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Anonymous wrote:I have generally found that these obsessive families who supplement and do other similar activities rather than just letting their kids be kids generally don't end up "ahead." The kids often burn out and/or it is eventually revealed that they just aren't that bright. It should not require that much extra effort to do well in school. You can't turn your kid into something they are not. Let them have happy childhoods. They will still be fine.

Oh absolutely; even now I know a bunch of the families doing SHSAT tutoring in my oldest kid's class and I am very confident most of those kids would be happier at Beacon or ElRo.

I differentiate test prep from things like Russian Math and other "enrichment" supplements. Fortunately or unfortunately, a lot depends on those tests. By prepping for them, one can truly enhance their chances of doing better. Russian Math parents think their little genius isn't being challenged so need more academics. A mentality of which I am very skeptical. The vast majority of these kids are not nearly as smart as they think and would be better served to relax and enjoy life. And no, your kid does not really enjoy this. They would be happier hanging out with their friends in the playground.

Also, the public school process is very dependent on luck. Even if you are tier 1, if you don't have a good lottery number, you cannot dream of ElRo, Beacon, or any of the other top Gen Ed public high schools. The way things are now, if your kid is Tier 1, they will probably get a pretty good school, but it is far from certain. And you don't know your lottery number until early senior year, just a month or two before the SHSAT. So if you find out then that you have an E or F lottery number, it is too late to pivot and start studying. So it is wise to prep. There are plenty of kids who turn down SHSAT schools for the top Gen Ed schools like ElRo.

Anonymous wrote:I have generally found that these obsessive families who supplement and do other similar activities rather than just letting their kids be kids generally don't end up "ahead." The kids often burn out and/or it is eventually revealed that they just aren't that bright. It should not require that much extra effort to do well in school. You can't turn your kid into something they are not. Let them have happy childhoods. They will still be fine.

Oh absolutely; even now I know a bunch of the families doing SHSAT tutoring in my oldest kid's class and I am very confident most of those kids would be happier at Beacon or ElRo.

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Anonymous wrote:Ironically, the main kids I know who supplement are the self-proclaimed geniuses at Anderson. The parents there will claim that it is because their kids are so smart that they need to be further challenged, but I find this questionable as those kids do no better at the top high schools than the kids I'm referencing above. The school is just a bit of a conformist cult.

I'm the previous public school poster and while we don't see a lot of supplementing now aside from SHSAT prep, we did see a ton of it a few years ago when we lived in the suburbs - for whatever reason, that school district made the MAP tests into a *huge deal*, every kid knew their score and compared scores and got stressed about scores, and this seems to have inspired parents to panic and spend lots of money on unnecessary tutoring. Often for very smart kids who didn't need it and complained to my also-smart daughter constantly about how incredibly boring it was to spend two hours a week doing endless Kumon problems. (they didn't actually use the scores for anything like class placements or a magnet school or whatever, it was purely an ego thing)

So I certainly believe tutoring is happening in some places - and maybe even certain schools in NYC - but I don't think it's necessary in most cases. And I suspect a lot of the same sorts of people who subject their kids to it in public schools are also doing so in private ones.

Gotcha. Well I was just refuting the person above who made it sound like supplementing with Russian Math or whatever else was ubiquitous in gen ed public schools and used this to justify private. I'm sure there are those who do this, but as you noted, they are the exception, not the rule. There are so many misleading rumors floating around here, many which get left unchecked.

I have generally found that these obsessive families who supplement and do other similar activities rather than just letting their kids be kids generally don't end up "ahead." The kids often burn out and/or it is eventually revealed that they just aren't that bright. It should not require that much extra effort to do well in school. You can't turn your kid into something they are not. Let them have happy childhoods. They will still be fine.

Anonymous wrote:Ironically, the main kids I know who supplement are the self-proclaimed geniuses at Anderson. The parents there will claim that it is because their kids are so smart that they need to be further challenged, but I find this questionable as those kids do no better at the top high schools than the kids I'm referencing above. The school is just a bit of a conformist cult.

I'm the previous public school poster and while we don't see a lot of supplementing now aside from SHSAT prep, we did see a ton of it a few years ago when we lived in the suburbs - for whatever reason, that school district made the MAP tests into a *huge deal*, every kid knew their score and compared scores and got stressed about scores, and this seems to have inspired parents to panic and spend lots of money on unnecessary tutoring. Often for very smart kids who didn't need it and complained to my also-smart daughter constantly about how incredibly boring it was to spend two hours a week doing endless Kumon problems. (they didn't actually use the scores for anything like class placements or a magnet school or whatever, it was purely an ego thing)

So I certainly believe tutoring is happening in some places - and maybe even certain schools in NYC - but I don't think it's necessary in most cases. And I suspect a lot of the same sorts of people who subject their kids to it in public schools are also doing so in private ones.

