I don't think it is hyper focusing to put in some effort to look like a better version of yourself, and now that they're making tinted versions of SPF, blush, and lip color it's also skincare.

Also for better or worse, I have found that the world treats me exceptionally well when I put in effort which can be helpful when things go awry, such as at the airport. It's not that the world isn't normally nice, but it's wonderfully helpful when I look better than I do when I'm just lounging happily at home.

How do you know when someone is hyper focused? Do you mean women who look a specific way with plastic surgery, extensions, certain way of dressing, luxury goods...? Because in reality women who look all sorts of ways think about how they look.

I always wear mascara. My mom was very focused on her appearance so I do feel it’s normal to do a little bit. But I’m more of the 5-10 minute grooming routine because honestly who has time? My skin is ok so mascara, eyebrows and hair take up the 10 minutes (mostly hair). Before I started dyeing my hair it was fine natural texture but no longer.

What do you consider high maintenance?

Taking care of yourself and being hyper focused on looks are two different categories.

Anonymous wrote:People who this type of question? Bored or woman hater?

... or just curious and interested in human behavior.

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Anonymous wrote:Many have never dealt with damage from their childhoods, pressure to be beautiful, perfect, pretty.

What is this?

When I spend 5 minutes putting on eyeliner, mascara, blush and lip balm, and running a Dyson Airwrap through my hair a couple times, the world treats me dramatically differently. Working world, neighborhood world, kids school world -- people are more open with me and invite me in to all sorts of situations.

When I don't do these things, people don't engage as much.

I spend 30 minutes on my make up. It's my thing. The great part is that I look great without make up too, but I like a finished face when I leave the house.

Is that jus makeup or hair/dressing too?

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Anonymous wrote:Many have never dealt with damage from their childhoods, pressure to be beautiful, perfect, pretty.

What is this?

When I spend 5 minutes putting on eyeliner, mascara, blush and lip balm, and running a Dyson Airwrap through my hair a couple times, the world treats me dramatically differently. Working world, neighborhood world, kids school world -- people are more open with me and invite me in to all sorts of situations.

When I don't do these things, people don't engage as much.

I spend 30 minutes on my make up. It's my thing. The great part is that I look great without make up too, but I like a finished face when I leave the house.

Anonymous wrote:Women who are hyper focused on their looks, are they self centered or just trying to hide their low self esteem?

Or they just want to look great.

I think "hyper-focused" is the key word here. It's a bit unhealthy and it's pretty obvious when a woman is insecure about her looks to this extent. It's something I notice and show compassion and empathy as a woman myself. But this doesn't happen often as many women I'm around are very comfortable in their skin - with or without makeup.

It's ok to care about your appearance, put on make up, and use the air wrap, get facials, etc.

Beauty and grooming is extremely important especially for women.

Beautiful women don’t need to do grooming, but if you’re fat or ugly it makes a big difference.

People who pretend this doesn’t matter are either genetically blessed or clueless.

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Anonymous wrote:Many have never dealt with damage from their childhoods, pressure to be beautiful, perfect, pretty.

What is this?

When I spend 5 minutes putting on eyeliner, mascara, blush and lip balm, and running a Dyson Airwrap through my hair a couple times, the world treats me dramatically differently. Working world, neighborhood world, kids school world -- people are more open with me and invite me in to all sorts of situations.

When I don't do these things, people don't engage as much.

I honestly haven’t found that 5 minutes of makeup changes how the world engages with me. (I’m makeup neutral so I don’t have strong opinions either way besides do what you want with your own face.)

This. Five minute makeup isn't a thing for me. Nor is running the Airwrap through my hair a couple times.

You're either getting me bare-faced with a ponytail in athleisure (gym, running errands, etc.) or a full face of makeup with a blowout in a great outfit. Not sure what that says about me.

I think I do enough high maintenance things throughout the week (great skincare/haircare, exercise, eating healthy) that I can get away with being low maintenance day to day.

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Anonymous wrote:Many have never dealt with damage from their childhoods, pressure to be beautiful, perfect, pretty.

What is this?

When I spend 5 minutes putting on eyeliner, mascara, blush and lip balm, and running a Dyson Airwrap through my hair a couple times, the world treats me dramatically differently. Working world, neighborhood world, kids school world -- people are more open with me and invite me in to all sorts of situations.

When I don't do these things, people don't engage as much.

I honestly haven’t found that 5 minutes of makeup changes how the world engages with me. (I’m makeup neutral so I don’t have strong opinions either way besides do what you want with your own face.)

My friend won't leave the house without a full face of makeup and a blow out. Her mom used to tell her to always look her best in case she met her future husband.

She's 50 and single so I guess she is following her mom's advice still.

I think sometimes it's just cultural. Did her mom take the same care with appearance? Was she raised going to the salon frequently, getting nails done frequently, etc.? Is she from a family where people dress up regularly for church and family functions, and the women take care with clothes, makeup, and hair?

I think this is really the biggest factor. Women tend to just follow what their moms/sisters/aunts/women in their community did. It's not that deep.