Anonymous
Post 02/03/2026 16:38     Subject: Told we are waitlisted for our top choice school
Im confused why someone who applied to 8 schools would need to go public based on their 2nd choice
Anonymous
Post 02/03/2026 16:37     Subject: Told we are waitlisted for our top choice school
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Had this same experience last year at a SS girls school after what we thought was super positive feedback. WL ended up not moving. It was frustrating to have had our hopes up for what seemed like no good reason, especially as we had initially thought the school was a long shot. Hang in there! It will work out for the best


Curious what school? Now I am even more nervous.

If we get waitlisted to our second choice I think our child will need to go to our zoned public school. Which also means she would have to skip to 1st grade. Oh what fun.


If you've only applied to 2 schools you must know this is a possibility???


We applied to more than 2 schools. We applied to 8. A mid of co-ed and SS


Why do they recommend applying to 8-10 if you almost never get in without a FC letter? Does anyone actually get more than 1-2 admits?
Anonymous
Post 02/03/2026 16:31     Subject: Told we are waitlisted for our top choice school
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Had this same experience last year at a SS girls school after what we thought was super positive feedback. WL ended up not moving. It was frustrating to have had our hopes up for what seemed like no good reason, especially as we had initially thought the school was a long shot. Hang in there! It will work out for the best


Curious what school? Now I am even more nervous.

If we get waitlisted to our second choice I think our child will need to go to our zoned public school. Which also means she would have to skip to 1st grade. Oh what fun.


If you've only applied to 2 schools you must know this is a possibility???


We applied to more than 2 schools. We applied to 8. A mid of co-ed and SS
Anonymous
Post 02/03/2026 16:21     Subject: Told we are waitlisted for our top choice school
How are they only taking 1 kid from a feeder. Why can’t they take both
Anonymous
Post 02/03/2026 16:19     Subject: Told we are waitlisted for our top choice school
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Had this same experience last year at a SS girls school after what we thought was super positive feedback. WL ended up not moving. It was frustrating to have had our hopes up for what seemed like no good reason, especially as we had initially thought the school was a long shot. Hang in there! It will work out for the best


Curious what school? Now I am even more nervous.

If we get waitlisted to our second choice I think our child will need to go to our zoned public school. Which also means she would have to skip to 1st grade. Oh what fun.


If you've only applied to 2 schools you must know this is a possibility???
Anonymous
Post 02/03/2026 16:16     Subject: Told we are waitlisted for our top choice school
Anonymous wrote:I am guessing it is brearley. Had a friend at the the top preschool by reputation on UES get lead on by Brearley, only to get a waitlist. PSD said she didn’t know what happened. This was 2 or 3 years ago.


Not from Brearley. They are still not giving definite yes or no answers, but making clear that they are interested in certain kids.
Anonymous
Post 02/03/2026 16:15     Subject: Told we are waitlisted for our top choice school
Anonymous wrote:For OP - it seems kind of weird and unprofessional that your PSD would tell people that they recommended a specific child over yours.


Our PSD didn’t as that, I found out from someone else. But also not great to hear that.
Anonymous
Post 02/03/2026 16:14     Subject: Told we are waitlisted for our top choice school
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:

Curious what school? Now I am even more nervous.

If we get waitlisted to our second choice I think our child will need to go to our zoned public school. Which also means she would have to skip to 1st grade. Oh what fun.


This is obviously a worst-case scenario - are you with a feeder PS? I feel as though most of the connected schools would really try hard to avoid this...


OP here:

We are at a feeder preschool.
Anonymous
Post 02/03/2026 15:52     Subject: Told we are waitlisted for our top choice school
Anonymous wrote:

Curious what school? Now I am even more nervous.

If we get waitlisted to our second choice I think our child will need to go to our zoned public school. Which also means she would have to skip to 1st grade. Oh what fun.


This is obviously a worst-case scenario - are you with a feeder PS? I feel as though most of the connected schools would really try hard to avoid this...
Anonymous
Post 02/03/2026 15:41     Subject: Told we are waitlisted for our top choice school
Anonymous wrote:You need a reality check and God if you are “devastated” over this.


Get over yourself!
Anonymous
Post 02/03/2026 15:32     Subject: Told we are waitlisted for our top choice school
For OP - it seems kind of weird and unprofessional that your PSD would tell people that they recommended a specific child over yours.
Anonymous
Post 02/03/2026 15:12     Subject: Told we are waitlisted for our top choice school
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Had this same experience last year at a SS girls school after what we thought was super positive feedback. WL ended up not moving. It was frustrating to have had our hopes up for what seemed like no good reason, especially as we had initially thought the school was a long shot. Hang in there! It will work out for the best


Curious what school? Now I am even more nervous.

If we get waitlisted to our second choice I think our child will need to go to our zoned public school. Which also means she would have to skip to 1st grade. Oh what fun.


I've seen all the girls schools flip flop in the days leading up to notification. Friend who was "in" at Chapin is suddenly in at Spence and waitlisted at Chapin. Another who was "in" at Spence is waitlisted at all three and gets into Brearley through the waitlist. I could tell many more stories-- these schools trade.


Do the girls schools trade with Trinity and Dalton too?


I have never seen or heard for Trinity. I have seen Dalton, but not as regularly as just those three schools with each other.
Anonymous
Post 02/03/2026 15:01     Subject: Told we are waitlisted for our top choice school
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Had this same experience last year at a SS girls school after what we thought was super positive feedback. WL ended up not moving. It was frustrating to have had our hopes up for what seemed like no good reason, especially as we had initially thought the school was a long shot. Hang in there! It will work out for the best


Curious what school? Now I am even more nervous.

If we get waitlisted to our second choice I think our child will need to go to our zoned public school. Which also means she would have to skip to 1st grade. Oh what fun.


I've seen all the girls schools flip flop in the days leading up to notification. Friend who was "in" at Chapin is suddenly in at Spence and waitlisted at Chapin. Another who was "in" at Spence is waitlisted at all three and gets into Brearley through the waitlist. I could tell many more stories-- these schools trade.


Do the girls schools trade with Trinity and Dalton too?
Anonymous
Post 02/03/2026 14:53     Subject: Told we are waitlisted for our top choice school
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Had this same experience last year at a SS girls school after what we thought was super positive feedback. WL ended up not moving. It was frustrating to have had our hopes up for what seemed like no good reason, especially as we had initially thought the school was a long shot. Hang in there! It will work out for the best


Curious what school? Now I am even more nervous.

If we get waitlisted to our second choice I think our child will need to go to our zoned public school. Which also means she would have to skip to 1st grade. Oh what fun.


I've seen all the girls schools flip flop in the days leading up to notification. Friend who was "in" at Chapin is suddenly in at Spence and waitlisted at Chapin. Another who was "in" at Spence is waitlisted at all three and gets into Brearley through the waitlist. I could tell many more stories-- these schools trade.
Anonymous
Post 02/03/2026 14:38     Subject: Told we are waitlisted for our top choice school
I am guessing it is brearley. Had a friend at the the top preschool by reputation on UES get lead on by Brearley, only to get a waitlist. PSD said she didn’t know what happened. This was 2 or 3 years ago.