I’m in TX and we’ve had bus drivers who were drunk with the kids on the bus - so it could be worse.

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Anonymous wrote:Well first, what does “rambunctious”
Mean? If she’s getting up or throwing things then it’s on her to manage her behaviors so she doesn’t get yelled at.

Second, if you immediately escalated every complaint your kid has then you’re over reacting and that will make them overreact, so it’s totally fine that you didn’t respond at first.
Don’t over dramatize that part.

She's just goofy - laughs a lot, does funny voices, sings. But overall a really good kid, I've never had complaints from teachers, coaches, camp counselors, babysitters, etc.

And thanks. I was definitely spiraling. Another mom in the group chat that I don't know messaged me on the side and said her kid told her that the driver stopped the bus and "got in my daughters face aggressively".

Getting her in her face aggressively is really unusual and uncalled for unless she was causing a ton of chaos and even then. I would ask for the administration to contact bus depot for videos, the buses have cameras inside.

FWIW I’m a teacher and kids are frankly out of control these days- collectively your kid may not be much, but if 30 kids are singing at the top of their lungs, he may be completely over stimulated and it may not be safe for him to drive. So I think it’s well worth it for you to both contact school/bus depot AND tell your kid to be quiet on the bus because driving is not an easy job and you want her to make it as easy as possible for him as possible.

Listen to her, mean bus drivers are so common. When my sister was in fourth grade, a male bus driver yelled at her for playing around on the bus, and she ran home sobbing. My mother reported it to the school, and they did punish the bus driver. She’s still traumatized by it too.

I would go to the school principal first.

I bet she won't act out on the bus again.

Anonymous wrote:I mean, I’m a Karen and all, but here’s what id do:

1. Give the kids cameras to record the driver so there’s solid evidence
2. Once I have that, coordinate with the other parents so every day a parent gets on the bus with kids. If the driver asked me what I was doing getting on, I’d just give a big smile and pull out the video.
3. Repeat until the bus company does something about it.

So many liability issues with that. Only do that as a last resort.

OP here.. I'm a single mom and need to work full time hours, but yes I will be arranging other transport. Trying to figure it out.

Anonymous wrote:Well first, what does “rambunctious”
Mean? If she’s getting up or throwing things then it’s on her to manage her behaviors so she doesn’t get yelled at.

Second, if you immediately escalated every complaint your kid has then you’re over reacting and that will make them overreact, so it’s totally fine that you didn’t respond at first.
Don’t over dramatize that part.

She's just goofy - laughs a lot, does funny voices, sings. But overall a really good kid, I've never had complaints from teachers, coaches, camp counselors, babysitters, etc.

And thanks. I was definitely spiraling. Another mom in the group chat that I don't know messaged me on the side and said her kid told her that the driver stopped the bus and "got in my daughters face aggressively".

Anonymous wrote:Can you drive her? A 2nd grader is still young. I would not allow her back on the bus.

+1.

Well first, what does “rambunctious”
Mean? If she’s getting up or throwing things then it’s on her to manage her behaviors so she doesn’t get yelled at.

Second, if you immediately escalated every complaint your kid has then you’re over reacting and that will make them overreact, so it’s totally fine that you didn’t respond at first.
Don’t over dramatize that part.

Anonymous wrote:I mean, I’m a Karen and all, but here’s what id do:

1. Give the kids cameras to record the driver so there’s solid evidence
2. Once I have that, coordinate with the other parents so every day a parent gets on the bus with kids. If the driver asked me what I was doing getting on, I’d just give a big smile and pull out the video.
3. Repeat until the bus company does something about it.

They aren't going to let parents on the bus, but video footage would be very helpful. I don't know if the 2nd grader would be able to capture it, but a 4th or 5th grader could get the job done.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe you could tell the school that your bus needs a teacher or other supervisor since the kids are wild and the bus driver is at the point of screaming at the kids to try to keep the situation safe.

You don’t need to pretend to be a new poster each time.

Lol

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kid is an angel right??

Are you able to f-ing read

Ignore this person. They troll the forums looking for posts about kids and then blame the child. They posted a gaslighting response about an elementary school girl who didn't want to go to school because there was a disruptive and violent kid in her class.
This poster is likely a bully in real life.

Anonymous wrote:Maybe you could tell the school that your bus needs a teacher or other supervisor since the kids are wild and the bus driver is at the point of screaming at the kids to try to keep the situation safe.

You don’t need to pretend to be a new poster each time.

Can you drive her? A 2nd grader is still young. I would not allow her back on the bus.