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Anonymous wrote:How are you supposed to contact them? I feel like if people opt out of the directory then they have to accept or don't want their kids invited.

As someone whose kids aren't listed in the directory due to domestic violence this makes me glad our school community is kinder than you.

Thanks for sharing. I usually assume people opt out of the directory because they don't want to be bothered for whatever reason. I'll try harder in the future to reach out to parents. How might another parent get hold of you? Send a paper invite in your kid's backpack?

Send a paper invite, introduce yourself to me on the playground at a school event and exchange contacts, have your kid ask mine for the phone number, look for my email on other evites . . .

Pp, I am sorry you’re going through this. Doubt many people go through the list to figure out who’s listed and who isn’t and would be remembering this for playgrounds or school events.

Since you’re the one opting out, you need to do this effort: Introduce yourself at playgrounds, or school events, etc. for your kid.

Most, if even realize that a kid is missing from the directory, won’t go beyond sending a paper invite in backpack, or delivering an oral invite that you’d need to follow up on to figure out date / time / location.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow I can’t believe no one thinks it’s worse to invite people so last minute they are clearly “b list”. I would not have added people at the last minute as clearly pity invites.

But they aren’t pity invites as you call them. She was having difficulty finding addresses.

She was having difficulty finding addresses after she decided to invite them as B list.

Anonymous wrote:Wow I can’t believe no one thinks it’s worse to invite people so last minute they are clearly “b list”. I would not have added people at the last minute as clearly pity invites.

But they aren’t pity invites as you call them. She was having difficulty finding addresses.

Anonymous wrote:Wow I can’t believe no one thinks it’s worse to invite people so last minute they are clearly “b list”. I would not have added people at the last minute as clearly pity invites.

Exactly. It's a worse look to invite them a week out.

A week away... invite them, they won't come with such late notice. They will also realize they were an afterthought.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How are you supposed to contact them? I feel like if people opt out of the directory then they have to accept or don't want their kids invited.

As someone whose kids aren't listed in the directory due to domestic violence this makes me glad our school community is kinder than you.

Thanks for sharing. I usually assume people opt out of the directory because they don't want to be bothered for whatever reason. I'll try harder in the future to reach out to parents. How might another parent get hold of you? Send a paper invite in your kid's backpack?

Send a paper invite, introduce yourself to me on the playground at a school event and exchange contacts, have your kid ask mine for the phone number, look for my email on other evites . . .

Why don’t YOU do these things? You’re making a lot of work for other people.

Why don't I send my child a paper invite to someone else's birthday party?

Wow I can’t believe no one thinks it’s worse to invite people so last minute they are clearly “b list”. I would not have added people at the last minute as clearly pity invites.

OP here, thanks all. We’re not allowed to send paper invites to the school. I was able to get a handful of contact info from the class mom and another mom. Just missing one kid’s name now. I’ll figure it out!

Anonymous wrote:5 is too few to not invite, especially for a kid who is new and still wanting to make friends.

Agree. Up to $150 when you are spending so much is not worth economizing.

Send paper invites to school. Most of them probably won't come anyway.

It’s only $150 dollars to add the forgotten children. With short notice they might not be able to go. Better to not hurt feelings because of a mistake.

Anonymous wrote:How are you supposed to contact them? I feel like if people opt out of the directory then they have to accept or don't want their kids invited.

True.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How are you supposed to contact them? I feel like if people opt out of the directory then they have to accept or don't want their kids invited.

As someone whose kids aren't listed in the directory due to domestic violence this makes me glad our school community is kinder than you.

Thanks for sharing. I usually assume people opt out of the directory because they don't want to be bothered for whatever reason. I'll try harder in the future to reach out to parents. How might another parent get hold of you? Send a paper invite in your kid's backpack?

Send a paper invite, introduce yourself to me on the playground at a school event and exchange contacts, have your kid ask mine for the phone number, look for my email on other evites . . .

Why don’t YOU do these things? You’re making a lot of work for other people.

I would invite them, 5 is too few to not feel left out and you are new so its a nice way to meet people.

DDs private school has 2 classrooms; one mom invited all kids in her child's class and the kids in the other class who are part of an activity. The result was whole grade except 6 kids. There were hurt feelings and ppl were talking about it ...

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How are you supposed to contact them? I feel like if people opt out of the directory then they have to accept or don't want their kids invited.

As someone whose kids aren't listed in the directory due to domestic violence this makes me glad our school community is kinder than you.

Thanks for sharing. I usually assume people opt out of the directory because they don't want to be bothered for whatever reason. I'll try harder in the future to reach out to parents. How might another parent get hold of you? Send a paper invite in your kid's backpack?

Send a paper invite, introduce yourself to me on the playground at a school event and exchange contacts, have your kid ask mine for the phone number, look for my email on other evites . . .

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How are you supposed to contact them? I feel like if people opt out of the directory then they have to accept or don't want their kids invited.

As someone whose kids aren't listed in the directory due to domestic violence this makes me glad our school community is kinder than you.

Thanks for sharing. I usually assume people opt out of the directory because they don't want to be bothered for whatever reason. I'll try harder in the future to reach out to parents. How might another parent get hold of you? Send a paper invite in your kid's backpack?