Anonymous
Post 01/26/2026 08:29     Subject: Would you feel bad if your kid was added late to an invitation?
Is there a reason why you want to keep adding people to the guest list? Why don’t you just go with the RSVPs you have and the people you originally invited?
Anonymous
Post 01/26/2026 08:26     Subject: Would you feel bad if your kid was added late to an invitation?
Anonymous wrote:I’m basically wondering if it is better or not to invite my friend and her daughter at the last minute.

Is it better to just not be invited or to know that you were invited late?


If you're worried about this, why not just invite them by email? Don't use the evite.
Anonymous
Post 01/26/2026 08:05     Subject: Would you feel bad if your kid was added late to an invitation?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No if it wasn’t a good friend, but I would take note of it. I would let my kid go if they wanted to. Of course it’s a b list op.


I don’t have to invite the new girl (not in same class) or last class girl. Both those girls are not in my child’s friend group.

My friend’s daughter has many friends who will be at the party and she will definitely hear about it. That friend has invited my daughter to her party that is after my daughter’s birthday.


You waited too late. Your friends knows about the party from her daughter's other friends. She's knows she B list.

And she already invited your daughter to her kid's party that is later.

You look bad here, op. You handled this poorly.


So it is better just to not invite my friend’s daughter?

My friend’s daughter is difficult. The mom acknowledges and knows her daughter is difficult.

My daughter still doesn’t really want to invite her. She just isn’t objecting anymore.
Anonymous
Post 01/26/2026 08:04     Subject: Would you feel bad if your kid was added late to an invitation?
Not OP but I had to reschedule my kid's birthday party due to the storm. I didn't invite kids I knew wouldn't be available (I'd mentioned it/chatted with their parents beforehand). Would it be okay to invite them to the new date.
Anonymous
Post 01/26/2026 08:04     Subject: Would you feel bad if your kid was added late to an invitation?
I wouldn't be offended, but as you can see from other people, some people would be.

Just hide the guest list or send the info by email or text.
Anonymous
Post 01/26/2026 07:59     Subject: Would you feel bad if your kid was added late to an invitation?
It’s a B list. Don’t act like it’s not.
Anonymous
Post 01/26/2026 07:54     Subject: Would you feel bad if your kid was added late to an invitation?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No if it wasn’t a good friend, but I would take note of it. I would let my kid go if they wanted to. Of course it’s a b list op.


I don’t have to invite the new girl (not in same class) or last class girl. Both those girls are not in my child’s friend group.

My friend’s daughter has many friends who will be at the party and she will definitely hear about it. That friend has invited my daughter to her party that is after my daughter’s birthday.


You waited too late. Your friends knows about the party from her daughter's other friends. She's knows she B list.

And she already invited your daughter to her kid's party that is later.

You look bad here, op. You handled this poorly.
Anonymous
Post 01/26/2026 07:42     Subject: Re:Would you feel bad if your kid was added late to an invitation?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t be offended because they’re probably not close friends but it’s a bit tacky and desperate.


+1. Get the guest list correct before it’s sent. Once it’s sent, you’re stuck.


DD wanted to invite someone who was in her class last year. Then there is a new girl. Last girl is daughter of friend of mine who DD did not originally want to invite but I convinced her to.


I tried to invite friend’s daughter and DD didn’t want to invite her. It isn’t like DD wants to invite her now but is no longer objecting to her coming.

Shitty of you to force her to invite your friends kid. Shouldn’t have taken you two WEEKS to send invite to new girl and last year girl.


I actually care less about the new girl or last class girl.

I mostly only care about my mom friend.


Then you should have insisted from the get go. Whatever you decide, I would text these folks with the info separately. How far out is the party?
Anonymous
Post 01/26/2026 07:40     Subject: Would you feel bad if your kid was added late to an invitation?
Nope. I’d just be happy about tbe invite. We’ve been B list invitees before. It’s all good.
Anonymous
Post 01/26/2026 07:40     Subject: Would you feel bad if your kid was added late to an invitation?
Anonymous wrote:No if it wasn’t a good friend, but I would take note of it. I would let my kid go if they wanted to. Of course it’s a b list op.


I don’t have to invite the new girl (not in same class) or last class girl. Both those girls are not in my child’s friend group.

My friend’s daughter has many friends who will be at the party and she will definitely hear about it. That friend has invited my daughter to her party that is after my daughter’s birthday.
Anonymous
Post 01/26/2026 07:38     Subject: Re:Would you feel bad if your kid was added late to an invitation?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t be offended because they’re probably not close friends but it’s a bit tacky and desperate.


+1. Get the guest list correct before it’s sent. Once it’s sent, you’re stuck.


DD wanted to invite someone who was in her class last year. Then there is a new girl. Last girl is daughter of friend of mine who DD did not originally want to invite but I convinced her to.


Shitty of you to force her to invite your friends kid. Shouldn’t have taken you two WEEKS to send invite to new girl and last year girl.


I actually care less about the new girl or last class girl.

I mostly only care about my mom friend.


Then you should have insisted from the get go. Whatever you decide, I would text these folks with the info separately. How far out is the party?
Anonymous
Post 01/26/2026 07:37     Subject: Would you feel bad if your kid was added late to an invitation?
I’m basically wondering if it is better or not to invite my friend and her daughter at the last minute.

Is it better to just not be invited or to know that you were invited late?
Anonymous
Post 01/26/2026 07:36     Subject: Would you feel bad if your kid was added late to an invitation?
No if it wasn’t a good friend, but I would take note of it. I would let my kid go if they wanted to. Of course it’s a b list op.
Anonymous
Post 01/26/2026 07:35     Subject: Re:Would you feel bad if your kid was added late to an invitation?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t be offended because they’re probably not close friends but it’s a bit tacky and desperate.


+1. Get the guest list correct before it’s sent. Once it’s sent, you’re stuck.


DD wanted to invite someone who was in her class last year. Then there is a new girl. Last girl is daughter of friend of mine who DD did not originally want to invite but I convinced her to.


Shitty of you to force her to invite your friends kid. Shouldn’t have taken you two WEEKS to send invite to new girl and last year girl.


I actually care less about the new girl or last class girl.

I mostly only care about my mom friend.
Anonymous
Post 01/26/2026 07:34     Subject: Re:Would you feel bad if your kid was added late to an invitation?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t be offended because they’re probably not close friends but it’s a bit tacky and desperate.


+1. Get the guest list correct before it’s sent. Once it’s sent, you’re stuck.


DD wanted to invite someone who was in her class last year. Then there is a new girl. Last girl is daughter of friend of mine who DD did not originally want to invite but I convinced her to.


Shitty of you to force her to invite your friends kid. Shouldn’t have taken you two WEEKS to send invite to new girl and last year girl.


Question was if you would feel offended. I guess so.

New girl is not in her same class. The daughter of friend is still a classmate. DD and her are not close but I like the mom.

Girls are turning 9.