Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sign up for informed delivery with USPS for the future. You get images of most of what's coming.

I don't know what this is or how it works, but I would tell the deliverer you have this and and how it works and see if they 'fess up.

USPS informed delivery. Look it up. And while it is not a perfect system it gets it right majority of the time.

Here is the link if you haven’t found it by now.

https://www.usps.com/manage/informed-delivery.htm

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sign up for informed delivery with USPS for the future. You get images of most of what's coming.

I don't know what this is or how it works, but I would tell the deliverer you have this and and how it works and see if they 'fess up.

USPS informed delivery. Look it up. And while it is not a perfect system it gets it right majority of the time.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I went through a somewhat similar situation, and the post office was able to verify that it HAD NOT been sent through the mail.

I think that in your case, the answer doesn’t matter. You are questioning already, your nervous system is telling you everything you need to know about trusting this person. Trust yourself!

Cutting ties with this person completely would mean losing a business relationship with a third person who is wonderful and I think likely has been lied to by this person. So while I agree with you, particularly because this document could have been sent WELL before it was needed, I would love to have proof they lied. I will have to decide if I care enough to go to the post office though. It seems to me completely crazy they would have done this.

Do you mean you're looking for proof of wrongdoing so that you can start a direct business relationship with the third person? You'll have to go to the Post Office.

Not exactly, I was mostly explaining why it’s not as easy as just stop dealing with this person who is frustrating for a lot of reasons. But I think the good partner would possibly cut ties at some point if they were confronted with evidence of actually lying about performing a essential task and maybe replace them with someone better (not me, to be clear, I have no interest in that role).

If you came to me with proof someone had lied to you about mailing a letter, I would not cut ties with them, and I would think you were overwrought.

By all means, don't trust the sender. I don't think you need proof to mistrust them.

But making a huge deal to a third party about late mail, even if you can prove the lie, is weird and a bit unprofessional. If this was a serious business matter it would not have been mailed plain USPS (not even delivery confirmation!) to a residence in the first place. There were a dozen better ways to transmit it, including private carrier or USPS overnight.

Sign up for delivery notification. I don't have it but my son does for his business and my SIL has had it at her house for a long time. It tells you what's out for delivery each day with an image of mail pieces. (He has the emails auto forwarded to me because I do office work and bookkeeping at irregular times and I can see if a bill or a payment is coming in).

Anonymous wrote:Sign up for informed delivery with USPS for the future. You get images of most of what's coming.

I don't know what this is or how it works, but I would tell the deliverer you have this and and how it works and see if they 'fess up.

Anonymous wrote:Sign up for informed delivery with USPS for the future. You get images of most of what's coming.

I am surprised to hear everyone doesn't have this in 2026. Don't you get an email scan of your mail every day? Sign up right now.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I went through a somewhat similar situation, and the post office was able to verify that it HAD NOT been sent through the mail.

I think that in your case, the answer doesn’t matter. You are questioning already, your nervous system is telling you everything you need to know about trusting this person. Trust yourself!

Cutting ties with this person completely would mean losing a business relationship with a third person who is wonderful and I think likely has been lied to by this person. So while I agree with you, particularly because this document could have been sent WELL before it was needed, I would love to have proof they lied. I will have to decide if I care enough to go to the post office though. It seems to me completely crazy they would have done this.

You need to decide which is more important to you: keeping the business relationship and accept your being lied to, or, losing the business relationship and being free of the shadiness

But even if you find out they are lying, there’s no guarantee the third party will cut ties with them

Does the person live on your mail route? Maybe they stamped envelope and handed it to postal worker directly and they hand canceled it while on route?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I went through a somewhat similar situation, and the post office was able to verify that it HAD NOT been sent through the mail.

I think that in your case, the answer doesn’t matter. You are questioning already, your nervous system is telling you everything you need to know about trusting this person. Trust yourself!

Cutting ties with this person completely would mean losing a business relationship with a third person who is wonderful and I think likely has been lied to by this person. So while I agree with you, particularly because this document could have been sent WELL before it was needed, I would love to have proof they lied. I will have to decide if I care enough to go to the post office though. It seems to me completely crazy they would have done this.

Do you mean you're looking for proof of wrongdoing so that you can start a direct business relationship with the third person? You'll have to go to the Post Office.

Not exactly, I was mostly explaining why it’s not as easy as just stop dealing with this person who is frustrating for a lot of reasons. But I think the good partner would possibly cut ties at some point if they were confronted with evidence of actually lying about performing a essential task and maybe replace them with someone better (not me, to be clear, I have no interest in that role).