrote:It is 100% normal in lots of places in the world and not considered rude in any way so it’s possible it’s a cross cultural issue at times

It's also 100% unacceptable in a lot of places in the world. Not just the US.

I think it's common in places where there is a lot of overcrowding and poverty, because people are less likely to be able to access private spaces for these conversations. I have sympathy for someone who might live in group housing, have a job where they might not be allowed to use their phone, and commute to work on public transit, that this might be the only time they have to FaceTime their sister. But if that's not the case for you, and you could easily have conducted this FaceTime in your home or car or a private office, you are being a jerk. And I actually think that's true in like 99% of places. Imagine the person doing this is some rich white guy -- are you thinking "well that's just his culture, I should be tolerant" or are you thinking "wow, what an a$$hole"? Well that should actually apply to most people.

It's extremely rude. I take the MARC train from Frederick to DC for work and I feel like I'm held hostage by these rude people when they insist we all be a part of their conersation. I've serously thought about going up to one of them and making myself a part of the conversation. Isn't that what they want anyway?

Anonymous wrote:It is 100% normal in lots of places in the world and not considered rude in any way so it’s possible it’s a cross cultural issue at times

This is an American in America.

I think it’s so rude, along with speaker phone calls in public and listening to something without headphones/earbuds.

Completely unrelated, but this reminds me of the time I accidentally face-timed my very proper MIL while naked. I was sitting on my bed after a shower and I accidentally hit my phone without realizing it until I hear her voice calling my name…so I pick up the phone to see if I’m somehow hearing an old message and she’s right there (clothed) and I’m, well, certainly not clothed but I’m not sure exactly what she saw of me. I just yelled I’ll call you back and hung up. We have never mentioned it.

It is 100% normal in lots of places in the world and not considered rude in any way so it’s possible it’s a cross cultural issue at times

They lack good manners.

Anonymous wrote:The sound of gentrification is silence.

https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2022/09/let-brooklyn-be-loud/670600/?utm_source=twitter&utm_medium=social&utm_term=2022-08-01T11%3A00%3A57&utm_content=edit-promo&utm_campaign=the-atlantic

It's true that the wealthier a neighborhood, the quieter it is. But that's not because rich people are prefer silence, it's because the more control over your environment you have, the more most people opt for pleasant sounds.

I grew up in a rough neighborhood and yes, had to tolerate noisy apartment neighbors, people yelling, police sirens at odd hours, etc. It sucked but when you have limited agency in your life, what can you do? A friend of mine lived in a building where the alarms went off really easily and would wake them up in the middle of the night. NO ONE enjoys that, but when your rent is cheap and your landlord knows you have few options, they aren't particularly motivated to fix that for you. That friend now lives in a SFH and freaking LOVES how quiet it is. She isn't being forced into silence by her middle class neighbors -- she chose the neighborhood specifically because it's quieter and calmer than where we grew up and she wanted that kind of environment for her kids.

Rude; any noise another person in group setting can hear - rude

Anonymous wrote:I see it the same as taking a phone call in public. There are ok places (park, parking lot, mall, hotel lobby) and less ok places (nice restaurants).

But it’s not the same. When people are holding their phone to their ear they typically aren’t speaking at loud volumes and you can’t hear the other end of the conversation.

When people FaceTime they hold their phones out to capture themselves on the screen and tend to talk loudly as does the person they’re talking to. It’s beyond irritating.