Anonymous
Post 01/16/2026 23:17     Subject: Leading you on
Dating others, or not wanting to get emotionally involved. Or both.

(PS-I see my BF once a week because he works at night/weekends and I work during the day.
Anonymous
Post 01/16/2026 05:55     Subject: Leading you on
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You are being very irresponsible and immoral if you -don't- know if they are married or not.


Correction. They are being irresponsible and immoral if they are dating while married. OP has no obligation to the fictional spouse of the man she knows casually.


Agree. A decent woman who is conscious of her actions would avoid married men. My mom would be so ashamed if I told her I was dating a married guy. She parented me to be considerate of other people pain.


awwww your mommy would be ashamed. OP has no obligation to the man she just met much less his potential spouse. If he flat out told her he was married and she continues that's one thing. But if he is hiding it and lying that's not on OP. Grow the eff up.

Low moral alert.


Weird take because OP asked this question framing it like she would definitely dump the guy if she found out he was married. There is a difference between morals and using a private investigator to look into all of your potential boy friends.
Anonymous
Post 01/16/2026 02:09     Subject: Re:Leading you on
Maybe.

Or they could just be busy w/work and/or family commitments.

But sounds like they are probably just keeping their options open = just not that into you.

You certainly deserve much much better!
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 21:32     Subject: Leading you on
Might not be married but maybe not into you. Or daring others. How long has this been going on?
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 12:21     Subject: Leading you on
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You are being very irresponsible and immoral if you -don't- know if they are married or not.


Correction. They are being irresponsible and immoral if they are dating while married. OP has no obligation to the fictional spouse of the man she knows casually.


Agree. A decent woman who is conscious of her actions would avoid married men. My mom would be so ashamed if I told her I was dating a married guy. She parented me to be considerate of other people pain.


awwww your mommy would be ashamed. OP has no obligation to the man she just met much less his potential spouse. If he flat out told her he was married and she continues that's one thing. But if he is hiding it and lying that's not on OP. Grow the eff up.

Low moral alert.


You're pretty dumb even by DCUM low standards.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 12:20     Subject: Leading you on
Does it matter?
You aren't getting what you need from this relationship.

You've tried taking about it and he avoids it.

No one here can tell you for sure his reasons.

And knowing really doesn't matter.


Move on. Being single isn't that bad.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 11:50     Subject: Leading you on
Anonymous wrote:Seeing someone who is only available once a week or once every few weeks for a few hours, no longer. Married or seeing someone else right?


Well, the last time I had this conversation with a friend ... turned out the guy was indeed married. When she first got suspicious and asked about this, he told her he was separated and going through a divorce. He was neither.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 11:46     Subject: Leading you on
If last post was referring to one before it, no, this was when I was looking for actual relationship (once a week frequency when starting out.) But agree it's about OP's needs/wants.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 11:45     Subject: Leading you on
Anonymous wrote:Seeing someone who is only available once a week or once every few weeks for a few hours, no longer. Married or seeing someone else right?

Yep. They are committed somewhere, to someone.