Anonymous
Post 01/25/2026 08:53     Subject: Putting my foot down?
Just get an inexpensive green pair from Zenni or Payne. She can have a few options at that price point.
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2026 08:43     Subject: Putting my foot down?
Anonymous wrote:So basically, my daughter is into the color green. REALLY into it. Like painted her room green, only wears green clothes, etc. I thought it was kind of strange and childish, especially considering she turns 16 in a few months, but whatever.

However, it recently turned out that she needs to get glasses. She wants to get green tinted lenses. Hubby is totally on board but I said no way! Firstly, that’s very impractical, right? Second of all, I’m fine with her being really into green, but taking it to this extent feels like something that would not have positive social consequences for her, especially because she’s not having the easiest time making friends.

DD and DH are mad at me for refusing to allow the green tinted lenses. I don’t want to cave, but should I?



Are you the Utah phase poster too? Oddly similar…
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2026 07:29     Subject: Putting my foot down?
My dd has colored her hair all sorts of colors and has a unique style of fashion, so I have no problem with a color phase, and we do let her express herself in many ways.

The reason I would hold the line at a special color of glasses is because glasses are EXPENSIVE and my kids wear their frames for multiple years before getting new ones. So if she passes this green phrase and then suddenly wants a new pair or $600 glasses—nope nope nope. Sure she could earn that in 10 weeks of babysitting and pay for it herself , but it’s also a big waste of money for a phase.

Anonymous
Post 01/25/2026 07:20     Subject: Putting my foot down?
I would insist she get a regular pair of glasses without the green tint and then get a copy of her prescription. Then go online and get a second, cheaper pair with the green tint from the most inexpensive place you can find.

Life is short, let her have the green tint but have another pair for the day she is done with green or when they break. My son ended up breaking his and then needed an extra anyway.
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2026 01:34     Subject: Putting my foot down?
I want to know the shade of green she likes. Army green, mint green, Kelly green? Where are we on the green scale?
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2026 00:49     Subject: Putting my foot down?
I would get green frames, not green tinted lenses.

Had a friend's in high school who would only wear pink. She grew out of it.
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2026 00:46     Subject: Putting my foot down?
Dartmouth.

That’s the answer. They will love her.
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2026 23:17     Subject: Re:Putting my foot down?
Well my DD is not that into green but she got green glasses. Regardless, this is a fight I wouldn’t pick. So long as they don’t exceed the budget, who cares.
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2026 20:26     Subject: Putting my foot down?
Ocd
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2026 20:20     Subject: Putting my foot down?
Anonymous wrote:Try to compromise and get green frames but not tint

OP here, I suggested this but she just wouldn’t hear it. She’s dead set on the tint. At this point I am mostly looking for ways to de-escalate the fighting.
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2026 20:17     Subject: Putting my foot down?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I also have a teen daughter (on the spectrum, yours is probably ASD too) who is into green this year. First, I'm relieved my kid moved on from white, because that was a bear to wash!

Second, to your question: what tint are you referring to? If it's the sun protection tint that appears in sunlight, that's perfectly fine, the glasses will stay clear indoors. My DD got her glasses before green became her thing, and she chose a purplish sun protection tint that looks all kinds of cool. If she had gotten green, it wouldn't have bothered me either.

We all wear glasses in the family, and I have difficulty imagining permanently-tinted eyeglasses.

OP here. Um, my daughter is not on the spectrum, not sure why you’d assume that.


Well something is wrong.

Green everything is a compulsion. She needs help.

Not necessarily, she might just be a person with definite opinions on what comlors or for her!

OP here, what??
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2026 20:10     Subject: Putting my foot down?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I also have a teen daughter (on the spectrum, yours is probably ASD too) who is into green this year. First, I'm relieved my kid moved on from white, because that was a bear to wash!

Second, to your question: what tint are you referring to? If it's the sun protection tint that appears in sunlight, that's perfectly fine, the glasses will stay clear indoors. My DD got her glasses before green became her thing, and she chose a purplish sun protection tint that looks all kinds of cool. If she had gotten green, it wouldn't have bothered me either.

We all wear glasses in the family, and I have difficulty imagining permanently-tinted eyeglasses.

OP here. Um, my daughter is not on the spectrum, not sure why you’d assume that.


Well something is wrong.

Green everything is a compulsion. She needs help.

Not necessarily, she might just be a person with definite opinions on what comlors or for her!
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2026 20:08     Subject: Putting my foot down?
I hear ya, OP! My daughter had a purple phase, nothing but purple from sun up to sundown! I got pretty tired of purple and was relieved when she moved on to blue. Your daughter will do the same. Ignore it.
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2026 19:23     Subject: Re:Putting my foot down?
zenni pp again. Not sure if the image will go through, but something like this with tax and shipping will be 35$.
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2026 18:56     Subject: Putting my foot down?
You need to identify what kind of tint you're talking about, permanent or sun protection, otherwise it sounds like you're just drawing an arbitrary line for no reason other than you've had enough with the green, which is neither fair not rational.

Permanent green tint reduces glare, by the way.