Anonymous
Post 01/15/2026 09:55     Subject: Hideous clothes on daughter
If she doesn't ask for advice, then absolutely not.

If she does ask for advice, still probably no.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2026 09:31     Subject: Hideous clothes on daughter
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No, you don’t intervene. She’s 16 FFS.


This!

Encourage to shop with friends or look at magazines. Make sure she knows that EVERYONE judges a book by its cover when it comes to how people dress. Use an example of people with neck tattoos or all black leather (scary looking people) and morbidly obese people, etc. Then contrast that with people she admires or are well dressed. Talk about dressing for your body.

My daughter was like this and she flipped a 180. She has more time than me to look at clothes and is so well put together and stays in her budget


Magazines?! What year do you thinking is?

My teen DD is actually really interested in fashion, but the clothes she puts on everyday are often a bit bizarre. I’ve thought carefully about what my reaction would have been to my mom trying to steer my clothing choices, and it’s not good. (Honestly, my mom still probably has thoughts about what I wear as a middle aged woman, and I couldn’t care less about her opinion.) So I keep my mouth shut. It’s important for kids to have agency in things, especially when they’re so totally inconsequential.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2026 09:23     Subject: Hideous clothes on daughter
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No, you don’t intervene. She’s 16 FFS.


This!

Encourage to shop with friends or look at magazines. Make sure she knows that EVERYONE judges a book by its cover when it comes to how people dress. Use an example of people with neck tattoos or all black leather (scary looking people) and morbidly obese people, etc. Then contrast that with people she admires or are well dressed. Talk about dressing for your body.

My daughter was like this and she flipped a 180. She has more time than me to look at clothes and is so well put together and stays in her budget
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2026 08:25     Subject: Hideous clothes on daughter
Anonymous wrote:This isn’t the 80s. Kids don’t bully for weird clothes.


What world are you living in?! Here on planet Earth it happens just like in the 80s
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2026 08:23     Subject: Hideous clothes on daughter
Anonymous wrote:No, you don’t intervene. She’s 16 FFS.


This!

Encourage to shop with friends or look at magazines. Make sure she knows that EVERYONE judges a book by its cover when it comes to how people dress. Use an example of people with neck tattoos or all black leather (scary looking people) and morbidly obese people, etc. Then contrast that with people she admires or are well dressed. Talk about dressing for your body.

My daughter was like this and she flipped a 180. She has more time than me to look at clothes and is so well put together and stays in her budget
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2026 08:21     Subject: Hideous clothes on daughter
Anonymous wrote:This isn’t the 80s. Kids don’t bully for weird clothes.


They don't bully other kids, but they do occasionally make comments.
-parent of a teen with very much her own style who gets occasional comments from friends
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2026 08:17     Subject: Hideous clothes on daughter
Leave her alone OP.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2026 07:46     Subject: Hideous clothes on daughter
Anonymous wrote:DD, 16, is in charge of getting her own clothes within a budget. Her clothes have enough coverage but they’re just so ugly! Dresses with weird shapes and colors. Pantsuits with odd proportions. Combining pants and shirts, both with very “bold” patterns. I fear she might get bullied or it might stop her from making friends. Do I intervene?


Do you yell at kids to get off your yard, too?
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2026 07:43     Subject: Hideous clothes on daughter
Anonymous wrote:You're lucky she's not dressing trashy or into way expensive clothing and makeup. Let it be.


I’d prefer expensive to weird (not OP)
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2026 07:17     Subject: Hideous clothes on daughter
Oh the horror! Did she dye her hair pink too?
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2026 06:58     Subject: Hideous clothes on daughter
This isn’t the 80s. Kids don’t bully for weird clothes.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2026 06:47     Subject: Hideous clothes on daughter
Anonymous wrote:OMG. Find the pink hair mom so you two can decompensate together. In all seriousness as long as she’s happy find something nice to say about her outfit and try not to ruin your relationship.


It’s likely the same mom
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2026 05:07     Subject: Hideous clothes on daughter
Let it go.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2026 04:23     Subject: Hideous clothes on daughter
Anonymous wrote:What 16 yr old is buying pantsuits? Does she want to be Hillary Clinton when she grows up?


Uh she probably means those Austin Powers pantsuits kids are into now
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2026 00:36     Subject: Hideous clothes on daughter
Crochet clothing is on trend. So is bright colors, solids, patterns. There’s no set style, there’s something for everyone.

What stores does she shop from? Free People is a good one if she like color.