Where is the guy who likes to talk about scenario B, having done it?

Both situations are terrible. In fact, all sex outside marriage is wrong

Both are Red flags 🚩
Move on

Secretly sleeping with your fiance's best friend.

B

Think this is a made up story, but B is far worse.

No one cares about A, and clearly spouse is judgemental if they do care - the person didn't choose to marry amy of the 75 other people they slept with. But it does make me wonder, why did they feel the need to lie to the person who is going to be their spouse?

B is horrific - engaged and sleeping with anyone else would be a reason to end it, sleeping with my best friend shows a complete lack of respect by the fiancee and the best friend.

So, B is far worse, but neither is a great foundation for a marriage

Anonymous wrote:A is worse if you are a woman. B is worse for men.

I don’t see the problem with A for either gender or how it makes it worse than B.

Do you want the woman who slept with Pat if you are Kelsi? I don’t think so. I’d rather she slept with 100 men who don’t matter

A is worse if you are a woman. B is worse for men.

A. Makes you a poor choice to partner with
B. Makes you a bad person

B

To he fair, Amy and Bob are a perfect pair for digorce if they get married.

Amy has self-esteem issues or participating in a clinical trail for STDs?

Under reporting your priors is also fraudulent but pales in comparison of cheating twice while engaged.

Anonymous wrote: Both are before marriage.

Partner A undercut the number of partners they slept with by 75.

Partner B slept with Partner A's best friend while they were engaged.

Being engaged isn't a legal or religious contract but still a sincere promise and this is fraud.

Anonymous wrote:A. Lying to your spouse about sleeping with 75 people or:

B. Secretly sleeping with your fiancee's best friend two times?

Imho this is a trashy circle, you are better off quitting it.