Anonymous wrote:Wow, you all are pretty mean.
But yes, I do mean distaste. She's not interested in something that is centered around Viriginian culture.

Then it sounds like she should go out of state imo

Wow, you all are pretty mean.
But yes, I do mean distaste. She's not interested in something that is centered around Viriginian culture.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like William & Mary could be a good fit for your quiet academic?

+1

Another who thinks W&M would be a better fit.

Not a fit we do not want her here - W&M mom

We pass to the Univ of Richmond

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like William & Mary could be a good fit for your quiet academic?

+1

Another who thinks W&M would be a better fit.

Anonymous wrote:OP here.
It's strange to attack other people's kids, but ok.
To clarify, it's not that she doesn't like to drink or go to parties, she just isn't interested in a place where that would be the majority of what is going on and she couldnt find her own crowd. She's been drinking at pubs for about a year now.

Perhaps you meant to say distasteful instead of disdainful because "Disdainful describes a feeling or expression of contempt, scorn, or superiority toward someone or something deemed unworthy or inferior". Maybe she should apply to go to school in the UK.

Disdain?? lol

OOS. First, she’ll will need to get in. The competition is tougher than someone with her arrogance realizes.

Then she can exercise her disdain. That will totally inspire friendship among peers! Then she can transfer.

People, give OP a break.

And no, I don't think UVA is the best fit if you have other options for this kid. I say this as a UVA parent.

Anonymous wrote:OP here.
It's strange to attack other people's kids, but ok.
To clarify, it's not that she doesn't like to drink or go to parties, she just isn't interested in a place where that would be the majority of what is going on and she couldnt find her own crowd. She's been drinking at pubs for about a year now.

Well, your sophisticated, pub drinking daughter has shown disdain for the Virginians, so what did you expect in return? Are you a troll?

OP here.
It's strange to attack other people's kids, but ok.
To clarify, it's not that she doesn't like to drink or go to parties, she just isn't interested in a place where that would be the majority of what is going on and she couldnt find her own crowd. She's been drinking at pubs for about a year now.

OP, I have a similar girl (except spent teen years in Boston) who is a freshman and isn't happy. She has met a handful of good friends but doesn't fit with the prevailing Southern, monied culture. She's not from NOVA and so didn't come in with that group either.
We keep encouraging her "it's a big school, you'll find your people" but it seems like it's less an issue of finding her people (as she has a few good friends) and more that the university culture at large is not her vibe. She's currently writing transfer apps and we'll see what happens.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like William & Mary could be a good fit for your quiet academic?

+1

She didn't like William and Mary at all when she visited, but couldn't clearly articulate why

If you don't like a Virginian feel and you don't want to be around people who party ever W&M is also not going to be a fit

+1 people will not appreciate the snobbery. 30% of girls are in sororities. You will not make friends acting like you are better than them. A good fit for those who are academically focused but not with an attitude of superiority. Do not come.

As an alum- no.

There are lots of different kinds of kids there —plus, they all grow and change while at school (hopefully!)
My student there has met a lot of great people.
That said, I think you can meet great people at any school…important to remember regardless!

17000+ kids there
30% Greek

But if she decides 30% is the majority, so be it.

Anonymous wrote:My child, specifically. She is the opposite of a sorority girl. Very sophistocated in my personal opinion and has a lot of experiences kids her age haven't (and vice versa, as she grew up outside of the US). She seems to think it would be a big party with very kids who are very "Virginian," which she finds distainful. Doesn't everyone find their tribe?

In my experience, back in the day, the handful of “Residential Colleges” at UVa were a good fit. In my residential college, at least, there was no pressure to participate in any Greek events. I never was interested in the Greek thing. I am an introvert, and studious / academic. There are a wide range of clubs, some just fun and some a bit academic. Maybe look into the International Residential College specifically. It is categorized on their web site as a housing option.

I suspect W&M also would be a good option, but did not go there so cannot offer any specifics.