Anonymous
Post 01/18/2026 11:56     Subject: Re:Finally got done with abusive ex-gf
Anonymous wrote:Taking it demanding back the gifts you gave to a woman is abuse


There is probably a lot that happened in past 2+ years that OP is going through or he did that none of us know.
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2026 11:55     Subject: Finally got done with abusive ex-gf
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am 44M and was in a relationship with 43F for about 2.5 years. I have had several relationships in my life and never experienced toxic relationship like this. It was hard to communicate anything with her and any small conflict would turn into her running away from home, threatening to break-up or stay sulking(or silent) treatment for a day. Even after the break-up, she continued to send nasty messages that I am her enemy or punishing her and I stopped engaging with her. Finally, she took her stuff and wanted expensive jewelry that I gifted her. She already has some of it but I told her NO and she can keep what she has but she kept on pushing for more and more. I was firm on my boundaries and she didn't take the rejection well and got very upset and emotionally abusive. This was hurtful and I wonder why people do things like this just to get a little advantage. Sorry, just venting my hurt.



I’m glad that you finally found the man inside you and left her. Don’t ever let a woman abuse you like that. You should always set the tone from the very beginning of a relationship.


This and Op should have ended this a long time ago. Boundaries OP, boundaries.
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2026 11:22     Subject: Finally got done with abusive ex-gf
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Legally, any gifts you gave her belong to her, not you. You cannot take back a gift.


lol! Who says that? People give gifts back when relationship ends all the time. Things are more complicated in relationships and there is no black and white from legal perspective. - a lawyer


Of course she can give back the gift. He can't take back something he's gifted her. It's not marital property because they're not married. It's her property, so it's hers.


Possession is 9/10th of the law.


Why don’t people understand this? It should change the way you think about money, property, accounts and other assets in a relationship or marriage. Legally and morally, he can’t take back a completed gift, but logistically, it’ll probably more to enforce it than the value of the gift itself.
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2026 10:47     Subject: Re:Finally got done with abusive ex-gf
Taking it demanding back the gifts you gave to a woman is abuse
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2026 10:22     Subject: Finally got done with abusive ex-gf
Life happens. Glad you ended things.
Move on now.
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2026 10:20     Subject: Finally got done with abusive ex-gf
Taking back gifts is all I needed to hear. The both of you are trash
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2026 09:42     Subject: Finally got done with abusive ex-gf
Anonymous wrote:I am 44M and was in a relationship with 43F for about 2.5 years. I have had several relationships in my life and never experienced toxic relationship like this. It was hard to communicate anything with her and any small conflict would turn into her running away from home, threatening to break-up or stay sulking(or silent) treatment for a day.

Even after the break-up, she continued to send nasty messages that I am her enemy or punishing her and I stopped engaging with her.

Finally, she took her stuff and wanted expensive jewelry that I gifted her. She already has some of it but I told her NO and she can keep what she has but she kept on pushing for more and more.

I was firm on my boundaries and she didn't take the rejection well and got very upset and emotionally abusive. This was hurtful and I wonder why people do things like this just to get a little advantage. Sorry, just venting my hurt.


So you broke up with someone. Fine.

You claim she is toxic and abusive over 2-3 years. Ok.

Before she came to get her stuff you culled through it and took out any gifts from you to here? Weird and petty. That’s on you.

She called you out and wanted her jewelry back. You said no. You call that a boundary.

And now you’re both fighting about the missing jewelry? And you’re calling that abusive?

You both need to block each other. Cray la vie
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2026 09:07     Subject: Finally got done with abusive ex-gf
Anonymous wrote:I am 44M and was in a relationship with 43F for about 2.5 years. I have had several relationships in my life and never experienced toxic relationship like this. It was hard to communicate anything with her and any small conflict would turn into her running away from home, threatening to break-up or stay sulking(or silent) treatment for a day. Even after the break-up, she continued to send nasty messages that I am her enemy or punishing her and I stopped engaging with her. Finally, she took her stuff and wanted expensive jewelry that I gifted her. She already has some of it but I told her NO and she can keep what she has but she kept on pushing for more and more. I was firm on my boundaries and she didn't take the rejection well and got very upset and emotionally abusive. This was hurtful and I wonder why people do things like this just to get a little advantage. Sorry, just venting my hurt.

About time you ended it. Finally manned up.
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2026 07:52     Subject: Finally got done with abusive ex-gf
Anonymous wrote:I am 44M and was in a relationship with 43F for about 2.5 years. I have had several relationships in my life and never experienced toxic relationship like this. It was hard to communicate anything with her and any small conflict would turn into her running away from home, threatening to break-up or stay sulking(or silent) treatment for a day. Even after the break-up, she continued to send nasty messages that I am her enemy or punishing her and I stopped engaging with her. Finally, she took her stuff and wanted expensive jewelry that I gifted her. She already has some of it but I told her NO and she can keep what she has but she kept on pushing for more and more. I was firm on my boundaries and she didn't take the rejection well and got very upset and emotionally abusive. This was hurtful and I wonder why people do things like this just to get a little advantage. Sorry, just venting my hurt.



I’m glad that you finally found the man inside you and left her. Don’t ever let a woman abuse you like that. You should always set the tone from the very beginning of a relationship.
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2026 21:30     Subject: Finally got done with abusive ex-gf
Well played taking back the gifts! Maybe she will see the next gf wearing them around town.
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2026 21:23     Subject: Finally got done with abusive ex-gf
Anonymous wrote:What's with all the reddit reposts lately?


What do you mean?
Is this also on Reddit?
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2026 21:08     Subject: Finally got done with abusive ex-gf
No ability to resolve conflicts with another person is a huge red flag.
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2026 20:52     Subject: Finally got done with abusive ex-gf
She is mentally unstable. She cannot change it or fix it easily. Why did it take you so long to recognize that she is sick? Why go along with her sickness until you get sick?
And give her all the gifts you bought. They belong to her. How do you not know that.
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2026 20:42     Subject: Finally got done with abusive ex-gf
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Legally, any gifts you gave her belong to her, not you. You cannot take back a gift.


lol! Who says that? People give gifts back when relationship ends all the time. Things are more complicated in relationships and there is no black and white from legal perspective. - a lawyer


Of course she can give back the gift. He can't take back something he's gifted her. It's not marital property because they're not married. It's her property, so it's hers.


Possession is 9/10th of the law.
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2026 20:41     Subject: Finally got done with abusive ex-gf
What's with all the reddit reposts lately?