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Anonymous wrote:Consumerism at its worst! I forbid my DH from getting me anything 😁 we’ll have a nice dinner at home and bottle of wine together though.

Stop being a curmudgeon. If you are at a point in your relationship where dinner with your spouse and a glass of wine is a special event and not a “good way to end a Tuesday,” then you REALLY need to go out.

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I have the feeling that they are forbidding him from getting anything because they aren’t going to get anything anyway, and it helps them save face to themselves.

Which is fine. I don't know why you guys are so hung up on doing something for Valentine's Day. It's just one made-up celebration. You can have a very low-key day to mark the occasion, or do nothing at all.

Separately, no one "needs" to get out. Maybe you need to get out, but other people don't. You two need to stop believing that everyone else should live the lives that you lead. Everyone is different, and that's OK.

I’m going to disagree. I think you are a bad parent if you show your kids that married people don’t do anything romantic on Valentine’s Day, and that parents don’t leave the house other than to go to kid’s various events.

If you make being an adult with a family look like a boring slog, your kids aren’t going to want to grow up.

NP. This is one of the dumbest takes I’ve seen on here, and that’s saying something.

If you were saying “parents who never show love or do anything romantic”, ok. But…you’re a bad parent if you don’t celebrate a made-up Hallmark holiday? You sound like a f-ing moron.

Every holiday is made-up. This one part of the culture we all live in.

And I honestly don’t believe that you are regularly romantic with your spouse, but you decided a month ahead of time that you won’t do anything for Valentine’s Day.

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Anonymous wrote:Consumerism at its worst! I forbid my DH from getting me anything 😁 we’ll have a nice dinner at home and bottle of wine together though.

Stop being a curmudgeon. If you are at a point in your relationship where dinner with your spouse and a glass of wine is a special event and not a “good way to end a Tuesday,” then you REALLY need to go out.

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I have the feeling that they are forbidding him from getting anything because they aren’t going to get anything anyway, and it helps them save face to themselves.

Which is fine. I don't know why you guys are so hung up on doing something for Valentine's Day. It's just one made-up celebration. You can have a very low-key day to mark the occasion, or do nothing at all.

Separately, no one "needs" to get out. Maybe you need to get out, but other people don't. You two need to stop believing that everyone else should live the lives that you lead. Everyone is different, and that's OK.

I appreciate it more when my husband thought of me on a random day and bought me 2 slices of my favorite cheesecake from a restaurant that was out of his way than on a day that others state he should buy me overpriced chocolate and flowers. My daughters seen that my husband thought of me on a random day not a day that others say he's supposed to.

But with that said valentines day is also my grandsons birthday so we now celebrate him which outweighs everything else.

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Anonymous wrote:Consumerism at its worst! I forbid my DH from getting me anything 😁 we’ll have a nice dinner at home and bottle of wine together though.

Stop being a curmudgeon. If you are at a point in your relationship where dinner with your spouse and a glass of wine is a special event and not a “good way to end a Tuesday,” then you REALLY need to go out.

+ 1

I have the feeling that they are forbidding him from getting anything because they aren’t going to get anything anyway, and it helps them save face to themselves.

Which is fine. I don't know why you guys are so hung up on doing something for Valentine's Day. It's just one made-up celebration. You can have a very low-key day to mark the occasion, or do nothing at all.

Separately, no one "needs" to get out. Maybe you need to get out, but other people don't. You two need to stop believing that everyone else should live the lives that you lead. Everyone is different, and that's OK.

I’m going to disagree. I think you are a bad parent if you show your kids that married people don’t do anything romantic on Valentine’s Day, and that parents don’t leave the house other than to go to kid’s various events.

If you make being an adult with a family look like a boring slog, your kids aren’t going to want to grow up.

NP. This is one of the dumbest takes I’ve seen on here, and that’s saying something.

If you were saying “parents who never show love or do anything romantic”, ok. But…you’re a bad parent if you don’t celebrate a made-up Hallmark holiday? You sound like a f-ing moron.

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Anonymous wrote:Consumerism at its worst! I forbid my DH from getting me anything 😁 we’ll have a nice dinner at home and bottle of wine together though.