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Anonymous wrote:I would trust your gut. My DC is in Dwight (another school that is being frowned upon by the former Urban Baby crowd) and I am very happy with the level of academics in K-4 (I am aware things may change in middle and high school). Small groups for reading and math, hard core phonics (no "balanced literacy" nonsense), Singapore math with additional challenges for more advanced students, bi-annual standardized testing to monitor progress in math and literacy (NWEA), entirely normal parents (with plenty of international families including mine). I am glad I discounted second hand feedback and ignored the "dumb white idiots getting high together" label. DC consistently scores in 97-99 percentiles in NWEA (with zero supplementation or coaching) so the school must be doing something right.

To be honest, while your description of Dwight sounds perfectly fine, it also sounds more-or-less identical to what my youngest kid is currently experiencing at a public elementary school, though admittedly the class sizes are a lot larger (but that'll no longer be a problem in 2 years) - small groups, no 'balanced literacy,' Singapore math with advanced challenges (including Math Olympiad), thrice-yearly MAP tests, normal parents...

... which shows that different schools will work for different children and it makes sense to trust intuition and prioritize first hand experience over hearsay.

I have got multiple friends with kids in local public schools and while they all seem happy with their choices, they also all supplement school with extra academics (either RSM or, more recently, AoPS). I am not in favor of this for my DC. School already takes plenty of time and adding 2 extra hours of classes (especially over weekends) and overloading kids with extra homework at elementary age seems too much. All DC's math knowledge comes from school and I am quite pleased with the result. It is entirely possible that some public schools offer the same (or better?) quality of academics but I went with my gut and I am now happy I did.

You travel in very different circles than I do. I'm an uptown public school parent. I know numerous kids (including one of my own) who went to top Manhattan gen ed schools (elementary and middle) who did not not supplement at all - normal kids who did sports, music, art, etc. and went to regular camp, visiting family or whatever in the summer. They then went on to do great on SHSAT and/or ISEE (they might have done some tutoring for this), get into top SHSAT schools and/or very good private schools, and did very well in these schools. Not sure where you are hearing about all these kids supplementing.

Ironically, the main kids I know who supplement are the self-proclaimed geniuses at Anderson. The parents there will claim that it is because their kids are so smart that they need to be further challenged, but I find this questionable as those kids do no better at the top high schools than the kids I'm referencing above. The school is just a bit of a conformist cult.

Also an uptown public school parent. My kids went to one of the nice general ed schools mentioned above, then Booker T for middle. One left for Hunter in 7th, the other finished 8th at Booker then onto Bronx Science. I couldn't have asked for better experiences. And it was all completely free.

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Anonymous wrote:I would trust your gut. My DC is in Dwight (another school that is being frowned upon by the former Urban Baby crowd) and I am very happy with the level of academics in K-4 (I am aware things may change in middle and high school). Small groups for reading and math, hard core phonics (no "balanced literacy" nonsense), Singapore math with additional challenges for more advanced students, bi-annual standardized testing to monitor progress in math and literacy (NWEA), entirely normal parents (with plenty of international families including mine). I am glad I discounted second hand feedback and ignored the "dumb white idiots getting high together" label. DC consistently scores in 97-99 percentiles in NWEA (with zero supplementation or coaching) so the school must be doing something right.

To be honest, while your description of Dwight sounds perfectly fine, it also sounds more-or-less identical to what my youngest kid is currently experiencing at a public elementary school, though admittedly the class sizes are a lot larger (but that'll no longer be a problem in 2 years) - small groups, no 'balanced literacy,' Singapore math with advanced challenges (including Math Olympiad), thrice-yearly MAP tests, normal parents...

... which shows that different schools will work for different children and it makes sense to trust intuition and prioritize first hand experience over hearsay.

I have got multiple friends with kids in local public schools and while they all seem happy with their choices, they also all supplement school with extra academics (either RSM or, more recently, AoPS). I am not in favor of this for my DC. School already takes plenty of time and adding 2 extra hours of classes (especially over weekends) and overloading kids with extra homework at elementary age seems too much. All DC's math knowledge comes from school and I am quite pleased with the result. It is entirely possible that some public schools offer the same (or better?) quality of academics but I went with my gut and I am now happy I did.

You travel in very different circles than I do. I'm an uptown public school parent. I know numerous kids (including one of my own) who went to top Manhattan gen ed schools (elementary and middle) who did not not supplement at all - normal kids who did sports, music, art, etc. and went to regular camp, visiting family or whatever in the summer. They then went on to do great on SHSAT and/or ISEE (they might have done some tutoring for this), get into top SHSAT schools and/or very good private schools, and did very well in these schools. Not sure where you are hearing about all these kids supplementing.

Ironically, the main kids I know who supplement are the self-proclaimed geniuses at Anderson. The parents there will claim that it is because their kids are so smart that they need to be further challenged, but I find this questionable as those kids do no better at the top high schools than the kids I'm referencing above. The school is just a bit of a conformist cult.

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Anonymous wrote:I would trust your gut. My DC is in Dwight (another school that is being frowned upon by the former Urban Baby crowd) and I am very happy with the level of academics in K-4 (I am aware things may change in middle and high school). Small groups for reading and math, hard core phonics (no "balanced literacy" nonsense), Singapore math with additional challenges for more advanced students, bi-annual standardized testing to monitor progress in math and literacy (NWEA), entirely normal parents (with plenty of international families including mine). I am glad I discounted second hand feedback and ignored the "dumb white idiots getting high together" label. DC consistently scores in 97-99 percentiles in NWEA (with zero supplementation or coaching) so the school must be doing something right.

