Almost every parent of teens feels that way occasionally, I think. It will pass.

Why not just try maybe a little love and caring here? Does your teen have a favorite restaurant they like? Maybe take them there?

What about a gift they would like? Have a heart!

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Anonymous wrote:These posters are being extra hard on you. It’s a tough time with our seniors. Mine is also having the moments of soiling the nest. I know I’m going to miss him like crazy next year and I keep reminding myself of that and taking lots of deep breaths lately. Hang in there, OP.

No. You express yourself in a more mature and balanced way than OP just did. Even when my son was driving me crazy, I never even thought, let alone expressed to DCUM, what OP wrote. If there is a diagnosis involved, then OP should have mentioned this - there are plenty of desperate threads in the Special Needs forum that garner sympathy, because the kid acting out isn't entirely responsible for their own actions. But she doesn't. It gives the impression that this parent doesn't have the required bandwidth to deal with a child, and honestly, that's on the parent.

Shut up, you self righteous twat.

Name calling is always the clearest sign that someone is very confident in their argument.

I’m a NP just reading the thread. Your posts are condescending and not supportive. And yes, self righteous.

Another NP. I agree with you. So condescending and rude, typing out her witless paragraphs and giving herself a high five. Tiresome.

It's called soiling the nest, and normal and healthy. They are doing so that can leave for college, spread their wings and fly.

Yes, it's miserable for all living under the same roof, and, this too shall pass. When they come home from college for Thanksgiving break, all will be well. Don't expect to see them a lot during that time, as they will be out with HS friends. Just set limits (you need to be home for Thabksgiving meal by xx, and you need to be at your sister Larla's birthday lunch by yy.

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Anonymous wrote:Can't stand my teen. I'm counting down the days to graduation so they can get the hell out. So sick of this s**t.

What happened OP? My kid is turning 13 this week. I want the horror stories, so I can be ready…

I may be the anomaly, but I enjoy my kids much more now that they are 15 and 17 than they were at 10-13. It’s not all horror stories!

OP was a troll I fear, so we will not get any context.

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Anonymous wrote:Can't stand my teen. I'm counting down the days to graduation so they can get the hell out. So sick of this s**t.

What happened OP? My kid is turning 13 this week. I want the horror stories, so I can be ready…

I’d also like some context here

OP?

Anonymous wrote:Can't stand my teen. I'm counting down the days to graduation so they can get the hell out. So sick of this s**t.

What happened OP? My kid is turning 13 this week. I want the horror stories, so I can be ready…

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for completing your Parent of the Year application. Upon review, the committee is pleased to announce you as a finalist. 🏆

Criteria met: open contempt, zero self-reflection, and the bold belief that your teen is the problem… not the adult in the room.

Facetious aside: teens can be exhausting, moody, loud, and wildly ungrateful. That part is normal. What’s not normal (or healthy) is broadcasting that you “can’t stand” your own kid and can’t wait for them to disappear.

I feel for your kid. Growing up with a parent who counts down the days until you’re gone leaves marks that don’t magically disappear at graduation. If this is how you feel, it might be time to get support… for you. Your teen already knows they’re hard. They shouldn’t also feel unwanted.

Snark over. Do better.

I’m a teacher. And I’ve always gone with the philosophy that every day is a new day, I greet even the most difficult students with a smile and a “I’m so glad you’re here” even if I wish they were absent sometimes (the hard ones are always there 🤣).

So I’ve taken that tactic with parenting teens as well. It’s their job to push boundaries in order to develop independence—and sometimes that means they lie and sneak and are rude. But if you are openly and frequently angry with them without also showing them love and acceptance, then you’re not a safe place to come back when they aren’t at the height of snark. I’ve had parents tell me their teen is AWFUL because they don’t pick up their wet towels. That’s it?? I would be a miserable teen if my parents were so angry about something like that.

So I won’t give op the benefit of the doubt until she tells us what’s so bad about her teen. I’m with the pp, I really hope you don’t show your teen how much you can’t stand them.

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Anonymous wrote:These posters are being extra hard on you. It’s a tough time with our seniors. Mine is also having the moments of soiling the nest. I know I’m going to miss him like crazy next year and I keep reminding myself of that and taking lots of deep breaths lately. Hang in there, OP.

No. You express yourself in a more mature and balanced way than OP just did. Even when my son was driving me crazy, I never even thought, let alone expressed to DCUM, what OP wrote. If there is a diagnosis involved, then OP should have mentioned this - there are plenty of desperate threads in the Special Needs forum that garner sympathy, because the kid acting out isn't entirely responsible for their own actions. But she doesn't. It gives the impression that this parent doesn't have the required bandwidth to deal with a child, and honestly, that's on the parent.

Shut up, you self righteous twat.

Name calling is always the clearest sign that someone is very confident in their argument.

I’m a NP just reading the thread. Your posts are condescending and not supportive. And yes, self righteous.

I posted the name calling response but none of the others.

Why? You're not bringing anything to this thread, whereas the poster you insulted actually did.

You get the kid you raise.

Your fault, OP.

Kids start testing boundaries from the time they can walk and talk. You need to teach them right from wrong. You also need to meet their needs. Give them love and a sense of security and be consistent.

So, obviously you failed. But, parenting is a life-long task. What do you intend to do and say to your teen so that they can understand the right way to behave?

Anonymous wrote:Teens can be very difficult. I have one hard, and one easy. If I just had the easy one, I would think I was parent of the year on this board.

Hang in there OP and take time for yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:These posters are being extra hard on you. It’s a tough time with our seniors. Mine is also having the moments of soiling the nest. I know I’m going to miss him like crazy next year and I keep reminding myself of that and taking lots of deep breaths lately. Hang in there, OP.

No. You express yourself in a more mature and balanced way than OP just did. Even when my son was driving me crazy, I never even thought, let alone expressed to DCUM, what OP wrote. If there is a diagnosis involved, then OP should have mentioned this - there are plenty of desperate threads in the Special Needs forum that garner sympathy, because the kid acting out isn't entirely responsible for their own actions. But she doesn't. It gives the impression that this parent doesn't have the required bandwidth to deal with a child, and honestly, that's on the parent.

Shut up, you self righteous twat.

Name calling is always the clearest sign that someone is very confident in their argument.

I’m a NP just reading the thread. Your posts are condescending and not supportive. And yes, self righteous.

I posted the name calling response but none of the others.

NP.

Could you maybe try calling a family meeting and just keep calming while negotiating things with your teen? You guys are all on the same side.

I feel the opposite.. so sad to see my baby girl go.