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Anonymous wrote:At least have extra snow gear for the kids, or they could be like I was and have to just rewear the wet clothes. It’s getting wet again anyway. Otherwise, your DH sounds lazy.

Op here. We have high velocity boot and glove dryers plus normally I put coats and pants in the clothes dryer while they’re inside for a break. No need for multiples. Kids could have remembered to do this though, but they aren’t used to snow gear.

I mean they can also just wear wet clothes like 99% of the world does? "High velocity glove dryers" are not a thing most of the kids sledding have. Wet clothes and plates on the table is a pretty normal snow day for most people.

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Anonymous wrote:At least have extra snow gear for the kids, or they could be like I was and have to just rewear the wet clothes. It’s getting wet again anyway. Otherwise, your DH sounds lazy.

Op here. We have high velocity boot and glove dryers plus normally I put coats and pants in the clothes dryer while they’re inside for a break. No need for multiples. Kids could have remembered to do this though, but they aren’t used to snow gear.

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Anonymous wrote:At least have extra snow gear for the kids, or they could be like I was and have to just rewear the wet clothes. It’s getting wet again anyway. Otherwise, your DH sounds lazy.

Op here. We have high velocity boot and glove dryers plus normally I put coats and pants in the clothes dryer while they’re inside for a break. No need for multiples. Kids could have remembered to do this though, but they aren’t used to snow gear.

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Anonymous wrote:This is petty but I just have so much rage against my dh on snow days. He’s normally helpful. Today his work was closed, but I had to telework, kids school was closed.

He acts like a child on snow days. He slept in until 10am, spent 3 hours on the toilet (cumulatively) on his phone, hours on his laptop after, fed the kids “lunch” but left plates everywhere. The puppy needs extra help forcing her to go outside in snow so she repeatedly pooped everywhere indoors. The kids bugged me nonstop for help with their snow gear, waters and snacks. They were all upset their snow gear hadn’t been dried during lunch and was wet when they tried to go back out (he hadn’t put it in the dryer or boot dryer). You can’t believe the mess that is my house right now.

Im sure the kids will be off school all week and I’ll get zero work done and will need to take leave, so this was my only chance. He’ll likely have to drive to work tomorrow and leave me alone. I’m just angry. Friday I took annual leave because the kids school was closed and the house was immaculate when he came home.

Anyone else annoyed? Snow days suck.

There’s a definite communication problem here. I told my DH that I am teleworking so he’s in charge, and that’s it. I go to my office and shit the door, come out at lunch, and then go back in til the day is over.

That being said, he parents differently than I do, and his standards of cleanliness are not the same as mine. But when he’s in charge, he gets to decide everything, and I don’t interfere. Like in the wet gear example, I know my DH would tell them they need to figure out how to play indoors rather than spend time drying snow gear.

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Anonymous wrote:This is petty but I just have so much rage against my dh on snow days. He’s normally helpful. Today his work was closed, but I had to telework, kids school was closed.

He acts like a child on snow days. He slept in until 10am, spent 3 hours on the toilet (cumulatively) on his phone, hours on his laptop after, fed the kids “lunch” but left plates everywhere. The puppy needs extra help forcing her to go outside in snow so she repeatedly pooped everywhere indoors. The kids bugged me nonstop for help with their snow gear, waters and snacks. They were all upset their snow gear hadn’t been dried during lunch and was wet when they tried to go back out (he hadn’t put it in the dryer or boot dryer). You can’t believe the mess that is my house right now.

Im sure the kids will be off school all week and I’ll get zero work done and will need to take leave, so this was my only chance. He’ll likely have to drive to work tomorrow and leave me alone. I’m just angry. Friday I took annual leave because the kids school was closed and the house was immaculate when he came home.

Anyone else annoyed? Snow days suck.

There’s a definite communication problem here. I told my DH that I am teleworking so he’s in charge, and that’s it. I go to my office and shit the door, come out at lunch, and then go back in til the day is over.

That being said, he parents differently than I do, and his standards of cleanliness are not the same as mine. But when he’s in charge, he gets to decide everything, and I don’t interfere. Like in the wet gear example, I know my DH would tell them they need to figure out how to play indoors rather than spend time drying snow gear.

Anonymous wrote:This is petty but I just have so much rage against my dh on snow days. He’s normally helpful. Today his work was closed, but I had to telework, kids school was closed.

He acts like a child on snow days. He slept in until 10am, spent 3 hours on the toilet (cumulatively) on his phone, hours on his laptop after, fed the kids “lunch” but left plates everywhere. The puppy needs extra help forcing her to go outside in snow so she repeatedly pooped everywhere indoors. The kids bugged me nonstop for help with their snow gear, waters and snacks. They were all upset their snow gear hadn’t been dried during lunch and was wet when they tried to go back out (he hadn’t put it in the dryer or boot dryer). You can’t believe the mess that is my house right now.

Im sure the kids will be off school all week and I’ll get zero work done and will need to take leave, so this was my only chance. He’ll likely have to drive to work tomorrow and leave me alone. I’m just angry. Friday I took annual leave because the kids school was closed and the house was immaculate when he came home.

Anyone else annoyed? Snow days suck.

Anonymous wrote:Op here. He’s not usually a manchild but this has happened on snow days past. Or if he has to watch the kids while they’re sick. I had to cook dinner tonight even.

My job has always been our “flexible, kid friendly job” except I somehow became too good at my job, got promoted too much and make like 20k more than dh. So dh still treats my job like it doesn’t matter. His is his dream job and is a high stress job so it always takes priority. I honestly wish I had leaned out a bit and made less money/had an easier job. I lost all telework last year, so I’m trying to be super careful to work hard on the one telework day I have been given. I’m being tracked.

Anyways, dh is usually hardworking at home. I guess we all could have used a snow day.

Anonymous wrote:At least have extra snow gear for the kids, or they could be like I was and have to just rewear the wet clothes. It’s getting wet again anyway. Otherwise, your DH sounds lazy.

Anonymous wrote:This is awful. I would be beyond livid.

Neither of us gets to sleep in unless we’ve mutually determined the other person is in charge. And if you’re in charge of the kids (which, snow day when you’re off and the other parent is working remote, is you all day, by default, OBVIOUSLY) then you’re in charge. Snow gear, lunch cleanup, all of it. And they were bugging you?!? Ugh.

You shouldn’t have to do this BUT: next time, you wake him 10 mins before you start work, go when you’re going to work, shut the door, lock it if you can, and don’t do one damn kid/household tasks until the end of your work day. A kid steps a toe in your room? “Out, mom’s working, go ask dad” and shoo them right out the door. Don’t even hear them out.

And I’d read him the riot act tonight.

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Anonymous wrote:hire the person above

I am actually super-duper organized. I posted my blizzard checklist on another thread.

Good Wife/Mom Points - I hired out the snow shoveling and all the cooking, cleaning, laundry etc was done before the storm hit. We were sorted if we had lost electricity.

Here is the thing - my DH is a very good DH and my kids are good kids. They are motivated and successful in most other parts of their life. I manage for those occasions where their executive functioning skill is not up to par, and I ignore the minor behavior quirks that I don't quite like.