Anonymous wrote:Both overreacted.

If she didn’t call the police and press charges she didn’t overreact.

Boyfriend is putting both children at risk. He is an abuser. This is a huge red flag.

Anonymous wrote:People on here calling a swat on the arm abuse and calling a 15 year old girl a crap person are psychotic drama llamas who are probably raising spoiled, entitled monsters. FWIW.

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You guys are nuts. It was a seat on the arm. And no I don’t hit my kids but I also don’t view something like that as “hitting kids”. He was probably reaching again for something she told him not to touch so she smacked his arm away. This seems like regular kid stuff among families.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here.

He’s 4, 5 in a couple weeks.

That does not matter. The boyfriend and the teen are bad news. I’m sorry. Get out while the getting’s good (safe).

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OP here. The kids were playing together at first. Later, my boyfriend’s daughter sat down by herself and my nephew followed her over. She told him no and told me that he kept touching her stuff, so I told him to play with the other kids, which he did.

A few minutes later he came back. That’s when she swatted his arm. He started to cry and reached for me, so I picked him up and comforted him. My SIL came in from another room when she heard him cry and comforted him, and after he had calmed down, she confronted my boyfriend. She didn’t say anything negative about his daughter, but did criticize him.

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Anonymous wrote:People on here calling a swat on the arm abuse and calling a 15 year old girl a crap person are psychotic drama llamas who are probably raising spoiled, entitled monsters. FWIW.

I think it’s parents with toddlers. They won’t understand until their kids are teens. 15 year olds are children.

I was babysitting at 15, as are lots of teens.

If my 7 year old smacked a 4 year old, he'd be in big trouble.

Anonymous wrote:I entirely agree that a little swat on the arm is not the worse thing that happened here. The SIL should know not to automatically jump to defend an annoying little 5 year old, especially if she wasn't supervising him and his brattiness. The boyfriend was entirely out of line by getting angry. These two adults are terrible. Poor teen. Poor little boy. Both raised by awful parents.

You sound like someone who would hit a 4 yr old.

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Anonymous wrote:Your boyfriend and his daughter are crap people. She hit a small child. She didn't tell him to stop, didn't move away, didn't ask a parent to step in, just hit him. And her parent took her out and rewarded that behavior.

I would dump him and apologize to my actual relative.

This. The 15 year old was out of line and your boyfriend was an ass.

Agree. Crappy people.

You are the father!

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like all of you belong on a Jerry Springer episode.

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Is your boyfriend really the daddy

Anonymous wrote:Your boyfriend and his daughter are crap people. She hit a small child. She didn't tell him to stop, didn't move away, didn't ask a parent to step in, just hit him. And her parent took her out and rewarded that behavior.

I would dump him and apologize to my actual relative.

This. 4/5 year olds are annoying to older kids. My kids were always in their older siblings stuff, messing up their rooms, getting into their make up, drawing on their things. I told them not to and gave them consequences, but in the end it was just something they had to grow out of. I get it - she swatted him to get him away. But the fact remains - we don’t teach kids my hitting them! We just don’t. A 15 year old should know this. If my kid did this I would feel like a failure as a parent because it’s a lesson learned before 5, especially if they were never spanked. I never hit my kids and they don’t hit. An appropriate response for the 15 year old is to: leave, get a parent, engage the boy (he just wants attention), talk to the boy - never hit the boy. Also your boyfriend is nuts!! Rewarding awful behavior is just so bad I can’t begin to tell you. I’d leave him simply for rewarding his daughter for hitting a baby.

Anonymous wrote:People on here calling a swat on the arm abuse and calling a 15 year old girl a crap person are psychotic drama llamas who are probably raising spoiled, entitled monsters. FWIW.

I think it’s parents with toddlers. They won’t understand until their kids are teens. 15 year olds are children.

Anonymous wrote:Op here.

He’s 4, 5 in a couple weeks.

That does not matter. The boyfriend and the teen are bad news. I’m sorry. Get out while the getting’s good (safe).

Anonymous wrote:People on here calling a swat on the arm abuse and calling a 15 year old girl a crap person are psychotic drama llamas who are probably raising spoiled, entitled monsters. FWIW.

No, they’re people who realize that 15 year olds are employee as camp counselors and babysitters and if they hit a kid in those contexts, there are police/cps consequences.

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like all of you belong on a Jerry Springer episode.

Sounds like all of you belong on a Jerry Springer episode.