Anonymous
Post 01/13/2026 08:32     Subject: 60th birthday — what to do
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Not to state the obvious, but I cannot imagine being 60 years old and still having to save for college and for retirement.

You think you have the money to plan these things to fête yourself, but you kind of just said you actually don’t.

When did you even give birth, in your mid-40s?

For someone who is basically considering planning a small wedding for your birthday at your age, shouldn’t you already have healthy 529s for your children in the background?

If you are still “saving for college and retirement” then you don’t actually have the money you want to say you do for stupid stuff like “yay me” parties.


My goodness the judgement! Not everyone has it as easy as you do. Geez! My husband grew up in poverty. We have a special needs son. We are doing great, but not without some hurdles to jump and THAT costs money. so no, i don't have much saved for college. I'm 50 and we try to go on big trips once a year and figure the experience will help my kids. Community College will be fine.


Community college is great! My kids both got their AAs.
Anonymous
Post 01/13/2026 08:30     Subject: 60th birthday — what to do
Anonymous wrote:My 60th birthday is coming up next year and I am trying to figure out how I’d like to mark it.

Could do something fun like host a big party (60-75 guests) in my backyard or at a venue.

Smaller gathering with a few family and friends

Girls’ trip somewhere

DH has also offered a trip to somewhere I’ve never been, in the US or abroad.

I don’t know what I want and I’m not sure how to narrow the choices. I have a summer birthday.

Money is an issue — we have some
Money but not tons to do huge “money is no object” trips and parties. We are saving for college and for retirement.

Fellow 1966 person here! Happy Birthday in advance We are taking a family trip to Iceland next summer to see the solstice. My birthday is in the Fall so probably will just have a dinner out on the day. But I don't like big parties

What did you do? What would you do?

Anonymous
Post 01/13/2026 08:21     Subject: 60th birthday — what to do
Anonymous wrote:Not to state the obvious, but I cannot imagine being 60 years old and still having to save for college and for retirement.

You think you have the money to plan these things to fête yourself, but you kind of just said you actually don’t.

When did you even give birth, in your mid-40s?

For someone who is basically considering planning a small wedding for your birthday at your age, shouldn’t you already have healthy 529s for your children in the background?

If you are still “saving for college and retirement” then you don’t actually have the money you want to say you do for stupid stuff like “yay me” parties.


Not to state the obvious, but I cannot imagine behaving like this.
Anonymous
Post 01/13/2026 08:09     Subject: 60th birthday — what to do
I spent mine at Disney World with my family and BFF.

We grew up near WDW and went all the time so it was like being a kid again.
Anonymous
Post 01/13/2026 08:04     Subject: 60th birthday — what to do
Sounds like you should be saving money for your 60th. Might I kindly suggest having a nice home made meal? Roast chicken, roasted veg, a loaf of home made bread and home made brownies for dessert.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 20:13     Subject: 60th birthday — what to do
I'm going to suggest 3 things, none ridiculously expensive, so you could do all 3:

1. Long weekend away with spouse, sleep in, get naked, build a big fire, and go for long walks in the woods. Get a cabin in Shenandoah for example.

2. Long weekend away with a handful of girlfriends. Double up in hotel rooms, go in the off season - go to Rehobeth in the winter, grab a bottle of wine and head to the hotel hot tub, get pedicures, shop sales in the off season. Hang out with no demands - no driving kids or following up with homework, no "what's for dinner?" Pick a hotel that includes breakfast, do inexpensive lunches, and splurge on 2 decent dinners

3. Host a dinner party for xx couples (however many will fit comfortably at your dining room table). Either cater, or make something easy. Either enjoy and socialize or do a murder mystery, and have people dress up and act the part (we've done this, and I've never laughed so hard - it was a fun evening, just a dinner murder mystery in a box from Amazon, it was set in the 1920s)
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 16:10     Subject: 60th birthday — what to do
I had a friend who did an entire year of celebrating to take the pressure off picking just ONE big thing. So every friend who reached out, she made a plan to see in person over the course of the year. Some were bigger dinners, some smaller lunches. But she tried to celebrate with everyone, but over the course of a year. She also went on a trip with friends (she was divorced, so no H to plan around) that she'd always wanted to do.

Nothing super extravagant, but said yes to more in that year for socializing than she had previously.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 16:06     Subject: 60th birthday — what to do
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I went on a 2 week safari in East Africa and from there went to Brazil to see Eric Clapton in concert.


You went to Brazil to see him? There are so many other more fun things to do while in Brazil.


I'd hazard a guess she did those other fun things too, PP. Are you stupid?
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 16:05     Subject: 60th birthday — what to do
Anonymous wrote:You should go to Koh Samui in Thailand.


And get a sensual massage with a happy ending!
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 16:04     Subject: 60th birthday — what to do
I too have a summer birthday. Any ideas for places in the summer? I had wanted a safari, Egypt, Thailand, but it just seems so HOT in the summer. Even Northern Europe is miserable in the summer.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 16:01     Subject: Re:60th birthday — what to do
I went to Portugal for a week with a girlfriend. I had a girls' trip with a few friends for my 50th, and my husband threw me a very nice dinner party for my 40th. Good luck and enjoy whatever you decide!
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 13:47     Subject: Re:60th birthday — what to do
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My friend is turning 60 and 4 of us are going to Italy, no H's.


Since op said money is an issue, I would prioritize traveling with my husband rather than friends.



That’s cute. You’re not 60 I’m guessing.


?

DH and I are in our 50s.

And I’d much rather go on a fun, romantic trip with my husband than my friends.

Here are a few reasons why:

1. My husband will defer to me OR take charge depending on what I want.

2. He will go out and bring me breakfast in bed.

3. I won’t have to cater to my friends’ preferences or budgets.

4. If anything happens, my husband will take care of it. This provides a sense of security that will allow me to fully relax.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 13:34     Subject: 60th birthday — what to do
You should go to Koh Samui in Thailand.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 12:41     Subject: 60th birthday — what to do
Anonymous wrote:Not to state the obvious, but I cannot imagine being 60 years old and still having to save for college and for retirement.

You think you have the money to plan these things to fête yourself, but you kind of just said you actually don’t.

When did you even give birth, in your mid-40s?

For someone who is basically considering planning a small wedding for your birthday at your age, shouldn’t you already have healthy 529s for your children in the background?

If you are still “saving for college and retirement” then you don’t actually have the money you want to say you do for stupid stuff like “yay me” parties.


My goodness the judgement! Not everyone has it as easy as you do. Geez! My husband grew up in poverty. We have a special needs son. We are doing great, but not without some hurdles to jump and THAT costs money. so no, i don't have much saved for college. I'm 50 and we try to go on big trips once a year and figure the experience will help my kids. Community College will be fine.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 12:39     Subject: Re:60th birthday — what to do
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My friend is turning 60 and 4 of us are going to Italy, no H's.


Since op said money is an issue, I would prioritize traveling with my husband rather than friends.



That’s cute. You’re not 60 I’m guessing.