Anonymous
02/03/2026 01:10
Subject: Can one decline herpes testing?
Anonymous wrote:A single abscess in the labia is maybe more likely to be a bartholin's cyst, no? Either way, not seeing a doctor is unhelpful she could easily be putting herself in unnecessary pain.
If it isn’t painful it could also be just a skin boil too……
Anonymous
02/03/2026 00:35
Subject: Can one decline herpes testing?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yeesh, usually you have to beg the doctors to give you a blood text to look for antibodiies for hsv 1 and 2, why on earth wouldn't your college age kid be able to handle knowing her sti status?
Because there is no cure. People are reeling over the diagnosis
We really are not. This is what Valtrex is for.
Anonymous
02/02/2026 21:52
Subject: Can one decline herpes testing?
A single abscess in the labia is maybe more likely to be a bartholin's cyst, no? Either way, not seeing a doctor is unhelpful she could easily be putting herself in unnecessary pain.
Anonymous
02/02/2026 21:52
Subject: Can one decline herpes testing?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why would you?!!!!!!!!!
Make it make sense!!!
Because of the emotional and mental stigma and a teen trying to navigate that.
Good lord I fn hate it here. I truly fear for our children growing up in this world
I know, these poor kids have so much to deal with. Miss simpler times.
NP. I don't think it is that. I think it is that on an anonymous forum we "see" people's crazy in a way that we didn't have access to before. People have always been crazy. I do agree that one person seeing another act crazy, it unleashes that same craziness in others that would not have otherwise been crazy had they not been exposed to it. As if it was dormant.
What?
Anonymous
02/02/2026 21:45
Subject: Can one decline herpes testing?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why would you?!!!!!!!!!
Make it make sense!!!
Because of the emotional and mental stigma and a teen trying to navigate that.
Good lord I fn hate it here. I truly fear for our children growing up in this world
I know, these poor kids have so much to deal with. Miss simpler times.
NP. I don't think it is that. I think it is that on an anonymous forum we "see" people's crazy in a way that we didn't have access to before. People have always been crazy. I do agree that one person seeing another act crazy, it unleashes that same craziness in others that would not have otherwise been crazy had they not been exposed to it. As if it was dormant.
Anonymous
02/02/2026 21:39
Subject: Can one decline herpes testing?
Anonymous wrote:She won't be a "teenager" long.
Why is she or you so terrified she has herpes? Herpes presents as bumps then blisters then open lesions. Not an ingrown hair.
The emotional and mental stigma of having it and spreading it and getting sued or just exposed as a willful liar aren't great either.
But she cant just "take antivirals" because no reputable doctor will prescribe them without diagnosis.
What? She has no blisters and has no reason to think she has it but was curious about testing if it worsened. Didn’t want to borrow problems
Anonymous
02/02/2026 21:35
Subject: Can one decline herpes testing?
Life is hard. Teaching her to bury her head in the sand is setting her up for lots of failure in life. Your job is to teach her to be a responsible, self sufficient adult.
Anonymous
02/02/2026 21:35
Subject: Can one decline herpes testing?
She won't be a "teenager" long.
Why is she or you so terrified she has herpes? Herpes presents as bumps then blisters then open lesions. Not an ingrown hair.
The emotional and mental stigma of having it and spreading it and getting sued or just exposed as a willful liar aren't great either.
But she cant just "take antivirals" because no reputable doctor will prescribe them without diagnosis.
Why is she or you so terrified she has herpes? Herpes presents as bumps then blisters then open lesions. Not an ingrown hair.
The emotional and mental stigma of having it and spreading it and getting sued or just exposed as a willful liar aren't great either.
But she cant just "take antivirals" because no reputable doctor will prescribe them without diagnosis.
Anonymous
02/02/2026 21:30
Subject: Can one decline herpes testing?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why would you?!!!!!!!!!
Make it make sense!!!
Because of the emotional and mental stigma and a teen trying to navigate that.
Good lord I fn hate it here. I truly fear for our children growing up in this world
I know, these poor kids have so much to deal with. Miss simpler times.
Anonymous
02/02/2026 21:29
Subject: Can one decline herpes testing?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why would you?!!!!!!!!!
Make it make sense!!!
Because of the emotional and mental stigma and a teen trying to navigate that.
But...if she has herpes, she needs to know so she can treat it.
I seriously doubt this is an issue, if it's an ingrown hair the doctor is just going to look at it and call it probably but if they say "hey, that might be herpes let's test it" the idea that you would decline is so insane to me.
Why does one non painful sore need to be treated?
Anonymous
02/02/2026 21:29
Subject: Can one decline herpes testing?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why would you?!!!!!!!!!
Make it make sense!!!
Because of the emotional and mental stigma and a teen trying to navigate that.
Good lord I fn hate it here. I truly fear for our children growing up in this world
Anonymous
02/02/2026 21:28
Subject: Can one decline herpes testing?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why would you?!!!!!!!!!
Make it make sense!!!
Because of the emotional and mental stigma and a teen trying to navigate that.
But...if she has herpes, she needs to know so she can treat it.
I seriously doubt this is an issue, if it's an ingrown hair the doctor is just going to look at it and call it probably but if they say "hey, that might be herpes let's test it" the idea that you would decline is so insane to me.
Anonymous
02/02/2026 21:28
Subject: Re:Can one decline herpes testing?
Anonymous wrote:Nurse practitioner who works in an STI clinic here – yes, of course she can decline any tests that she doesn’t want done. An experienced set of eyes might look at what she has going on and be able to give her a sense of what it probably is/isn’t. Herpes testing itself is fickle, the swab (best test) has to be done at the right time or you can have a false negative. The blood test just tells you about lifetime exposure to type 1 or 2 (most adults have been exposed to one or the other) and does have a non-trivial false positive rate.
So my question or thought isn’t totally crazy? She could always take anti virals and act on that assumption and not have to get confirmed test?
Anonymous
02/02/2026 21:26
Subject: Can one decline herpes testing?
Anonymous wrote:Why would you?!!!!!!!!!
Make it make sense!!!
Because of the emotional and mental stigma and a teen trying to navigate that.
Anonymous
02/02/2026 21:23
Subject: Can one decline herpes testing?
Why would you?!!!!!!!!!
Make it make sense!!!
Make it make sense!!!