To be honest, while your description of Dwight sounds perfectly fine, it also sounds more-or-less identical to what my youngest kid is currently experiencing at a public elementary school, though admittedly the class sizes are a lot larger (but that'll no longer be a problem in 2 years) - small groups, no 'balanced literacy,' Singapore math with advanced challenges (including Math Olympiad), thrice-yearly MAP tests, normal parents...

... which shows that different schools will work for different children and it makes sense to trust intuition and prioritize first hand experience over hearsay.

I have got multiple friends with kids in local public schools and while they all seem happy with their choices, they also all supplement school with extra academics (either RSM or, more recently, AoPS). I am not in favor of this for my DC. School already takes plenty of time and adding 2 extra hours of classes (especially over weekends) and overloading kids with extra homework at elementary age seems too much. All DC's math knowledge comes from school and I am quite pleased with the result. It is entirely possible that some public schools offer the same (or better?) quality of academics but I went with my gut and I am now happy I did.

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Anonymous wrote:I did not since we were coming from the burbs and it’s not really something they do. But I met with a consultant twice for some guidance.

Do you mind sharing the name? Would you recommend him or her?

Taryn at Admit NY. She was so helpful!

Anonymous wrote:We got into Trevor and CGPS. I withdrew applications from Dalton and Horace Mann because they weren’t feeling like a fit. Riverdale was our top but I know how competitive

I would pick Trevor over CGPS.

Anonymous wrote:I would trust your gut. My DC is in Dwight (another school that is being frowned upon by the former Urban Baby crowd) and I am very happy with the level of academics in K-4 (I am aware things may change in middle and high school). Small groups for reading and math, hard core phonics (no "balanced literacy" nonsense), Singapore math with additional challenges for more advanced students, bi-annual standardized testing to monitor progress in math and literacy (NWEA), entirely normal parents (with plenty of international families including mine). I am glad I discounted second hand feedback and ignored the "dumb white idiots getting high together" label. DC consistently scores in 97-99 percentiles in NWEA (with zero supplementation or coaching) so the school must be doing something right.

To be honest, while your description of Dwight sounds perfectly fine, it also sounds more-or-less identical to what my youngest kid is currently experiencing at a public elementary school, though admittedly the class sizes are a lot larger (but that'll no longer be a problem in 2 years) - small groups, no 'balanced literacy,' Singapore math with advanced challenges (including Math Olympiad), thrice-yearly MAP tests, normal parents...

Anonymous wrote:Thank you! Noted on all - this super helpful. But can anyone happen to speak to their academic curriculum for K-5? Like specifically are they learning different things than other independent schools? I was pretty impressed with what I saw as it pertains to the worksheets and smaller groups for reading and math. Honestly, a lot more so than in some TT schools I toured. But maybe I am missing something! I don’t care about reputation or at this point really anything past 5th grade - I just have a bright boy that loves to learn and loves to play chess so it was feeling like a good home for him. I really appreciate everyone taking the time! This is such a crazy process.

I would trust your gut. My DC is in Dwight (another school that is being frowned upon by the former Urban Baby crowd) and I am very happy with the level of academics in K-4 (I am aware things may change in middle and high school). Small groups for reading and math, hard core phonics (no "balanced literacy" nonsense), Singapore math with additional challenges for more advanced students, bi-annual standardized testing to monitor progress in math and literacy (NWEA), entirely normal parents (with plenty of international families including mine). I am glad I discounted second hand feedback and ignored the "dumb white idiots getting high together" label. DC consistently scores in 97-99 percentiles in NWEA (with zero supplementation or coaching) so the school must be doing something right.

There is a lot of snobbery when it comes to school selection but many opinions may be outdated and/or based on hearsay.

If it is possible, it may be useful to talk to current parents and get their perspectives.

CGPS did a parent panel where Arielle— the influencer turned NYT “covidiot” was one of the speakers. That said enough about the school for me. Best question was about what transportation options were if a family didn’t live in the neighborhood and the first answer was “many kids are driven to school.”

Pass. OP go to Trevor. Lovely school and community.

Anonymous wrote:I did not since we were coming from the burbs and it’s not really something they do. But I met with a consultant twice for some guidance.

Do you mind sharing the name? Would you recommend him or her?

Anonymous wrote:I just went through the process as well. We toured the school overall facilities look nice and admins seem warm - they sent us ( i think everyone) hand-written cards. However anecdotally, when we were waiting for parent interview, the other parents were asking each other where they work at and what are their ranks in company....Our PSD also hinted to us to be mindful their school community culture.

Where do you work is ok but what is your rank is very cringy but pretty on brand. Though note that you should judge a school by those who are there and not those who are applying.

I just went through the process as well. We toured the school overall facilities look nice and admins seem warm - they sent us ( i think everyone) hand-written cards. However anecdotally, when we were waiting for parent interview, the other parents were asking each other where they work at and what are their ranks in company....Our PSD also hinted to us to be mindful their school community culture.