Anonymous
01/20/2026 16:25
Subject: 38 year old woman- what age range to date?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If a man wants kids or even might want kids, he'd be foolish to date a 38 year old. Op, you ought to separate-out the two issues. Know IF you want kids -- and if you do, make it happen solo. That's the priority here. Second issue (separate) is letting a good partner/marriage relationship happen, if it happens
Unless you already have kids?
That’s not entirely true. I met several men when dating in my 40s who were looking for a life partner in the first place. Being a dad was secondary. Men are not as “paternal” as women. Compatibility matters the most for them in all areas. And the men shared they wouldn’t oppose medical technologies or adoption if their partner is too old to have kids naturally
What they did share was negative experience with women in late 30s who rushed them to marry and have kids
This. People WAY overestimate how much men want kids. Most are fine with no kids, step kids, adopted kids, IVF, surrogates, whatever.
Depends on the man. Some men of my generation are driven to be great fathers, and they only want biokids. My brother is like this - he's like a tiger dad, if that is a thing. No way he'd do step kids or no kids, but I'm sure he would've been fine with IVF or surrogates if medically needed. These men are usually married younger because they know they want to be dads. DH, not sure he would've cared. He would've been fine with any of those options.
A woman can safely carry a baby biological to her husband with a donor egg (even a post menopausal woman )
Anonymous
01/20/2026 16:23
Subject: 38 year old woman- what age range to date?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If a man wants kids or even might want kids, he'd be foolish to date a 38 year old. Op, you ought to separate-out the two issues. Know IF you want kids -- and if you do, make it happen solo. That's the priority here. Second issue (separate) is letting a good partner/marriage relationship happen, if it happens
Unless you already have kids?
That’s not entirely true. I met several men when dating in my 40s who were looking for a life partner in the first place. Being a dad was secondary. Men are not as “paternal” as women. Compatibility matters the most for them in all areas. And the men shared they wouldn’t oppose medical technologies or adoption if their partner is too old to have kids naturally
What they did share was negative experience with women in late 30s who rushed them to marry and have kids
This. People WAY overestimate how much men want kids. Most are fine with no kids, step kids, adopted kids, IVF, surrogates, whatever.
Depends on the man. Some men of my generation are driven to be great fathers, and they only want biokids. My brother is like this - he's like a tiger dad, if that is a thing. No way he'd do step kids or no kids, but I'm sure he would've been fine with IVF or surrogates if medically needed. These men are usually married younger because they know they want to be dads. DH, not sure he would've cared. He would've been fine with any of those options.
Anonymous
01/20/2026 16:21
Subject: 38 year old woman- what age range to date?
48 is too old. I'd rather stay single and wait for a match than settle for someone too old, if I were you. 5 years in either direction is a good rule of thumb. Ask your friends to set you up and do interesting things where you could meet people, like co-ed sports, running groups, singles travel experiences, etc.
Anonymous
01/20/2026 16:16
Subject: 38 year old woman- what age range to date?
I’m guessing that you’re not matching with guys in their 30’s because most men prefer to date younger women. A good age range to date would be 35-49, ten years isn’t a huge difference.
Anonymous
01/20/2026 15:40
Subject: 38 year old woman- what age range to date?
For life partner I’d be looking at 33-43. For just fun I’d be looking at similar but maybe a bit lower, 30-40
Anonymous
01/20/2026 15:37
Subject: Re:38 year old woman- what age range to date?
Are you the OP that constantly posts? Recent divorce from cheating husband who refused to make you a mommy?
Anonymous
01/20/2026 13:51
Subject: 38 year old woman- what age range to date?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If a man wants kids or even might want kids, he'd be foolish to date a 38 year old. Op, you ought to separate-out the two issues. Know IF you want kids -- and if you do, make it happen solo. That's the priority here. Second issue (separate) is letting a good partner/marriage relationship happen, if it happens
Unless you already have kids?
That’s not entirely true. I met several men when dating in my 40s who were looking for a life partner in the first place. Being a dad was secondary. Men are not as “paternal” as women. Compatibility matters the most for them in all areas. And the men shared they wouldn’t oppose medical technologies or adoption if their partner is too old to have kids naturally
What they did share was negative experience with women in late 30s who rushed them to marry and have kids
This. People WAY overestimate how much men want kids. Most are fine with no kids, step kids, adopted kids, IVF, surrogates, whatever.
Anonymous
01/20/2026 13:21
Subject: 38 year old woman- what age range to date?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No guy in their late thirties matches with me. I have my filters set to 37-45.
Currently I’m dating a 41 year old and a 48 year old.
Is this the right age range for me? The 48 year old feels too old, tbh.
Can the 48 yo get it up?
If they aren't a drinker...
Anonymous
01/20/2026 13:19
Subject: 38 year old woman- what age range to date?
I have a 31 y.o. male friend who doesn’t want to have children, ever. He said that for serious relationships he considers women up to the age of 40 and for dating casually, even older.
Anonymous
01/20/2026 13:17
Subject: 38 year old woman- what age range to date?
Anonymous wrote:No guy in their late thirties matches with me. I have my filters set to 37-45.
Currently I’m dating a 41 year old and a 48 year old.
Is this the right age range for me? The 48 year old feels too old, tbh.
Can the 48 yo get it up?
Anonymous
01/20/2026 12:42
Subject: 38 year old woman- what age range to date?
Anonymous wrote:No guy in their late thirties matches with me. I have my filters set to 37-45.
Currently I’m dating a 41 year old and a 48 year old.
Is this the right age range for me? The 48 year old feels too old, tbh.
35-45
Anonymous
01/20/2026 12:32
Subject: 38 year old woman- what age range to date?
A 38 year old woman is seen as too much in a hurry. To nail down marriage and children. They are at a disadvantage if the man, yes, wants children, but no one wants to feel rushed. And they will feel rushed.
Anonymous
01/20/2026 12:24
Subject: 38 year old woman- what age range to date?
Aim for 40 to 45 for best results
Anonymous
01/20/2026 12:14
Subject: Re:38 year old woman- what age range to date?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What are your looks ? Work on your exterior so you are the top profile in your age group .
I’m late 40s and men within 5 years of my age certainly match me. But I see my profile is popular (the League for example gives you clicks stats I’m all-star on that app).
I’m thin and pretty/cute…probably a 6.
Try to get unbiased opinions on your profile photos. It has to be both attractive face and the body maybe work on your hair style skincare or makeup . Face needs to be 8-9 by AI ranking programs
What kind of AI programs?
Anonymous
01/20/2026 12:11
Subject: 38 year old woman- what age range to date?
Anonymous wrote:If a man wants kids or even might want kids, he'd be foolish to date a 38 year old. Op, you ought to separate-out the two issues. Know IF you want kids -- and if you do, make it happen solo. That's the priority here. Second issue (separate) is letting a good partner/marriage relationship happen, if it happens
Unless you already have kids?
Have you heard of donor eggs ?