Stop being a curmudgeon. If you are at a point in your relationship where dinner with your spouse and a glass of wine is a special event and not a “good way to end a Tuesday,” then you REALLY need to go out.

+ 1

I have the feeling that they are forbidding him from getting anything because they aren’t going to get anything anyway, and it helps them save face to themselves.

Which is fine. I don't know why you guys are so hung up on doing something for Valentine's Day. It's just one made-up celebration. You can have a very low-key day to mark the occasion, or do nothing at all.

Separately, no one "needs" to get out. Maybe you need to get out, but other people don't. You two need to stop believing that everyone else should live the lives that you lead. Everyone is different, and that's OK.

I’m going to disagree. I think you are a bad parent if you show your kids that married people don’t do anything romantic on Valentine’s Day, and that parents don’t leave the house other than to go to kid’s various events.

If you make being an adult with a family look like a boring slog, your kids aren’t going to want to grow up.

Anonymous wrote:We avoid restaurants on amateur nights.

You could still order some new lingerie.

A few years back, my husband, in a rare instance of taking initiative, declared we shouldn't do gifts for Valentines Day anymore. It stung a little but realistically he's got a real iffy track record with gift giving so it wasn't much of a loss for me. And it took one piece of the mental load away for me, since I actually put thought into the gifts I give him.

I think the PSA should be:

USE YOUR WORDS!

If you want something specific done or given on that day, make it crystal clear.

"Larlo, I want you to buy me X. It looks like this, and you can get it at Y store. Here's the link."

"Larlo, can we try restaurant Z? I'll make the reservation."

Stop waiting around expecting another human to read your mind.

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Anonymous wrote:Consumerism at its worst! I forbid my DH from getting me anything 😁 we’ll have a nice dinner at home and bottle of wine together though.

Stop being a curmudgeon. If you are at a point in your relationship where dinner with your spouse and a glass of wine is a special event and not a “good way to end a Tuesday,” then you REALLY need to go out.

+ 1

I have the feeling that they are forbidding him from getting anything because they aren’t going to get anything anyway, and it helps them save face to themselves.

Which is fine. I don't know why you guys are so hung up on doing something for Valentine's Day. It's just one made-up celebration. You can have a very low-key day to mark the occasion, or do nothing at all.

Separately, no one "needs" to get out. Maybe you need to get out, but other people don't. You two need to stop believing that everyone else should live the lives that you lead. Everyone is different, and that's OK.

We avoid restaurants on amateur nights.

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Anonymous wrote:Consumerism at its worst! I forbid my DH from getting me anything 😁 we’ll have a nice dinner at home and bottle of wine together though.

Stop being a curmudgeon. If you are at a point in your relationship where dinner with your spouse and a glass of wine is a special event and not a “good way to end a Tuesday,” then you REALLY need to go out.

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I have the feeling that they are forbidding him from getting anything because they aren’t going to get anything anyway, and it helps them save face to themselves.

Not that PP, but we don’t do Valentine’s Day like it’s a birthday or anniversary.

We go out to dinner the weekend before or after. No need to fight with other people. Day of is just a few cards and low-key gifts and a nice dinner at home.

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Anonymous wrote:Consumerism at its worst! I forbid my DH from getting me anything 😁 we’ll have a nice dinner at home and bottle of wine together though.

Stop being a curmudgeon. If you are at a point in your relationship where dinner with your spouse and a glass of wine is a special event and not a “good way to end a Tuesday,” then you REALLY need to go out.

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I have the feeling that they are forbidding him from getting anything because they aren’t going to get anything anyway, and it helps them save face to themselves.

Anonymous wrote:Pretty sure I'm getting nothing but it's the way it is.

I have to send my DH a link. Its better than getting nothing.

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Anonymous wrote:Consumerism at its worst! I forbid my DH from getting me anything 😁 we’ll have a nice dinner at home and bottle of wine together though.

Stop being a curmudgeon. If you are at a point in your relationship where dinner with your spouse and a glass of wine is a special event and not a “good way to end a Tuesday,” then you REALLY need to go out.

No it just means they're not alcoholics, and they know and appreciate simple things in life. Which is GOOD, not bad.
It's your priorities that are messed up.

Anonymous wrote:My boyfriend is buying me a very nice bracelet and a trip to Turks & Caicos.

I’m jealous.