Anonymous
Post 01/14/2026 00:22     Subject: how to date if working non-stop
Anonymous wrote:I'm the PP. I was working full time and doing a pretty rigorous MBA program at night. On weekends I mostly saw my friends or studied. I dated one guy and he got resentful about my schedule. I was early 30's at the time. Honestly, op's age doesn't matter. It's just really hard to build something worthwhile with all these demands on her time, and if she drops a ball, it's hard to catch up. Might be easiest to take the dating pressure off.


what are you doing these days? Settled?

Op is also in a different age group because you have less energy in your 40s as you do in 30s. In addition, she is under debt which means taking a break from her job is not feasible. I agree that she should not date or may be she would live alone for a while and then would love it and never want to go back.
Anonymous
Post 01/13/2026 20:48     Subject: how to date if working non-stop
I'm the PP. I was working full time and doing a pretty rigorous MBA program at night. On weekends I mostly saw my friends or studied. I dated one guy and he got resentful about my schedule. I was early 30's at the time. Honestly, op's age doesn't matter. It's just really hard to build something worthwhile with all these demands on her time, and if she drops a ball, it's hard to catch up. Might be easiest to take the dating pressure off.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 22:48     Subject: how to date if working non-stop
Anonymous wrote:Your current situation is probably temporary, and the time will likely fly by. I attended business school while working full time and didn't date much because there just wasn't time. I preferred to keep up with my social circle when I did have free time. It's ok to prioritize other things for short periods and not date.


Were you also working and how long ago was that? I am sure you didn't do it in mid 40s. Timing in life and the enthusiasm matters here too. Op mentioned about being in debt which is not going to solve itself and she would have to constantly work, school and then also take care of her health. If dating gives her some kind of satisfaction then that's ok but with her situation it is unlikely she could date or maintain a relationship.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 21:16     Subject: how to date if working non-stop
Your current situation is probably temporary, and the time will likely fly by. I attended business school while working full time and didn't date much because there just wasn't time. I preferred to keep up with my social circle when I did have free time. It's ok to prioritize other things for short periods and not date.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 18:38     Subject: how to date if working non-stop
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You aren't going to find any quality man with this sort of schedule. If you want a FWB I'm sure men will be banging down the door for you. But for an actual relationship? Wait until you've settled down a bit. Real men who want to be with you will... want to be with you.


You don't think OP is getting older and would have a difficult time finding someone after the nursing school? I don't know if she wants FWB but looking at how she responds, sex is usually the last time since she is looking for companionship and emotional closeness. Whatever it is, you need time to spend on the relationship.

No, why would she? She will have a great career and will settle into a schedule once school is complete. I don't see the issue. Right now she has no time to weed through men. She soon will. I don't understand your post.


People are single and have tons of time have difficulty finding someone reasonable for LTR and you are saying that OP would with her limited time? It takes about 3 years to go through a nursing school and by that time, she would be 47 or so.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 18:37     Subject: how to date if working non-stop
Anonymous wrote:I think dating is quite possible. You need to be clear about your limited time and also be sure you don't waste a lot of precious time on dates with men who won't be a good fit.


It gets very difficult to keep anyone interested if you don't see them often enough. Or you would be talking to 10-15 different people and nothing coming out of it. Better to just find a FWB
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 17:36     Subject: how to date if working non-stop
Maybe not time to be dating.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 17:35     Subject: how to date if working non-stop
Anonymous wrote:Well nursing school was a bad idea. I'd drop that and live your life.


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Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 17:20     Subject: how to date if working non-stop
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You aren't going to find any quality man with this sort of schedule. If you want a FWB I'm sure men will be banging down the door for you. But for an actual relationship? Wait until you've settled down a bit. Real men who want to be with you will... want to be with you.


You don't think OP is getting older and would have a difficult time finding someone after the nursing school? I don't know if she wants FWB but looking at how she responds, sex is usually the last time since she is looking for companionship and emotional closeness. Whatever it is, you need time to spend on the relationship.

No, why would she? She will have a great career and will settle into a schedule once school is complete. I don't see the issue. Right now she has no time to weed through men. She soon will. I don't understand your post.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 16:56     Subject: how to date if working non-stop
I think dating is quite possible. You need to be clear about your limited time and also be sure you don't waste a lot of precious time on dates with men who won't be a good fit.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 16:54     Subject: how to date if working non-stop
Anonymous wrote:You aren't going to find any quality man with this sort of schedule. If you want a FWB I'm sure men will be banging down the door for you. But for an actual relationship? Wait until you've settled down a bit. Real men who want to be with you will... want to be with you.


You don't think OP is getting older and would have a difficult time finding someone after the nursing school? I don't know if she wants FWB but looking at how she responds, sex is usually the last time since she is looking for companionship and emotional closeness. Whatever it is, you need time to spend on the relationship.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 16:52     Subject: how to date if working non-stop
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’m a working single mom with limited time. I just let guys know after a few dates that I want to continue dating, but that my time is limited, I will need them to do most of the heavy lifting in the relationship, and they need to decide if that’s something they can live with. It’s never been a problem for me. Many men want a woman with a life and a career.


How old are you and are you attractive? Do you need them to also support you financially or pay for dates, etc? are they allowed to come over to your house once you know them well?


40. I don’t need financial support, but generally expect men to pay for dates. Yes, of course they come over to my house once I know them well.


So you aren’t looking for a relationship. Just to use men for sex and free meals? As long as you are honest about, you will find men willing to buy you a meal for sex.


Yeah, some men would love honest, NSA fun. They want that too.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 11:24     Subject: how to date if working non-stop
Well nursing school was a bad idea. I'd drop that and live your life.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 11:23     Subject: how to date if working non-stop
You aren't going to find any quality man with this sort of schedule. If you want a FWB I'm sure men will be banging down the door for you. But for an actual relationship? Wait until you've settled down a bit. Real men who want to be with you will... want to be with you.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 11:21     Subject: how to date if working non-stop
Why are you even trying to date? Go out to dinner and a movie with a friend in the rare instance you have time. Start dating when you finish school. You don’t need the distraction of dating right now.